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1 hour ago, heatherd said:

I was offered to tell my story to a group of transgender kids and teens and said yes.Going to be on Saturday.The bond between the transgender teen I took in and I very tight.We have a guardianship hearing next week and I know she will be staying with me.Knows I love her for who she is and deserves a much better loving parent in her life.Her therapist says she is doing a whole lot better now

 

Hopefully the hearing goes well for the two of you.  So much riding on somebody's opinion...  What kind of venue are you speaking at?

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Hi all. I thought I would check in with an update. The only thing that has changed in my life is that I just got my zero depth vaginoplasty yesterday at Rush University with Dr Schechter. All went well. Recovering well. 

Jamie 💜

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Good morning everyone, 

 

I just started the coffee, and now I’m sitting on the balcony of my hotel, looking South from Daytona Beach, to see if I can watch this morning’s Falcon 9 launch. 🚀 

It’s scheduled to launch around 7:00AM. Once my iPad updates, I’ll also stream it live from YouTube. 
 

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Gooooood morning coffee lovers!

 

Who know what day it is? Not you @KymmieL I know you think it’s Friday.

 

Iiiiiiitttttts hump day!  So go kiss a dromedary.  It’s also second payday, senior stretch day, rainy but warmer day,  can’t see the rocket for the clouds day.  And last but not least, it’s a good day to be with friends day.

 

No I did not get into the booze early nor did I overdose on antidepressants.  It’s just a good day to hear from everyone.

 

@heatherd so happy for you.  Transgender teens need so much to have Allie’s and hear success stories.  So many of them get bullied at school and at home.  It’s really sad to hear about the ones who get kicked out or whose parents are too blind to see their needs.

 

Thank you for doing this.

 

Willow

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1 hour ago, Willow said:

Gooooood morning coffee lovers!

 

Who know what day it is? Not you @KymmieL I know you think it’s Friday.

XXX  EEEEEEEEE. Sorry wrong at least this week. Today is Saturday DUH. LOL.

 

This week off Wed-Thurs one of the other asst has a funeral to go to this weekend. At least I work days Fri-Sat.

 

Good thing that I don't work. We are getting snow, I am just going to watch it out the window.

 

Well our trip to Michigan is set for next month. My wife has booked the flight, hotel and car rental. Not sure how we are getting home though. My wife only got a one way flight. So it will either be a Uhaul or as she says drive the rental home.  Unknown how much stuff she will want to bring back from the family home.

 

On a Happier note, I wish  Davie a HAPPY BIRTHDAY. 🎂

 

@heatherd it is fantastic that you care so much to take a young transgender lady into your home and life. Hope all goes well with the custody hearing. My wife is in the perfect position to do the same thing, with her position as custodian at an alternative High school. However, Her attitude towards us is a down fall. She tolerates me being different but still doesn't understand.

 

SO, Happy Hump day everyone.  Stay safe and warm.

 

Hugs,

 

Kymmie

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6 hours ago, Jamie68 said:

Hi all. I thought I would check in with an update. The only thing that has changed in my life is that I just got my zero depth vaginoplasty yesterday at Rush University with Dr Schechter. All went well. Recovering well. 

Jamie 💜

 

Jamie, congratulations!!:applause:

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Thank you 😊.  It's going really well. Haven't needed any pain meds. Today they let me eat and made 2 laps around the floor walking 🚶‍♀️. I haven't seen the results yet though, still have bandages there. I can barely wait to see. 

Hope you are all well. 

Jamie 

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18 hours ago, awkward-yet-sweet said:

 

Hopefully the hearing goes well for the two of you.  So much riding on somebody's opinion...  What kind of venue are you speaking at?

At a high school,local lgbt group I am in is putting this on

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7 hours ago, KymmieL said:

XXX  EEEEEEEEE. Sorry wrong at least this week. Today is Saturday DUH. LOL.

 

This week off Wed-Thurs one of the other asst has a funeral to go to this weekend. At least I work days Fri-Sat.

 

Good thing that I don't work. We are getting snow, I am just going to watch it out the window.

 

Well our trip to Michigan is set for next month. My wife has booked the flight, hotel and car rental. Not sure how we are getting home though. My wife only got a one way flight. So it will either be a Uhaul or as she says drive the rental home.  Unknown how much stuff she will want to bring back from the family home.

 

On a Happier note, I wish  Davie a HAPPY BIRTHDAY. 🎂

 

@heatherd it is fantastic that you care so much to take a young transgender lady into your home and life. Hope all goes well with the custody hearing. My wife is in the perfect position to do the same thing, with her position as custodian at an alternative High school. However, Her attitude towards us is a down fall. She tolerates me being different but still doesn't understand.

 

SO, Happy Hump day everyone.  Stay safe and warm.

 

Hugs,

 

Kymmie

It is looking good,her bio mom signed her parental rights away.My lawyer found this out and got a copy of the paperwork on it.I went to her school,she is a freshman and met her teachers today.They are proud of me and seen her confidence and self esteem come right back.Same with her high school counselor,said I am what she needs in her life,someone in her life that loves her for she is

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2 hours ago, heatherd said:

I went to her school,she is a freshman and met her teachers today.They are proud of me and seen her confidence and self esteem come right back.Same with her high school counselor,said I am what she needs in her life,someone in her life that loves her for she is

 

I don't know what part of the country you are in, but I am so glad this is working out for y'all.  I wish it was this way everywhere.

I'm a parent myself, and I can't imagine ever turning on of my children away - trans, straight, or whatever.

 

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Good morning 

 

@KymmieL, you are full of surprises aren’t you?  
 

@heatherd can you get some of these teachers to attest to the changes in her attitude?  A friend of mine is fighting over custody and her spouse is trying to play dirty.  A lot of us provided attestations, plus our friend had physical evidence that refuted the claims.  She got everything she asked for and considering the state involved that’s unusual.  Good luck.

 

running out of time but, “I shall return”

 

Willow

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Chair yoga is very low intensity but it does get you moving. I needed that today.  (To get some movement). 
 

i think I’ll skip aqua fitness for now until I get my body more used to activity. 
 

Good idea or bad idea?  I bought (ordered) a 5” Alexa Show today.  I went with that because we already have Alexa set up in the house.  I wanted a clock I can see in the bedroom. I paid less for this than any clock radio and most straight alarm clocks.  I do have a single google station but that’s not plugged in because at the time Alexa did more.  The issue is, which if any will last.  Both Amazon and Google claim to be losing millions annually on Alexa and they are both on the verge of shutting down certain divisions within their programs.  So, no matter which way you go, in a few short years you could be stuck with lots of worthless hardware purchased because it gave you certain security or control whether you were home or away.  Let’s face it Ring, Nest, Honeywell, Rumba and many other electronics have hung their own future on these gadgets and it they go away, then what?  Paid subscription?  Units sold at double or triple the cost to remain economically viable to Amazon or Google?  Seems like maybe Apple is the smartest by staying away.

 

Willow

 

 

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8 hours ago, Willow said:

Good morning 

 

@KymmieL, you are full of surprises aren’t you?  
 

@heatherd can you get some of these teachers to attest to the changes in her attitude?  A friend of mine is fighting over custody and her spouse is trying to play dirty.  A lot of us provided attestations, plus our friend had physical evidence that refuted the claims.  She got everything she asked for and considering the state involved that’s unusual.  Good luck.

 

running out of time but, “I shall return”

 

Willow

In writing,said she was in the dumps at first and has been a big improvement since I took her in.

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TGIF unless you are @KymmieL then it’s “Just another Monday”

 

well, tonight is our Transgender Teens meeting and a separate meeting for parents.  I plan on only attending this meeting going forward and dropping the adult meeting.  I can always go to a meeting if I feel the need, I have three different groups available to me.

 

Willow

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A good day,had my pilates classes that went well and two women in the 2nd class figured me me out.Figured out I am a transsexual and told them I am a pre op.They told me they are too,meeting up tommorrow to know each other

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Good morning everyone, 

 

I just started the coffee, and now I’m sitting on the balcony of my hotel, looking South from Daytona Beach, to see if I can watch this morning’s Falcon 9 launch. 🚀 

It’s scheduled to launch around 7:00AM. Once my iPad updates, I’ll also stream it live from YouTube. 
 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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Good morning, it’s my last morning in Daytona Beach watching the sunrise at high tide. 
 

The post just before this one was supposed to be on the morning of the rocket launch. But I didn’t hit the submit button, and it was saved here. So here’s my current view. 

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17 hours ago, Willow said:

TGIF unless you are @KymmieL then it’s “Just another Monday”

Pretty much correct. Reminds me of a song, I hate Mondays.

 

Got kind of a shocker. but possibly short lived. The boss changed my schedule. I have all day shifts from now till next Sat. Then the following week I am back to closings so as I said short lived. unknown about the following week.

 

Coffee is warm and tasty.

 

Have a great weekend everyone

 

Hugs

Kymmie

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Good morning 

 

Wow! What a meeting with the teens last night.  But let me step back a minute.  A girl went missing and was found dead last weekend In Wilmington.  For once it didn’t take long to identify a suspect and he was arrested here in Myrtle Beach.  There was a vigil for her Friday after work hours In Wilmington.  The person that leads our meeting was asked to speak and he did.  Yes she was one of us.  Anyway, it was obvious he was still not ready for the meeting to start, somewhat disorganized which is not normal so I took the lead and started.  He then talked about the vigil and the death.  We got into a discussion about being careful and not taking up with strangers.  That lead into a pretty good discussion about not knowing how to answer when a cis school mate asks out etc.  Somehow that evolved into a discussion about surgeries.  Sometimes, It doesn’t take much prompting to get these kids talking.  Other times they are just as happy to just have time to be with people just like themselves.

 

@KymmieL happy to hear you are getting a week of days. I was trying to plant the seed for that song. 😀 .

 

Please keep KC in your thoughts and whatever you do, don’t agree to a first date with someone you just friended on Facebook unless it’s meeting them in a busy public place.

 

Be vigilant 

 

Willow

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18 minutes ago, Willow said:

A girl went missing and was found dead last weekend In Wilmington.

I'm sorry.  I hadn't heard about this.  But I don't think we hear about a lot of things.  I expect things will only get worse with all the rhetoric going around.

 

21 minutes ago, Willow said:

 Other times they are just as happy to just have time to be with people just like themselves.

This is why I drive to Asheville for my support group.  Just being with someone else like me is so nice.

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@Ivy Wilmington and Myrtle Beach’s media both covered this but neither mentioned she was a transgender woman.  So you would have had to see this and guess.  It was widely spread throughout the Wilmington transgender groups on Facebook, however, you would have to be a part of that and like so many similar groups these are open only to members and membership requires an introduction to a leader.  Anyway, I’m not surprised you hadn’t heard about Casey or KC as she was better known.

 

I am afraid it’s only going to get worse.  Wilmington had been considered to be LGBTQI friendly, but the numbers killed or beaten has grown dramatically.  Most of the reported deaths in Myrtle Beach have been drug or gang related but it won’t be long.  We all must be aware of our surroundings and locations and stay away from the hate as much as possible.  Let’s face it not very many of us pass 100%.

 

I don’t want to lose any friends so be safe out there

 

hugs

 

Willow

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Boss and I had a talk at work yesterday.He is retiring in June and I plan to take over ownership.So far things look great with this.

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