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49 minutes ago, awkward-yet-sweet said:

 

Its kind of sad, but GF thought that she would die by 30.  She grew up starving and being beaten frequently, and having to steal to keep her little sister alive.  Her back and arms are covered with striped scars from being whipped by her father, shielding her sister with her own body.  And even outside that home, the city where she and my husband grew up was a violent place.  His situation was better, but I suspect they were both pretty crazy when they were younger. 

 

My husband told me that his high school graduating class was 500-something.  It had been nearly 1,000 but so many kids dropped out.  If you made it to graduation, you could leave the area or get involved in local crime....either ending up in prison or dead.  Lots of kids joined the Army just to get away, figuring that Iraq was actually safer.  🙄

 

Yes, this was America, not some third-world nation.  I guess there's some areas of the USA that are true hellholes.  I grew up somewhat sheltered, so I can't imagine growing up with a life that grim.  I try to understand GF, but I know I can't really get inside her head.  Sometimes I think she's aggressive and vigorous just to avoid whatever is in the back of her mind.  She doesn't relax much, except at night when she lays next to me.  

 

 

Sounds exciting!  I hope it goes well for you!

It is and he has dinner reservations set and going to an art gallery after that.Good thing is I am glad he did not reject me and will not treat me like a sex object at all

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Good morning 

 

@awkward-yet-sweet you didn’t need to grow up poor or in a bad family to need to get away.

 

by most standards, my parents should have been my grandparents, my father was 5G when I was born. He never did much with me and if he couldn’t fix it with money he didn’t bother.    My mother was 40 but that was still old to have a baby back then.  I was sick a lot.  Weak compared to others my age.  Mostly mentally abused, not physically but still abused.  I could never get any praise. Got a lot of static about my first year of college. I dropped out and joined the Air Force.  This was at the heights of Vietnam.  Girls joined to get away from abuse with the hope of learning a skill they could use to support themselves when they got out.  Sorry to say a lot of their abuse continued in the service back then.

 

nothing has changed and I doubt it ever will.

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25 minutes ago, Willow said:

Good morning 

 

@awkward-yet-sweet you didn’t need to grow up poor or in a bad family to need to get away.

 

by most standards, my parents should have been my grandparents, my father was 5G when I was born. He never did much with me and if he couldn’t fix it with money he didn’t bother.    My mother was 40 but that was still old to have a baby back then.  I was sick a lot.  Weak compared to others my age.  Mostly mentally abused, not physically but still abused.  I could never get any praise. Got a lot of static about my first year of college. I dropped out and joined the Air Force.  This was at the heights of Vietnam.  Girls joined to get away from abuse with the hope of learning a skill they could use to support themselves when they got out.  Sorry to say a lot of their abuse continued in the service back then.

 

nothing has changed and I doubt it ever will.

I think all of us have a lot of stuff that accumulates over the decades. Whether parents were old or young, being poor has created big barriers for our folks to engage with us when we were growing up. I can sense a lot of hurt in your words Willow. My folks were much younger, and I was fortunate that my folks gave me a lot of support. I still got yelled at, and still got some beatings now and again. I was still to scared to ever tell my folks that I was trans back then. Years later, my mother said to me, "I know more than you think I know."

 

I was floored. I think back to the how hard they worked for so little. Yet, I know a lot of others had to face much worse. I hope that you and your wife are doing okay. How is she recuperating? 

 

 

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17 hours ago, Ashley0616 said:

Well I received good news! Tomorrow I heard of a cancellation so I get to have laser hair removal at 145 and the best part is that the person I'm getting it done by is also Ashley! I'm EXCITED! I wished it was electrolysis but I guess I'll get that later when I need it. 

Good luck with the laser! I remember my first session. I had this salt and pepper stuff, and it was unclear that it would work. After a couple of sessions, I had to switch to electrolysis. Over 220 hours, and I am coming close to the end. Hair removal, no matter the method, is not what I would call fun, but is sure gratifying when you cannot see any hair and you feel smooth soft skin on your face.

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Good morning everyone,

 

It's March 1st, 2024 we're in the last month of the first quarter. I don't mean to make it sound like the year is flying by, but I can't wait until April 8th, 2024 for the Total Eclipse to pass across the USA. This will be my second time being in the path of totality, and as a sky watcher to say excited is an understatement. I'm preparing my back yard to me a viewing laboratory for my grandchildren and neighbors to safely watch and experience the event. This is going to take several hours to watch with the totality only lasting 3.25 minutes where I live. 

 

Hugs, and I hope you find something to be excited about.

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋   

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It's afternoon now but it was quite the active morning, only water this morning

 

So, I had a check-up scheduled today (along with my four-year-old sister). I have a little cold right now, so waking up was a struggle. After that, little sister took twenty minutes to eat a granola bar, so we took a while to get out the door. When we did get out the door, things started going smoothly...

 

...until my mom hit a deer in the road. Everyone's safe and everything and there was minimal damage to the car, but still, it was certainly a wake-up call at 7:30 in the morning. 

 

Then, as soon as I got back into school from the check-up (nothing much happened at the doctor, all good) I got a nosebleed. Literally within ten minutes of entering the building. 

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12 hours ago, awkward-yet-sweet said:

 

Its kind of sad, but GF thought that she would die by 30.  She grew up starving and being beaten frequently, and having to steal to keep her little sister alive.  Her back and arms are covered with striped scars from being whipped by her father, shielding her sister with her own body.  And even outside that home, the city where she and my husband grew up was a violent place.  His situation was better, but I suspect they were both pretty crazy when they were younger. 

 

My husband told me that his high school graduating class was 500-something.  It had been nearly 1,000 but so many kids dropped out.  If you made it to graduation, you could leave the area or get involved in local crime....either ending up in prison or dead.  Lots of kids joined the Army just to get away, figuring that Iraq was actually safer.  🙄

 

Yes, this was America, not some third-world nation.  I guess there's some areas of the USA that are true hellholes.  I grew up somewhat sheltered, so I can't imagine growing up with a life that grim.  I try to understand GF, but I know I can't really get inside her head.  Sometimes I think she's aggressive and vigorous just to avoid whatever is in the back of her mind.  She doesn't relax much, except at night when she lays next to me.  

 

 

Sounds exciting!  I hope it goes well for you!

Yikes! That's horrible!

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My best friend passed away this morning after losing a fight against lymphoma and CHF. 😢

 

He used to come see me every month before he became ill. He will be greatly missed. Life as so short, he was just a few years older than me. 

 

May his memory be a blessing. 🕯️

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31 minutes ago, Birdie said:

My best friend passed away this morning after losing a fight against lymphoma and CHF. 😢

 

He used to come see me every month before he became ill. He will be greatly missed. Life as so short, he was just a few years older than me. 

 

May his memory be a blessing. 🕯️

I'm sorry. I lost a cousin today too. I guess it wasn't a good day. I also found out that the VA didn't code my laser hair removal done. They only do laser not electrolysis which is what the VA does cover. I didn't shave for two days so my hair would be long enough. Oh well I guess definitely not as bad as losing a family member. Today has just not been good!

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Been getting ready for my date,get picked up at 6:30.Got home and took a shower,dressed up and did everything else too.He is going to love seeing me in the LBD and black 4 inch heels I am wearing

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37 minutes ago, Adrianna Danielle said:

Been getting ready for my date,get picked up at 6:30.Got home and took a shower,dressed up and did everything else too.He is going to love seeing me in the LBD and black 4 inch heels I am wearing

Please be safe. Take care but most importantly have fun.

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Well this time the guy I was talking to was way too pushy and acting crazy. He kept refereeing to me as my husband? He kept asking for personal information. He actually asked for my driver's license! I kept telling him to slow down that we aren't even boyfriend and girlfriend yet. I wanted to get to know him first. What a freaking JERK! Finally someone who isn't grossed out by what I am but turns out to be crazy! Am I meant to be alone? I really don't want to be. I'm not even picky it could be a guy or a girl. If I could have my preference it would be an FTM so we could help each other out not only in the relationship but also how we naturally handle things. I don't know everything about women and they don't know everything about men. Why couldn't he just be happy as friends? Was he also fake just trying to get my information like everyone else has been fake with me? I'm getting exhausted and physically and mentally. I guess I'll just do me. 

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4 hours ago, Birdie said:

My best friend passed away this morning after losing a fight against lymphoma and CHF.

I’m sorry for your loss. 
 

Hugs

 

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2 hours ago, Ashley0616 said:

Please be safe. Take care but most importantly have fun.

Had fun and he was great to me treating me right.Loved the LBD I was wearing.I am much happier including him.Said he has found the right transgender woman in his life,me.

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34 minutes ago, Lydia_R said:

Lovely Adrianna!

It is and planning to be with me when I have my checkup with my hrt specialist.We plan on watching Boy Meets Girl together,one is transgender

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Good morning

 

so much happened since my last visit and that was just yesterday.  Back to 4am today, off tomorrow my schedule bounces around all week but Friday morning I leave for my weekend of Lay ministry school. 
 

let’s see, guy who wanted to see your DL, run away and block that one.  Doesn’t sound right to me.

Sorry for your losses this week.  Always sad to loos a good friend they are so hard to come by, and same is true with cousins, although I never knew any of mine.  
 

One thing I don’t have and never will is a LBD. Too old to do one any justice.  Besides where does one hide the 45?  
 

Don’t meet a stranger without one!

 

well gotta try to walk the dog.  It’s raining but not cold.  
 

and don’t take everything I say to heart.  Sometimes my sense of humor is a lot worse than I realize.  LOL

 

Willow

 

 

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It's so hard to keep up with all the goings on when you don't visit here for a while!

 

@Birdie, my condolences. Losing someone is never easy, but more so if they are taken before time. 

 

@Ashley0616, I'm also sorry for your loss. My Cousin Count presently sits at 13 survivors from 17 born. It's scary, especially considering that I'm one of the older ones! I also sincerely hope that someday you get out of that darn dating revolving door too!

 

Just to prove that as one door closes another one opens, my wife and I became grandparents again today! A yet un-named girl born to my son and daughter in law, a couple of weeks early, but otherwise in perfect health. It's Girl City in my family; I have one son and two daughters, one daughter in law, and now two granddaughters. Oh, and a wife and a mother!

 

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22 minutes ago, Mirrabooka said:

 

@Birdie, my condolences. Losing someone is never easy, but more so if they are taken before time. 

 

Just to prove that as one door closes another one opens, my wife and I became grandparents again today! 

 

Thanks my friends for the thoughts, all off you. 💞

 

@Mirrabooka, Wow! Congratulations!

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10 hours ago, Adrianna Danielle said:

Had fun and he was great to me treating me right.Loved the LBD I was wearing.I am much happier including him.Said he has found the right transgender woman in his life,me.

That's fantastic! I'm glad y'all had fun. Hopefully many more to follow!

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12 hours ago, Adrianna Danielle said:

We plan on watching Boy Meets Girl together,

I love that flick.

 

Girl city here as well.  6 daughters, 6 granddaughters (one more on the way).  There are 2 sons though (with associated DILs), and 1 grandson.  My ex, of course - and then myself.  

I finally gave up and faced the inevitable.

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10 minutes ago, Ivy said:

I love that flick.

 

Girl city here as well.  6 daughters, 6 granddaughters (one more on the way).  There are 2 sons though (with associated DILs), and 1 grandson.  My ex, of course - and then myself.  

I finally gave up and faced the inevitable.

 

10 minutes ago, Ivy said:

I love that flick.

 

Girl city here as well.  6 daughters, 6 granddaughters (one more on the way).  There are 2 sons though (with associated DILs), and 1 grandson.  My ex, of course - and then myself.  

I finally gave up and faced the inevitable.

IT is this that came out in 2014

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boy_Meets_Girl_(2014_film)

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@Ivy I always love your responses to other’s comments.

 

Good morning everyone,

 

We’re spending the weekend with our daughter’s family, because it’s her oldest son’s birthday, aka our grandson. The cool thing is she shares my dedication to coffee. Hot, black and strong.

 

Happy Saturday 

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

 

 

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14 hours ago, Adrianna Danielle said:

It is and planning to be with me when I have my checkup with my hrt specialist.We plan on watching Boy Meets Girl together,one is transgender

Where can I watch it at please?

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