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Good evening

 

i see the snow is falling, Christmas must be near.  
 

that’s always difficult to foretell here where there is snow ever so rarely.

 

Willow

 

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Now my wife wants to wait. She couldn't take my advice about the possibility it could be bad. She was told by a friend of hers it could be dangerous. So she decided that we are not going to Michigan next week.  We are not even going to our oldest sons this weekend. I don't get it. I try and tell her we could get stuck with closed roads or worse. Yet, doesn't listen. But she listens to a friend. I guess that my opinion doesn't matter to her. Now it is happening at home in addition to work.

 

Friday after I get me recertification of my bi-pap machine. We will head to Ft. Collins to try and take care of the inheritance.

 

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Good afternoon everyone,

 

@KymmieLI'm sorry your travel plans were changed. We have a young friend who is attending college in Billings, MT and she was wanting to drive back for Christmas. Looking at the weather forecast, caused several of us safety minded elders to advise her on the need for Winter Survival Gear requirements. This was also followed up with recommendations to resist the urge to drive, stay there and we'll mail you your Christmas gifts. Well just minutes ago she sent out a text saying that she will not be driving anywhere. We're all sad, will miss her, but it's the right decision.

 

@WillowI think everyone enjoys Complimentary Coffee.:coffee:

 

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Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋 

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Good evening friends

 

so nice to gather around the pot of coffee.

 

I had two doctors appointments today.  The first said he didn’t want to see me again.  Unless, of course, something changes dramatically.  ie, I’m in good health as far as he is concerned and don’t require his specialty.

 

The second started with a barium swallow test.  When it was over, they discovered it didn’t save the images so I had to take it a second time.  Turns out my choking spells are because my epiglottis doesn’t close completely when I swallow and opens before all the food has passed which traps food in my throat.  The last appointment was for my quarterly Botox injections to control my throat muscle spasms.  Two more for me next week and one for my wife.

 

@Mmindy I like to take a break after I drink my first morning cup too!

 

Remember to check on your friends.  December is the worst month for depression and suicides, especially for people like us who tend to be alone.

 

hugs. 
 

WILLOW

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Been a great day,had an afternoon date and went great.Twin brother introduced me to a co worker of his 2 weeks ago and has been great.His name is Steven,found out he was very curious dating a transgender woman and he treated me right.Even told him I am a pre op mtf transsexual

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So I guess, at 50... I am in that teenager puberty experimentation phase in transition now that things have settled and I have basically socially trans'ed.

I am going to be clocked, so I am kinda like why not have fun with my presentation a little and feel out the edges a bit.

I am sort of giving up the binary rigidity at the same time pretty much getting used to being misgendered, so I although I still put the same effort into femme presentation, it just doesn't trip me up as much. know who I am.

I also seem to be exploring different relationships with others and finding my own boundaries.

I resent that tendancy for most cis people to put trans people in a corner, either consciously or not, that we will always somehow be less equal or relevant and I don't feel that about myself at all. I have the same emotional needs, desires and fears. I deserve happiness like anyone else, and I cannot let anyone stand in my way.

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Good morning to all.

 

I thought I’d better get this sent since the post office said today was the last day for first class mail.

 

I hope everyone caught in the latest storm to cross the states made it through ok.  I also hope our New England friends are ok and can dig out quickly.  We were fortunate here only some overnight rain when it came through.

 

Regardless of your beliefs, may the holidays bring you and your family and friends peace, love and joy. 
 

hugs to all

 

Willow

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13 hours ago, Willow said:

Remember to check on your friends.  December is the worst month for depression and suicides, especially for people like us who tend to be alone.

Willow, it's good to know that for the most part you physically healthy. 

Two rounds of barium in one doctors visit is terrible. They should have given you free drink gift cards for your favorite establishment after that. However they seam to have figured out you gag reflex.

 

Your reminder about December being the worst for depression and suicides, is so important and easily overlook this time of year. It's important to watch for key phrases on their social media as well. Once you've suspected self harm or worse. Keep them engaged and talking/chatting to give time for that harmful thought or time period to pass.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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22 minutes ago, Mmindy said:

Your reminder about December being the worst for depression and suicides, is so important and easily overlook this time of year. It's important to watch for key phrases on their social media as well. Once you've suspected self harm or worse. Keep them engaged and talking/chatting to give time for that harmful thought or time period to pass.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

Words of wisdom. @Mmindy This time of year can be rough for people. I look at my own situation, both my father in law and brother in law going with in 10 days. Its been rough on wife let alone me.

 

Yesterday was a good day. Va appointment, then breakfast at Denny's, then to the bank in Ft Collins. Show them my BIL death certificate. Oh, my wife only had a copy of her dads. More waiting? come to find out my stepmother in law had already presented an original copy to the bank in MI. So hopefully the gal at the Ft Collins branch can coordinate with the branch in MI and get the documents looked over by the legal dept and my wife can finally get her inheritance.

 

Then to the Harley dealership to drool, I mean do some xmas shopping. Final stop 4wheel parts to drool some more. I mean window shop.

 

It was nice to spend the day with the wife.

 

Hugs,

Kymmie

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13 hours ago, stveee said:

 

So I guess, at 50... I am in that teenager puberty experimentation phase in transition now that things have settled and I have basically socially trans'ed.

I am going to be clocked, so I am kinda like why not have fun with my presentation a little and feel out the edges a bit.

 

Great attitude Stveee, 

 

Once you develop a clock proof mindset, take the high road, and have fun. 
 

“Nobody puts Baby in the corner”-Dirty Dancing 💃🏼 

 

Hugs

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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First for me - I finally have some nice new finger nails. :) Something I could never grow on my own.

 

Big Canadian Hug

JoniSteph

 

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My twin brother and I decided to go out for lunch.It was after I did get my nails done,met up with him.He said the nicest thing to me,said he would rather have a much happier sister in his life than a dead unhappy brother.

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1 hour ago, JoniSteph said:

First for me - I finally have some nice new finger nails. :) Something I could never grow on my own.

 

Big Canadian Hug

JoniSteph

 

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Beautiful nails!

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Felt like it could have snowed here last night.  Well, felt like and reality aren’t the same.  But I was cold during the night.

 

@KymmieL glad you accomplished so many things and did so with your wife.  I too occasionally drool over the motorcycle shops, but then reality sets in.  I also drool over the free sailboat listings or free boats. I saw a couple last night that had me intrigued but reality set in and I stopped looking.  Maybe someday I’ll have a boat again.

 

almost all free boat listings have issues beyond my means to fix but two were quite interesting one was in Jacksonville NC and I have friends there.  The other was in Maine.   The one in Maine was the more interesting one but would need a new deck.  If the ribs are ok, I’d take off the deck cover it with marine plywood and fiberglass.  Not real easy but reliable and not super costly, and dyi.  The one in Jacksonville is a power boat, so with fuel prices such as they are I would not be able to take it out much.  Either would give me a place to live if that became necessary.  
 

Well I guess I’ll just have too see what the future should bring.

 

not  much sense getting too excited about any new projects right now.  
 

Not looking forward to tomorrow and Tuesday.  Tomorrow my wife has to be in Charleston for surgery by 10, and I have to start the dreaded prep for Tuesday’s appointment.

 

such is life as we age.

 

Willow

 

 

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Met up with an ex of mine this morning.She has been good about my transition and even supported me.I admit I took my anger on her a couple times when we dated which I regret to this day.She seen the positive change when I started on the HRT

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I picture my ex-GF coming back with a extreme right wing response if I was to tell her that I was trans.  I'm still quite scared of seeing her again - she was a very angry woman with episodes of violence.

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10 hours ago, Trans22 said:

I picture my ex-GF coming back with a extreme right wing response if I was to tell her that I was trans.  I'm still quite scared of seeing her again - she was a very angry woman with episodes of violence.

 

That sounds scary... but you can always hope she's changed and calmed down some?

 

My GF is still very intense, but I guess her relationship with my husband many years ago was extremely stormy.  I guess she was pretty physical.  They've had a couple of arguments since they married where she screamed and threw a fit, chucking packets of Ramen at him across the kitchen.  He tells me she's so much calmer in her 30's 🤔

I guess I've been fortunate to avoid relationship drama like that...a rare perk of being late to the party and not having a relationship of any kind until age 26.  😔

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2 minutes ago, awkward-yet-sweet said:

not having a relationship of any kind until age 26. 

Beat me by at least 10 years - had to wait until ~37 to be asked out on a date, I've never initiated.

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27 minutes ago, Trans22 said:

Beat me by at least 10 years - had to wait until ~37 to be asked out on a date, I've never initiated.

Sounds kind of like me...I initiated a couple of times, and after rejection I never had the courage to try again.  I'd probably still be single if my GF hadn't found me.  I was out shopping, and she cornered me and wouldn't let me go until we'd swapped numbers.  I still have no idea what she saw in me that she liked.

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Good morning everyone,

 

I would like to thank @KymmieLfor the extra cold temperatures she sent our way. Its 16° F with a high forecast to be only in the high 20°s

 

The coffee is Hot, black and strong, the dress code is survival mode. I'm moving equipment around today so I'll be in and out all day.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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