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The time I spent "on the street" was mostly in the woods.  I dislike cities.  Even now my "bathroom" is out in the back yard, and has been for years.  When you're used to it, it's not so bad.  Helps one keep up with the seasons.

I have no desire to live on the street in a city.

Most of my adult kids live in cities.  It's nice enough for a visit, but I still prefer the country.

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On 5/18/2024 at 5:53 AM, MirandaB said:

Good morning!


Finally got my ears pierced, so up even earlier worrying about how I slept on them last night. 

What? Yay!! I step away for a few days and this happens! I’m so happy for you. 

That’s going to be my birthday present to myself this July.

I. Can’t. Wait!!



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Good morning! Just finishing my delayed coffee after fasting for routine bloodwork.

Just had my annual physical and I came out to my Dr. He was so kind and said if/when I want to start HRT they have a couple endocrinologists who specialize in transition and he could give me a referral. So nice! Not quite ready to jump into that yet, but he was so understanding. Another small step in my social transition. I feel so happy! 😊

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16 hours ago, Adrianna Danielle said:

Also finding out I might be father of a 24 year young lady.

Wow! Hopefully that encounter is amicable! I can only imagine what might be going through your mind right now!


28 minutes ago, Ivy said:

Guess I'm a girl with a past.

I was a bit of a prude, I don't even need a whole hand of fingers to count my sexual partners on. Good old fear-based Catholic "sex ed" did its number on me.


1 hour ago, Birdie said:

I most definitely don't fit in the men's room.

I get nervous walking into men's rooms. I don't look the part for the either restroom these days, I guess. I did use the women's at the convention I volunteered at (the restrooms were temporarily made gender free though), it was nice having a stall to use without waiting.


The whole bathroom debate is so stupid. Genital-based restroom assignments aren't going to stop people intending abuse and there are laws for handling them already. It's the fear the laws strike and the conditions they creates is the problem, fomenting distrust and hate. Who cares who is in the stall next to you? Let them pee in peace!

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4 hours ago, Mmindy said:



Cool pic!

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Just now, Justine76 said:

Cool pic!

Thank you, I find them on a FaceBook Coffee page I follow.

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1 hour ago, MaeBe said:

I was a bit of a prude, I don't even need a whole hand of fingers to count my sexual partners on.


I don't even need half a hand to count mine.  A combination of Protestant prudery, total lack of sex education, and my being the wrong gender.  And, it turns out, asexual, though that may be a product of the other factors.

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2 hours ago, MaeBe said:

Wow! Hopefully that encounter is amicable! I can only imagine what might be going through your mind right now!


Going to have a paternity test done tommorrow.Having someone come up and get a sample from me.I remember having unprotected sex with her.Her daughter,she seen a picture of me going to adjust well her supposed dad is now a woman

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Its after midnight, so... good morning?


Looks like no traveling for me this week.  Some of the expected orders from Houston never materialized, so there are fewer shipments going out.  Instead of having to help out with transport, my husband gets to stay home.  Not that I'll miss Texas, but I was looking forward to some road time.  Oh well. 

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Frustrating day yesterday.....


It seems the centre had used the "lack of enough prep time", and "you must get a full shower to be able to attend" to basically get their way. It is what it is, because I basically have no defence.


I did mention that female participants are scheduled with enough time for their hair and makeup, but their response was of course, "you are not female."


I can either abide by the rules or leave the program. 


I did file a complaint yesterday about years of excruciating pain I endured in my leg that their doctor accused me of "inventing" because I "didn't have anything wrong with it."

And how after vascular surgery the horrible pain has finally departed. 

How it is absolutely absurd that medical professionals can minimise someone's pain like it doesn't exist. 


Their reply, "well, at least your were finally seen by a specialist and taken care of."


The meeting did not go well!


So starting today I have two options. Either cut my hair off or wear it in a ponytail. I shall go with the ponytail. I will also let my hair grow until it reaches my hips, and I told them that as well. As long as it's in a ponytail at will be acceptable. 

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G'morning! Green tea for my morning beverage. My mom made me eat breakfast so I could take a pill... and now I feel sick, thanks to my weird stomach .-.


Stomach issues aside, I signed up for a story gift exchange a little while ago and just got in the story with four minutes to spare! Liiiiittle close for comfort, but, hey, it's in!


We're at that point in the school year where we aren't doing much. AP testing is done for my history class, so we're watching a WWII film rn (Dunkirk). My college course is already over as well (the semester ends earlier), so I've really only got two classes to worry about, and one of those is an art class. Lowest stress I've had all year.

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I feel much better after a nice nap, breakfast, and a cup of tea. 


I go to see a specialist today at the hospital, so I won't be at the day-centre till this afternoon. ☺️

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8 hours ago, Adrianna Danielle said:

Her daughter,she seen a picture of me going to adjust well her supposed dad is now a woman

Life has its twist, and who knows what the future holds. She may only want to know your family and medical history’s long term chronic health history. Then again she may become your biggest supporter in your current life situation.


I am an optimist. So much so that if you put me in a room full of puppy poo, I’m going to look for the puppies. 

Hugs and best wishes,



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Well, I am now jobless. It seems I cannot be trusted. So they say. I am upset but doing eh. My youngest is OK with what happened I just hope my wife is the same.


Back to the hunt.



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Just now, KymmieL said:

Well, I am now jobless. It seems I cannot be trusted.

I'm sorry, Kymmie!


I hope you can find somewhere that you appreciate and that appreciates you!

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Oh my @KymmieL, I’m sorry you’re on the job hunt again. They didn’t seem to be a good fit for you anyway. You deserve to be treated fairly and not undermined by competing owners who don’t communicate well. 




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Just now, KymmieL said:

Well, I am now jobless. It seems I cannot be trusted. So they say. I am upset but doing eh. My youngest is OK with what happened I just hope my wife is the same.


Back to the hunt.



May more doors open up with more advantageous employment. 🤞

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Paternity test was done today,hoping it is over.Good thing this woman and daughter are coming up,daughter meeting me for the first time.Also reuniting with this woman.It will be good and I am not going to be chewed out.Also liking the new hoist at work in my stall,came in and installed it.Learned how to operate it as well too.Boss has a new heavy duty transmission jack for semi trucks coming too

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Good morning 


I have a busy week. Six days straight of work, Sunday off and I work on Monday. We get time and a half for Monday and our summer bonus pay kicks in so I’ll be able to get more things paid off.  Each on gone speeds up the process.  And makes things easier for the next target.  

@KymmieL I’m sorry this happened.  Maybe it’s time for a career change.  I realize vehicles and parts is in your blood but maybe something else would take some stress away.


well, I’ve got a dog looking laying at my feet hoping to go out.



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Well my wife totally understood. I don't really know what would have happened if she didn't. Everyone believes it is bull.


The hunt started yesterday, it continues.


Hugs, to all



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My new therapist is really nice. She asked me about grandma raising me making wedding dresses and cakes as well as raising me to be a "tom boy".  My love of sewing, cooking, knitting, etc...

She loves my preferred name (Birdie), and that her best friend in school was called Birdie as well. 

I will be seeing her every month. 😉

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Just now, Birdie said:

My new therapist is really nice.

She sounds wonderful.  I'm glad for you.

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I'll be going up the mountain for my VA support group today.  It's a bit of a drive, but worth it for me.  Some of the people up there have been eating together with me after the meetings, and it's been really nice to be around other trans folks of both genders.  I don't have that around here.

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Good morning 


@Ivy I hope you have a wonderful time with your meeting and after dinner. 

My morning started early letting the puppy out to take care of business. While he was doing that I brewed my coffee. 



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@awkward-yet-sweet, bummer about the road trip that isn't. Next time!


@KymmieL, good luck with the job hunting, you deserve it.


@Birdie, I'm happy for you that you have a new connection who seems so supportive!


@Ivy, enjoy!


The issue I referred to in my little grizzle the other day looks like it will resolve itself without conflict. Everything is good. 🙂

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