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RithiaAllen

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Today was an epic weigh in. ?

 

First off the food I ate yesterday.

 

For or breakfast I had a bacon and egg breakfast taco from taco cabana. This was unplanned but a friend at work brought in breakfast and I figured what the heck and ate one. It was very good.

 

For lunch I had a honey chipotle grilled chicken sandwich on sourdough bread with a side salad and no dressing because they forgot to put it in. But the salad was still good so ?‍♀️.

 

For dinner I was very bad. I ordered dominos and of the food I ordered I had a slice of Ultimate Pepperoni pizza and a slice of the Honolulu Hawaiian pizza.

 

I had 64 Oz of water.

 

I burned 1110 calories from moving and 3452 calories in total yesterday. My total steps yesterday were 14788 and I walked 6.64 miles.

 

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My weight when I got up today after Inused the rest room was 219.1. Yes I lost one pound yesterday! ?

 

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Just now, Kirsten said:

I had an even day yesterday. No gain. No loss. Weird too because I was only at 1400 calories in. Only 22 carbs in. And I walked almost my 10k steps. I mean I had sashimi and beef teryaki for dinner for gods sake! It was 2 carbs! And all that raw fish is so good for you. Oh and if you’ve never had octopus sashimi you have to! It’s cooked but oh man. Soooooo good! Well if you like lobster at least. It has that sweet chewy buttery flavor like a cold water lobster tail. ?

 I should’ve had a good day. Idk what happened. Here’s to a better day today! From 1.25 a day average loss to 1.00 now. Eeh I’ll still take it! 

Don’t give up. It could be water or a poop that hasn’t come out yet that is screwing up the weigh in. Another possibility if you wear cloths for your weigh in is what you are wearing today is simply heavier.

 

I have privacy so I weigh in with nothing on but my glasses. It’s the only way to get consistent weight readings from day to day by eliminating what variables I can.

 

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2 hours ago, Kirsten said:

Well if you like lobster at least. It has that sweet chewy buttery flavor like a cold water lobster tail. ?

Now you've done it!  My mouth is watering and it's 10:30am here.  It's going to be a long day.

 

Susan R?

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2 hours ago, RithiaAllen said:

It could be water or a poop that hasn’t come out yet that is screwing up the weigh in. 

You hit it right on the money sister! ??

i weigh in same time every day nekkid as well. That takes all the guesswork out. But no bm in 2+ days. So I’m sure I’m losing since there’s plenty in me to still come out. Yuck. 

 

@Susan R  sorry. Lol. It was just soooo tasty! I can’t wait to have it again. ? sushi and it’s counterparts are by far my favorite! There is this maki roll the local place makes called an enchanted roll. Spicy tuna, avocado, salmon and crunchy inside. Tuna, mango on top covered in a citrus mango sauce!! Oh I wish I could have one right now! I’m gonna have to see if they can do it with a cauliflower rice. If not that’s the FIRST thing I’m eating when I hit my target weight. Lol.  

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Well down another pound this morning. 192.6 Still waiting on the other part. But still losing every day. Keeping that 1:1 pounds per day ratio. I’d like to hold that for another week if I can. Well see. But it’s hard to complain about 6 pounds in 6 days. And I should just be starting to hit ketosois now. It takes like 2 weeks they say but idk. Last time I was losing like this too. And it didn’t really change all that much. I’d really like to hit that 25 pounds in a month. They say 35 is possible too but god that’s a lot of weight. That’s over a pound a day. And I do cheat a little. Last night I had 7 cheese curds at the Buffalo Wild Wings with the boys. But it was a greens salad with lemon vinaigrette and 1/2 an order of traditional wings which was a combined like 6 carbs. The 6-7 carbs from the cheese curds still fit into my daily 30carb goal. I was at 24total yesterday. 30net and 6fiber equals the 24. Odd how to figure out sugar alcohol but it’s prolly a gram lower from that too. 

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That is great. Just be careful to stay hydrated. :D

 

I don't have as good of numbers to report but I did shed three tenths of a pound. I'm down to 218.8.

 

Also importantly my resting heartbeat is down to 58 and I did a 16'35" mile today walking and the overall walk was 1.83 miles. My average heartbeat while walking was 113 which is down from 135bpm at a 18'21" mile a week ago. I'm getting faster and doing it with a lower heartrate. ?

 

I suspicion that some of my slower weight loss is simply my legs are getting more muscle which is fine as long as they don't huge. :D My torso is starting to look a little less flabby though which is the overall goal so I'm very happy. Today while not flattering because of the flab ? I fit into my employee appreciation day t-shirts from this year that I had grabbed X-Large. When I first got them I tried them on in my room I had at the time and was very depressed because I couldn't get them on. So I'm down a size of tight t-shirt!

 

My food yesterday was 47% carbs, 38% fat and 15% protein. I'm not super concerned about the carbs because most of it was from two Granny Smith apples which has natural sugar and fiber and I needed some fiber.

 

I walked 7.91 miles, burned 3655 calories and consumed 1400 calories and drank 40 Oz of water.

 

Ok I'll be back later. It's time for another round of Fallout 4 VR. ?

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That’s awesome Rithia!! You are doing so good! I like your attention to detail on your intake and all too. For me, that’s what keeps me motivated. The numbers really keep me pushing. I Am very analytical. And when the numbers add up to loss it makes it all the better. I have issues with extra skin in my belly. I was 250 last year. And it’s gotten a touch better but it still bothers me. I may do a touch of the cool sculpting thing. I heard it helps elasticity. But I’m gonna give it another year at least. All these hormones, and the biotin could help it enough on its own. ?

 

We will both be bikini girls this summer!! Well top for me at least. ?

 

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Final week 1 weigh in was 192.2! Down 6.4 I believe. That’s pretty good I think. Now to keep that level up for another week. Planking starts today too. 5 mins 2x a day. Get that core ready for running in the spring. ?

 

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I overslept this morning and didn’t have time to weigh in this morning. I’ll check where I am when I get home from work but I’ll aim to get my weigh in tomorrow.

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It’s hard to not be a little disappointed in the results but today I was the same weight as I was on Sunday. So I haven’t gained or lost weight.

 

That said I got up closer to 9am and I had a large movement. I’ll spare the details but my point is I didn’t this morning despite feeling the need (I need more water) so my weigh in was 3 hours earlier in the day and not on a empty tank. So I guess I have still lost weight in the grand scheme of things. I’m hoping tomorrow I can quantify it.

 

Over the last two days I had 2167 calories in total. I burned 3520 calories on Sunday and 3378 calories yesterday.

 

I had 32 Oz of water on Sunday and 56 yesterday.

 

I walked 9.12 and 5.86 miles on Sunday and Monday respectively.

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Poor weigh in today. I was up .4 but I’m sure it’s used food in me and not gain. Today I am starting the shift to full keto and a 16/8 fast. Some take it to the max and do a 21/3!  No way! Lol.  I’ll be waiting till 13 hours today which is thankfully in about 1/2 an hour cause I am literally starving. Lol. And my carbs are dropping to 17 a day now. I’m also making sure I get at least 15g of fiber too. That one is really tough to get. Basically it’s from like 3 cups of salad greens and only greens. This week is gonna suck to say the least. But it’ll be worth it to break into full ketosis mode till Christmas. 4 weeks and I’m hoping to loose 25+ pounds! That’ll put me close to my target weight by New Years!

❤️My Keto!! Definitely the best and most amazing way to loose. But it sure is hard too. Lol. 

Planking isn’t going well. I haven’t at all. Tonight I am 100% though. I may even walk on the treadmill for 1/2 hour. Really beat down that fat in a hard way. Haha. 

Anyways keep up the great work everyone! 

 

Thats tough Rithia. But no up movement is a good thing! I also “moved” already today so hopefully that’s a sign of things to come. And holy crap that is a LOT of walking!! Awesome job!! 

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Hi all,   I hear you ladies...today was very difficult.   I am very disappointed with my weekly Tuesday weigh in which happened this morning.  I worked so hard and never missed my 3-3.5 miles of walking each day.  I was strict on my diet...no portion control issues and no deviation from diet, whatsoever.  After all my hard work, I sadly lost only 1.5lbs this entire week.

When dressed, I have definitely noticed my clothes becoming much looser.  What's odd is that this is the first week that I actually feel thinner without clothing.  I thought I'd see some progress over previous weeks.  Looks like I've got a real battle with this.  So after today's weigh in, I have lost exactly 20 pounds total in 10 weeks and still have 30.0 pounds left until I reach my target weight.  Nice even numbers for once...guess I got lucky there..lol

 

Good luck people..the struggle is real,

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@Susan R A pound in a half is very good. A modest burn rate increases the odds of keeping the weight off long term and not rubber banding back up and then some. Like Kristen says any weigh in that is less is a good weigh in.

 

My results today, I have lost half of a pound and down to 218.3. That is 1.8 pounds lost since November 30th and just 68.3 pounds to go. ?

 

I walked 16,797 steps for a total of 7.67 miles and burned 3450 calories which eating 1310 calories. My percentages were 29% carbs, 46% fat and 25% protein.

 

My tops are really starting to fit better which is great. I have also noticed my butt seems to be getting a little bigger though. I’m hopeful that it is simply filling out as I am losing weight and doing lots of exercise.

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Sounds good Rithia! I wish my butt would get bigger. Lol. 

Today my weigh in I was 192.0. So down a bit. But I lost an entire belt loop today! Side effect of Ketosis is that you don’t necessarily always loose weight. Sometimes you eat the wrong veggies and it causes water retention. So I’ll have to swap to romaine lettuce or kale I think. Iceberg seems bad for me. 

Also my IF is officially at 18/6 today! I get to eat in 1/2 an hour and haven’t since 640 last night. Nothing but water. Not even coffee! And I am not the least but hungry oddly enough. Proof that I am in full ketosis today. Should be a good rest of the week I’d think. Macros for yesterday were 9/24/67 carb/protein/fat. Supposed to be 5/20/75. Closer every day! 

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Be careful with the words like get to. That is where cheating starts which leads to binge days.

 

I just simply have a set schedule that I go by and if I eat earlier or later it doesn’t matter but I only have two meals.

 

If I feel hungry I might have some berries. Around a cups worth or less. I also drink water when I’m feeling hungry but I’m starting to get better at telling when I am thirsty or hungry.

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I was on the other end this time. I ended up at 18-1/2 hours and I figured I should eat only because it was time which is a bad habit according to dr Berg. You should only eat when you start to feel stomach pains, headaches, or you’re feeling dizzy. I wasn’t there but I ate anyways. ??‍♀️ 

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Just now, Kirsten said:

I was on the other end this time. I ended up at 18-1/2 hours and I figured I should eat only because it was time which is a bad habit according to dr Berg. You should only eat when you start to feel stomach pains, headaches, or you’re feeling dizzy. I wasn’t there but I ate anyways. ??‍♀️ 

That sounds like horrible advice. I understand eat when you’re hungry hence my no set specific time but more of an average. However waiting until you’re dizzy and have a headache is horrible. At that point you have waited too long and will go into starvation mode which is counterproductive in the long run.

 

I eat when my stomach grumbles.

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Keto is a different type of eating though. All the rules are different. From the bacteria in your body to the hormones and receptors in your cells. Basically what you are doing is reverting back all the need in sugar and carb nonesense from the last 2000+ years. The human body is not designed to run on glucose. But it does because it has to. It’s actually designed to run on fats. But in order to make that happen things inside really need to change. It’s unhealthy to get like that on a sugar based diet. But on keto it’s required. It’s what keeps your body from storing fat and tells it to burn it instead. 

The #1 cause of obesity in this world is too many carbs. Carbs are sugars. Too many cause the receptors in your cells to get confused. So the body keeps on making insulin. That is why so many people have diabetes. Like 70% of the worlds populaiton actually has some level of the disease. You can eat “healthy” all day long and still end up with diabetes and overweight simply because you feed your body the wrong stuff. And at the wrong intervals. 

 

Having said all that, I plan on going back to my tasty sugar heavy garbage diet when I hit my target weight. Lol. I can’t imagine a life of salad, meat, cheese, nuts and berries supplemented with some oils for extra fat. Lol. That’s just sad sounding I think. But for 2-3 months I’m in. And hopefully when I swap back I stay mostly healthy. ??‍♀️

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Probably. It took me about 3-4 months to loose 60+ last year and I gained 20 back in the next 8 and now I’m back on it. If I can keep that going I’m happy. And I don’t need to loose 60 this time so it’s always positive gains. I like the reset feature the most. At the end of this I feel great! My body is clean as clean can be, thin, belly is shrunk, skin is clearer, hair is shinier, even my brain seems faster and more able to learn, but it’s no fun. I like food. I like wine and beer and sour patch kids. And I want to eat them. They can’t be eaten at all (wine is ok in very small quantity). So I try to find a middle ground. But mcfatsos and macaroni are just so tasty. Lol. I’m weak I guess. 

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Another epic weigh in with .9 pounds lost. I went from 218.3 to 217.4 pounds over the course of yesterday.

 

I had Pot Belly for lunch with a cup of Loaded Bake Potato soup and half of a roast beef sandwich. I saved the second half because I got full. For dinner I had the left over sandwich and a left over piece of Hawaiian pizza.

 

I wasn’t counting calories in the sense of restricting myself but I only felt compelled to eat that yesterday and it was only 990 calories.

 

I walked 7.57 miles yesterday and burned 3618 calories with 1083 from walking.

 

My resting heartbeat seems stuck and 57 but my peak heartbeat was down 10bpm durning my fastest pace of walk yesterday compared to Sunday’s walk. Of course Sunday was almost two miles on that walk but I like to see my heartbeat lowering for the same task week over week.

 

Today my team at work is going to Hard Eight Pit BBQ for lunch. I’m going to grab a salad and a half rack of ribs. I can eat a few (2) with the salad before getting full. If I get full sooner I’ll stop. What I don’t eat will be dinner. I love getting to eat for free for a entire day. ?

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Why do you want your resting heartbeat lower? I am at 62 and my doctor was worried that was too low. Just curious. 

I was down another 0.4 today. But still having issues getting “regular”. My wife has asked me to stop with the healthy keto as well. It’s too stressful for her she says. So I am going to have to agree with that request. She deals with enough with the transition. She shouldn’t be worried about all the keto food restrictions as well. So it’ll be a low carb low calorie diet instead. I am gonna stick to the intermittent fast though. I think that will be fine. And I’m not a fan of breakfast foods anyways. ??‍♀️  And the benefit of low carb is that I can add some fruit into my diet and cut some fat out. But I’ll have to start the exercise half ASAP too. What are ya gonna do right?! Lol 

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3 minutes ago, Kirsten said:

Why do you want your resting heartbeat lower? I am at 62 and my doctor was worried that was too low. Just curious. 

I was down another 0.4 today. But still having issues getting “regular”. My wife has asked me to stop with the healthy keto as well. It’s too stressful for her she says. So I am going to have to agree with that request. She deals with enough with the transition. She shouldn’t be worried about all the keto food restrictions as well. So it’ll be a low carb low calorie diet instead. I am gonna stick to the intermittent fast though. I think that will be fine. And I’m not a fan of breakfast foods anyways. ??‍♀️  And the benefit of low carb is that I can add some fruit into my diet and cut some fat out. But I’ll have to start the exercise half ASAP too. What are ya gonna do right?! Lol 

I’m mostly looking for a lower heartbeat rate while exerciseing. I guess you’re right 57 is a great rate for rest.

 

Keeping in mind I’m in the early stages of training to be able to run again. What I’m looking for is increased lung capacity and decreased stress while running. ?

 

Thats better for you in the long run anyways. Plus it will allow me to catch up at this rate. ?

 

I’m a bit high on my calories in today at 948 but it’s somehow managed to be 11% carbs. I’ll eat some of my left overs for tonight and probably be around 1400 to 1500 calories today. It should be ok though because I have been burning over 3100 calories a day as of late.

 

keep it up.?

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Just now, Kirsten said:

Haha. I see how it is now! ?. That’s it. Time to go go go!!  Lol. 

?? I’m very competitive. You might be able to beat me but I’m burning fat now and up to speed. So far in the first week of November I have lost 2.7 pounds. I have one more day. If I can lose at least another .3 pounds today that is 3+ pounds in one week.

 

Of course my dose of estrodile increases by 100% today so it remains to be seen how that will impact things.

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      Emotional stability is the ability to manage and express emotions in a healthy way, even in stressful situations. It's often used interchangeably with emotional intelligence and emotion regulation.      Here are some ways to develop emotional stability: Practice self-care: Prioritize your well-being and recharge your emotional batteries.      Reflect on your emotions: Develop self-compassion, which can reduce anxiety and depression.      Learn to express your emotions: It's natural to have a range of emotions.      Practice empathy: Try to understand the perspectives of others and respond with kindness and compassion.      Set boundaries: Set physical, mental, and emotional limits to protect yourself and others.      Emotional stability is often considered one of the big five personality traits, neuroticism.
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