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2 hours ago, April Marie said:

We've got some errands to run today but nothing exciting. Retirement life at its best.

Retirement is the best, isn't it! :) 

 

Lovely sunny day here, went for a decent walk this morning and smiled and said hello to everyone I came across, mowed the lawns this afternoon, started packing for a weekend away, wasted some time on an ongoing jigsaw puzzle, cooked steaks on the barbecue for dinner, a drink or two, and I don't have to set the alarm for tomorrow!

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Well today is our 38th anniversary. I am hoping everything goes alright. I am having flowers delivered to her at work. Then after she gets off of work we are going out for dinner. Last night she asked me to join her in the shower. Which I happily did.

 

Have a good day all.

 

Hugs,

Kymmie

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Good morning everyone, 

 

It’s a rainy Fall day here in Central Indiana. 
The reduced light because of the thick low clouds allowed me to sleep in. As mentioned by @April Marie& @Mirrabooka retirement is nice and worth the wait. Even though I consider myself semiretired it’s nice not having to set an alarm. This weekend we’re going to attend a casual class reunion back home in Missouri. My wife helped me pick out some new things to wear. Aside from my Southwest silver and turquoise jewelry I’ll be supporting my transgender 🏳️‍⚧️ pin.

 

Hugs, 

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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3 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Well today is our 38th anniversary. I am hoping everything goes alright. I am having flowers delivered to her at work. Then after she gets off of work we are going out for dinner. Last night she asked me to join her in the shower. Which I happily did.

 

Have a good day all.

 

Hugs,

Kymmie

That's great news! 

Congratulations are in order. 😉

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My cardiologist appointment went well. Nothing in my tests scream attention right away. He said, "your won't be visiting me in the hospital this weekend."

 

The discoloration and swelling on my leg was concerning, and he said I have serious veinous deficiency. I told him my GP has been treating it with a low salt diet only. 

He said salt has NOTHING to do with it, and I need surgery to fix it. 

 

Since my GP obviously doesn't understand the problem, he will order the imaging and get me referred to a vascular surgeon himself. 

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3 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Well today is our 38th anniversary.

Happy Anniversary! I hope your celebrations go well and create happy memories!

 

18 minutes ago, Birdie said:

My cardiologist appointment went well.

Good news/bad news... I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with this, Birdie! I hope you get the care and treatment you need ASAP!

 

 

I just finished my first cup of coffee, I think I'm going for round two. Kids are home, no school today or tomorrow, so we get to spend a little time together we wouldn't normally get to have. I still have to work, but it's nice having them home like this every once in a while.

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Well had a -CENSORED- with the flowers. They said the school was closed. So they were dropped off at the house. The wife did like them. Went to a local country place for dinner. Had a great time.

I hope I am reading her right that she wants to say together. while she hasn't came out an said it. other things she has said make me think positive. Makes me feel a lot less stress.

 

So today I was at lunch. My friend came up a stuck a note under my phone. Which was on the table. She gave me her phone number and said call anytime day or night. It seems like I finally found a friend.

 

So today was a good day for me.

 

Hugs, All.

Kymmie

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@KymmieL Hopefully this is good news.  😊  Although, it seems like she goes back and forth on what she wants to do.  Life ends up looking like the stock market - up and down, up and down, never quite knowing how it'll turn out, and hoping you made the right investment.  So, be positive but also be prepared for some bumps ahead even if things are trending upward. 

 

I noticed something odd in my world tonight - my sister was laying in my husband's lap for a bit.  They're good friends and they've worked together for years, but she's a lesbian, and the vibe I got was more romantic than platonic. So, not sure if something is changing?  I know better than to mention anything about it. 

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@KymmieL that is great news about your wife hun. I wish you the best in finding the balance needed in a evolving relationship. 

 

Word of caution as well. I wouldn't leave my number on a note to 'call me anytime' without some romantic connection sprouting. Just saying...🤔

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Good morning, everyone!! I woke up early this morning feeling rested so I just decided to get an early start to the day. The dogs have been walked and fed and are already back asleep....and I've finished my first cup of coffee catching up on what you've all been posting. 🙂

 

I hope everything does work out for you and your wife @KymmieL. Just remember that there are ups and downs in every relationship - not just ones like ours that have gone through a major change. It takes time and patience and we can be our own worst enemies sometimes - at least I know that I can. My wife explained it as the grief of losing the person she thought I was for all these years while still loving the person I am. It takes time and everyone processes it differently. Have patience.

 

No big plans for today - another retirement day. I have some fall yard work to do and an optometrist appointment.

 

Be safe and remember to look for the goodness in this beautiful day we've been given!!

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Good morning all. Up and just made my coffee on my French press. One perk of working as a barista is the free coffee haha! Today is a very special day for me, it marks two years since I came out.

 

To celebrate, I'm having a "birthday" party later with friends. The theme is drag, or at least gender bending. I'm lucky enough to have a group of friends who are especially accepting of who I am, and I will miss that support system dearly when I move.

 

@KymmieL@April MarieI completely agree with the relationships having ups and downs. Even friendships can wax and wane. I never understood the "grieving" stance until recently. My parents would always say they were grieving the loss of their son, and had taken down pictures of me an were, in general, quite depressive about me transitioning. Meanwhile I was living joyously as my true self for the first time...but I understand it now. The person I am now is completely different from who I was. Some underlying themes are the same, but I've definitely grown to be someone different (I'd like to think in a good way).

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18 minutes ago, RaeOfSunshine said:

 Today is a very special day for me, it marks two years since I came out.

 

 The person I am now is completely different from who I was. Some underlying themes are the same, but I've definitely grown to be someone different (I'd like to think in a good way).

Congratulations and Happy Birthday, Rae!!!!

 

My wife looks at me and says she always saw this in me - just didn't know what it was. She always called me beautiful, not handsome. Much of me is the same...but not totally and it's those things that she had to/has to take time to grieve. And, I can't rush the process. 11 months in we are in a wonderful spot together. But, we've had some tough times, too. I am so blessed that she loves me as I am.

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@RaeOfSunshine happy anniversary to coming out even though I think it should be that you are welcoming people into who you really are. 

 

Well today is the termite inspection and looking forward to getting it done so the refinancing can take place.

 

Happy Friday to all!

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Good morning 

 

@Mmindy I love the ghost of coffee meme.

 

@KymmieL I’m happy for you, having found a friend and that you had a great anniversary.  
 

We had a great meeting with the teens.  We moved to a new location or I should say the the Therapists moved their office.  Anyway, it was suggested that they bring in their artwork for a teen show and tell.  Boy did they. God real excited talking about each other’s accomplishments. I had one come to me and wanted to talk.  We talked for quite a while.  She talked about her family and asked about mine and how my wife was towards me. I think she was just needing someone to have a free and open conversation with.  I don’t think she gets that at home and she indicated that our meeting was the only help she was getting.

 

well, I’ve got to get ready for work.  I have the 8-5 shift today and tomorrow it’s 4:45 to 1:15. Monday and Tuesday repeat. Wednesday it’s 6:00 but I’m off Thursday and Friday.

 

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Willow

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11 minutes ago, Willow said:

 

We had a great meeting with the teens.  We moved to a new location or I should say the the Therapists moved their office.  Anyway, it was suggested that they bring in their artwork for a teen show and tell.  Boy did they. God real excited talking about each other’s accomplishments. I had one come to me and wanted to talk.  We talked for quite a while.  She talked about her family and asked about mine and how my wife was towards me. I think she was just needing someone to have a free and open conversation with.  I don’t think she gets that at home and she indicated that our meeting was the only help she was getting.

 

 

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Willow

I love that you are there to help them. We all know how much it helps to just have someone to talk to who accepts us as we are.

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Interesting day shopping. 

Saw my friend Megan bra shopping at Torrid, and said our 'hellos'. 

As I was checking out at the register the SA's were talking about how Megan told them she has a hard time shopping for tops because they don't fit her in the chest. 
They both said, "I wish I had that problem!"
Then one of the SA's looked over it me and said, "Oh, you are probably thinking 'no your don't'", as she looked at my chest. 🤭

Of course I had to have a 'hot flash' whilst shopping there as well, and the SA got a fan out for me. 😬

I picked up a cute top and some pull-on trousers on clearance for $11.00 all together 😉

Ordered a balconette bra for $18.00 on clearance. 

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On 10/20/2023 at 4:34 AM, RaeOfSunshine said:

I never understood the "grieving" stance until recently. My parents would always say they were grieving the loss of their son, and had taken down pictures of me an were, in general, quite depressive about me transitioning. Meanwhile I was living joyously as my true self for the first time...but I understand it now. The person I am now is completely different from who I was. Some underlying themes are the same, but I've definitely grown to be someone different (I'd like to think in a good way).

 

I can identify with this.  When I moved in with my GF and my parents figured out that we weren't "just friends" like we pretended to be, they pretty much disowned me.  They couldn't have acted like I were any more "dead" without having an actual funeral.  When I was assaulted and ended up in the hospital last year, I wondered if I would hear from my parents.  My father had been chief of police in the city, and I know for sure that somebody would have informed him.  I'm clearly dead to them, as I never heard a thing.  I was the daughter they didn't want even when I kept up the straight/cis illusion.   If they knew about the rest of my identity as it is now, there would have been a crowd of village peasants with torches and pitchforks.  Like you, I'd say I'm pretty different from who I used to be.

 

 

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4 minutes ago, awkward-yet-sweet said:

 

When I was assaulted and ended up in the hospital last year, I wondered if I would hear from my parents.  My father had been chief of police in the city, and I know for sure that somebody would have informed him.  I'm clearly dead to them, as I never heard a thing.

 

That's so terrible it sounds like a movie plot. I hope you've found acceptance and love elsewhere, because your parents don't deserve you.

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1 minute ago, MaeBe said:

That's so terrible it sounds like a movie plot. I hope you've found acceptance and love elsewhere, because your parents don't deserve you.

 

Yeah, my parents were something else.  My mother repeatedly told me when I was a teenager that I would probably never marry, and that if I found somebody I'd have to keep the lights off on the wedding night because no guy would actually want my boyish body.  😡 So when I met my GF, I had no idea what a relationship could be like.  She rescued me from my parents, and through her I met my husband and female partners.  I've got my forever family, and after how I grew up I never quite get over the amazement that they actually want me. 

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3 minutes ago, awkward-yet-sweet said:

Yeah, my parents were something else.  My mother repeatedly told me when I was a teenager that I would probably never marry, and that if I found somebody I'd have to keep the lights off on the wedding night because no guy would actually want my boyish body.

Wow, it sounds like she gives Cinderella's step-mother a run for her money in verbal cruelness. It's heartening to hear you found your forever family. I'm sure there's a hole where your biological one should be, but no one deserves that kind of relationship.

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Loving the results of my breast augmentation redone 3 weeks ago.Went up one cup size,a 34D.Had a trachea shave done as well.

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1 hour ago, MaeBe said:

Wow, it sounds like she gives Cinderella's step-mother a run for her money in verbal cruelness. It's heartening to hear you found your forever family. I'm sure there's a hole where your biological one should be, but no one deserves that kind of relationship.

 

Fortunately for me, my sister came with me. So, I still have a biological family member too.  More than some people have, for sure.  I'm pretty sure my parents know where I am and who I'm with - the best revenge is living well and being very obvious about it. 

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5 hours ago, Adrianna Danielle said:

Loving the results of my breast augmentation redone 3 weeks ago.Went up one cup size,a 34D.Had a trachea shave done as well.

Congratulations hun 💋

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5 hours ago, awkward-yet-sweet said:

because no guy would actually want my boyish body.  

Oh wow, I was at the opposite end of that spectrum. I had more curves than most cis-girls in school. My stepmother used to 'blame me' for it. She would say I was disgusting (I had more curves than she did). 

 

Grandma understood me, and helped me. She taught me to sew, knit, cook, cater weddings, and make wedding dresses. I 'secretly' lived a very feminine life until finally coming out. 

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