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Sorry but the fence o meter died. I think it got too cold. Official temp right now is -8 -25wind chill. with a forecast high of 26.

 

This has been a wonderful season (read sarcastic) yesterday 4am was awaken by the fire alarm. Seems that the control board in the furnace fried, literally. Back to the space heater(s) (borrowed a couple more.) we were using one as a fan to push the heat from the buddy heater around. sometime overnight we ran out of propane.

 

To add to that I haven't done any shopping. Haven't had the $$. However I do have one gift for my wife and one for my youngest.

 

Lastly, my wife was able to finally get her inheritance taken care of. Of course she hasn't told me how much. I do know she was able to pay off the Yukon our middle son has been using. She has clammed up to me again. No surprise there.

 

So right now I just want my furnace working. Of course the furnace company has to order the control board.

 

No wonder I hate Christmas.

 

But I still wish all my family here on TP a Merry Christmas.

 

Hugs,

Kymmie

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Met with 4 new friends and they are also pre op mtf transsexual.A woman that works out at the gym I work at told them about me on Tuesday.Welcomed me in and were excited to meet me.Told them my story how I knew I was transgender.One of them has a twin brother too that loves her as a sister.Told her mine is the same way

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I got a little emotional (happy tears) yesterday, after I had a man (my son in law) greet me with a hug for the first time.  It turned out to the first of many such hugs I got yesterday.  I also got many "you look really pretty" like comments from family and friends.  What a truly wonderful day - sure to be big daily entry in my transition journal.

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Good evening

 

according to my wall o meter, the outside temperature has slllooowwwlllyyy dropped all day.  After the sun goes down that should speed up.

 

@KymmieL for many years I too have been very unhappy at the Christmas holiday.  I’ve always thought it was because of issues with my family.  Now, I think maybe it had more to do with not being happy with myself.  Whatever the real reason, I am not as depressed anymore.

 

in many respects this should be my third worst Christmas ever but I don’t feel all that bad.

 

Willow

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2 hours ago, Trans22 said:

I got a little emotional (happy tears) yesterday, after I had a man (my son in law) greet me with a hug for the first time.  It turned out to the first of many such hugs I got yesterday.  I also got many "you look really pretty" like comments from family and friends.  What a truly wonderful day - sure to be big daily entry in my transition journal.

 

So happy to hear that!  It is so nice to hear that family and friends treat someone right.  You deserve those happy tears.

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Good morning everyone,:coffee:

 

The Arctic air is still hanging around here in central Indiana.🥶 It's -1°F the winds are sustained 18mph out of the Northwest, and the windchill is -22°F. Filling my bird feeders is the only reason I have to be outside. Every bird is puffed up to fully insulate themselves against the cold. When they're not feeding they're clinging to the leeward side of the trees, and bird feeders.

 

The coffee is HOT, black, and strong. Later the mulled apple cider aka wassail will have an adult beverage flair to it. I hope everyone is able to see, and feel the love that these holidays are meant to bring. If you are not able to be with family, I hope you've found non-blood family and friends to be with.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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Merry Christmas and happy new year everyone.  
 

today is the coldest day here since I moved here.  Wall o meter says 18.  Nothing compared to many of you especially not @KymmieL  I was once without heat.  I used a kerosene heater placed near my return air and ran the fan to distribute the heat throughout the house. Better than spot heaters and safer too.  But make sure you have a CO detector.  

love to all

 

Willow
 

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Morning all my friends. Temporary fence o meter the official weather station at the airport. About a mile and a half as the crow flies west of us. 25deg forecast for 36. Heat wave time to break out the skirts.

 

So buck up little campers in the east. Warmer weather is coming, maybe? LOL.

 

As for the seasonal love. I feel some but not much. Maybe its just me and my depression talking I don't know. I'll try and feel it more.

 

Hugs,

Kymmie

 

Be back later.

 

 

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Merry Christmas to all.   My grandchildren were opening presents at about 0600 this morning.  Christmas is so much better when surrounded by the excitement of children. 

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I would like to wish every one of you wonderful people a very Happy Holiday Season. May everyone get everything that they wish for. Spending time with family blood or not is the best medicine for whatever ill you. Mat each and ever one have a blessed  and happy New Year.

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I'm afraid that for me it's going to be a Christmas spent by myself.  I never received an invite to the family dinner.  I guess being trans was one step over the line.  I wish it were otherwise since my mother is 95 and this may be her last Christmas.

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55 minutes ago, LaurenA said:

I'm afraid that for me it's going to be a Christmas spent by myself.  I never received an invite to the family dinner.  I guess being trans was one step over the line.  I wish it were otherwise since my mother is 95 and this may be her last Christmas.

That's got to be rough.  Christmas definitely shows who's "in" and who's "out" in a family...and being trans seems to be the easiest way to be out these days.  My sister and I haven't had Christmas with my parents for several years.  My friend is spending Christmas with my family...her family didn't want her around even for the holidays. 

 

Our controversial guest this year is my GF's sister...and her girlfriend...who was her cellmate in prison.  Yep.  While I believe in changing lives and forgiveness and all that, I'm still a bit weirded out.  But my GF adores her sister in spite of what happened between them, and is happy she's able to share the holiday after 3 years away.  I will do my best to be friendly. 

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Merry Christmas, everyone!

Here on the coast of Ecuador, we aren't dealing with the sub zero temperatures like my friends and family back in NC.  In fact, it will be a lovely and sunny 82F today.

Like many, I'm being frozen out of family stuff on my side.   My wife's side is totally ok with everything and chill.   Guess you can't have everything!!

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Merry Christmas, everyone, and extra hugs for those who are feeling isolated.

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Merry Christmas to all that celebrate, 

 

It’s COFFEE TIME, and I’m really on a Grinch. 

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Been healing good since the sexual assault happened.Met up with the prosecutor on Friday and said he will not get involved in any plea deals.Since I am a pre op mtf transsexual,he sees it as a hate crime as well.I see a therapist on Tuesday.It has been one step at a time.

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4 minutes ago, heatherd said:

Been healing good since the sexual assault happened.Met up with the prosecutor on Friday and said he will not get involved in any plea deals.Since I am a pre op mtf transsexual,he sees it as a hate crime as well.I see a therapist on Tuesday.It has been one step at a time.

Good for the prosecutor! And good luck with the therapist.

 

To everyone,

I hope you have a Merry Christmas and a happy and prosperous New Year.

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Merry Christmas to all!  And to all a blessed Christmas morning!

 

Though it may be a sad day to many, make the best of it be with whomever is part of your Day.

 

Sadly, I get not being invited to Christmas.  We haven’t been a part of our daughter’s Christmas for a couple years now.  Our son’s wife has invited us, but that just isn’t possible as we are on the Atlantic and they the Pacific.

 

Enjoy your Christmas with whomever is around you.  Be close to them for they are real.

 

hugs and love to all

 

Willow

 

 

 

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We just had a nice FaceTime with our daughter and granddaughters.  We just happened to catch them at the right time.  Now the girls are headed to their dad’s home.  He lives a few miles away on his parents farm with his other family.

 

our daughter mentioned a hidden present here for us.  That was nice, but now we have a treasure hunt.  Things are improving between us and it isn’t about me, it’s that she gets upset when we are at her house believing that we are too critical.  She is sole support so can’t always keep everything just so.  We try to help her when we are there but she takes that as we don’t approve.  Last time we were there I was in a terrible depression so we got asked to leave and not come back.  I think things are getting better but we aren’t there yet.

 

Willow

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To everyone you are all my friends

 

Rather than miss someone, instead of individually responding or wishing each of you individually, accept that our circle is growing each and every day.  That is one of the many things I feel blessed about with this forum.

 

I read all your posts and you all deserve my care, concern and love 💕 but I can’t always keep up.

 

please know that I am with you all each and everyday.  That I care about your pain and your triumphs.

 

Have a very merry Christmas and a happy new year.

 

your friend in all ways

 

Willow

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We had our "Family Christmas" already.  One Daughter invited me for dinner with her in-laws' family.  But they are a 2 hr+ drive from here.  I'm just staying home with my youngest daughter who has been staying with me lately.

 

 

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Well said @Willow,

 

Merry Christmas, I also think of the people here on Transgender Pulse Forums as extended family, because we do share a common since of being.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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