Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Non-binary Bathing Suits


Recommended Posts

Hi friends,

 

The time is soon upon us where everyone in NJ will head to the shore! That's right, this'll be my first summer since coming out as non-binary. I've already started wondering -- and getting very nervous -- about what to do. Googling "gender-neutral bathing suits" just brings up a lot of gendered options, but that won't cut it for me.

 

What do y'all wear?

 

Thanks,

m

Link to comment
  • Admin

This will be fun to hear, but do remember the rules about bathing suit pictures here.

 

Quote

Rule 6; All content posted or shared through TransPulse services must be appropriate for minors. We welcome members aged 13 to 18. As such, adult or pornographic content, nudity, underwear images, violence, gore, and other content not suitable for minors may not be posted anywhere to this service.

 

Link to comment

Origami customs has some non binary options for swimwear. I’m pretty sure that they are the only company that even has thought of making swimsuits like that.

Link to comment

Hey M,

 

this is a tricky one! Bathing suits are often so overtly gendered. ? 

 

I usually wear boxer-brief type trunks underneath boardshorts, with a sports bra for support (provides decent compression as well) and a rash top.

 

I think boardshorts are a pretty good gender-neutral option (they are generally marketed towards males and females). The length of the shorts will determine if it appears more femme or more masc. Maybe you could go for mid-length to long shorts with a femme design (eg. floral) to try to get a gender balance. It really depends what type of clothing/style you like and what you'll feel comfortable in!

Also remeber clothing doesn't define you. You could wear a bikini or just speedos and still be non-binary. ;) ..it's all up to you and your comfort (and i get that wearing something so gendered may make you uncomfortable, so if you dont want to thats makes sense). :)

 

haha, I'm going to have a look online and try to find a cute nb outfit for swimming now! :D I'll post pics if I find something nice. ;) 

 

Link to comment

I've had a bit of a look, haven't found any amazinggg outfits but "Outplay" makes swimwear that isn't particularly gendered. 

Buzzfeed also has an article about gender neutral swimwear options which might help give you some ideas for some different possible styles. https://www.buzzfeed.com/shannonkeating/queers-at-the-beach

 

Let me know what you think!

 

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

In some respects I find this difficult as people general ly try to categorise someone as male or female. It does make it difficult to work.

 

As a bit of an aside on the same subject, it is interesting to look at photos of 1920's, and that sort of era, swimwear style as some is interesting from the gender point of view. Sexually both sexes were a bit 'played down' giving less gender clues.

 

Tracy

 

 

Link to comment
  • 5 weeks later...

Last summer, I wore a pair of compression shorts and a tank-top over a one-piece swimsuit, and that worked okay for me. It wasn't perfect, but it did the job. It didn't make me too dysphoric, unless I took the tank off. I'm hoping to pick up a rashguard tank and swim trunks for this summer. The buzzfeed article Alex linked above was really nice too. 

Link to comment

hey M. I been realllllly nervous about this issues. I live in So-Cal and all Trans girls I know or see look like models and most of then wear a two piece with cut-off short  and cute sleeveless t-shirt...I CANT DO THAT...and I don't look like a model..i was think of wearing just one piece with cute-off short..but I am a bit afraid..The Buzz feed Art was not to helpful for me, but it did have soon nice choices..Good Luck   

Link to comment

I went with board shorts and a short sleeve rash guard last year. Cute, feminine, and full coverage. Makes tucking easy and it honestly helped me feel less in the spotlight. Although this year I’m definitely swapping my top to a bikini. Shorts will be needed at least 1 more year. Or a skirt bottom. 

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I've worn a skirt bottom with a matching top from Lands End. 

Perhaps not non binary but then again i'm a trans woman.....

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

Link to comment
  • 2 years later...

I realize this thread is old, but it's summmmmertiiimmme! (Well, it's almost always summertime where I live.) I recently got this suit from Amazon and liked it so much, I got it in a 2nd color. I am afab enby and my swimsuit wishes are: minimize the need to apply so much sunscreen, deaccentuate chest but cannot stand anything tight around the chest, eliminate the need for excessive "bikini area" grooming, don't mind showing off the booty. This suit fit the bill for me. The rash guard top has a built-in shelf bra which is loose, but just substantial enough to keep things in check. The boy shorts are flattering, and just long enough so that I don't need to risk inducing dysphoria by removing hair. The model in this picture appears feminine, so you have to use your imagination a bit to envision this on a person who leans more androgynous. 

Screenshot_20210716-104140_Amazon Shopping.jpg

Link to comment

I like that outfit a lot, and that was my thought of the best compromise too....a rash guard top and short (but not bikini/speedo) bottom. I also agree with Tracy....a century ago, swimsuit styles had much more coverage and had fewer gender cues, and it's very interesting to look back at that.

 

While I won't be going out in public this summer, I hope to by next summer, and while at this point we are fortunate to be able to wear either a bikini or men's swim trunks and look OK either way, we don't FEEL comfortable either way, and with HRT that may change the ability to go in full male presentation. Plus we are significantly balding and I use a wig, so I'm not sure how that'll all work. I've wondered if our lap swimming days are over, but at least we could look alright on the beach or wading!

 

 

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   6 Members, 0 Anonymous, 111 Guests (See full list)

    • Evelyn J
    • Miss Cormac
    • Susan R
    • VickySGV
    • MaybeRob
    • awkward-yet-sweet
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.5k
    • Total Posts
      767.2k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      11,942
    • Most Online
      8,356

    taxicab
    Newest Member
    taxicab
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Amyjay
      Amyjay
      (58 years old)
    2. bettyjean
      bettyjean
    3. Breanna
      Breanna
      (52 years old)
    4. Emily Ayla
      Emily Ayla
    5. JET182
      JET182
  • Posts

    • Susan R
      Love it! This is great news. We need more of this to combat the excessive hate-filled rhetoric and misinformation. 👍
    • Susan R
      The experience was the same for me @April Marie. I slept much deeper and I woke up each morning feeling so much more restful sleeping with forms solidly in place. For me, wearing breast forms at night started when before I was a teenager. I had no access up to modern breast forms and certainly no way to buy mastectomy bras back then. I wore a basic bra my mom had put in a donation box and two pairs of soft cotton socks. I have some crazy memories of things I did in my youth to combat my GD but regardless, these makeshift concoctions helped me work through it all.   All My Best, Susan R🌷
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Colorado isn't exactly a Republican place, and won't become one anytime soon.  I think those folks might be better off not spending their time playing Don Quixote.    We certainly have our share of California "refugees" moving into where I live, so I wouldn't be surprised to start seeing Coloradans too.  I suspect the trend over the next few years will see the blue areas getting more blue and the red areas getting more red as anybody who can relocate tries to find a place where they fit better.   
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Well, at least it'll be a place some folks could choose.  Options are a good thing.
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      My family would have gobbled that jar up in a minute or two.  When we do have pickled herring, its usually for Christmas.  I didn't grow up with that particular dish, but I grew up in a Greek family so I like just about any kind of fish if I can get it.  However, ocean fish and freshwater fish taste so different.  We usually have more catfish and tilapia to eat than anything else.    What I can't quite get used to is the tons of cabbage my GF insists on eating.  When you live with a Russian, there is always cabbage soup.  Always.  When I first moved in with her, breakfast was "shchi" for soup and either bread or "kasha" which is a bowl of boiled buckwheat with butter and salt.  Those dishes can be made in any number of ways, some are better than others.  In the winter, it can even be salty and sour like kraut.  Not exactly sauerkraut, but packed in tubs with vinegar and salt so it keeps partially for the winter.  But I drew the line when the cabbage soup included pieces of fried snake one day.  😆
    • Ashley0616
      Good evening to you as well @Mmindy   That is awesome that you have support from her side. My dad has communicated with me once and that was because he was forced to. His new wife wanted to spend time with my kids. He hated me so much he was in the process of taking my rights away as a parent to my two boys. He was talking to a lawyer and I called him out on it. I don't love him at all. I'll respect him because I wouldn't be here without him but I wished I had another father. My uncles don't talk to me and unfriended me on Facebook. Almost all cousins except for two are still Facebook friends but they don't give me any support. My mom said she won't support me with that but she has said that she loves me. I have nieces and nephews that are still Facebook friends but they have yet to talk to me. I have one sister that supports me out of three. The other's disrespect me by deadnaming me. They have never called me their sister. I think for them they think it's still a phase. They don't ask questions about me being trans. I have to bring it up and on the look of their faces they don't look comfortable about it. 
    • Mmindy
      Good evening @Ashley0616,   I just got offline with HP tech support trying to get my printer tool box icon locked to my tool bar. This is one of the most important features of my printer that I like because it keeps track of ink, paper, and scanned documents. I'm diffidently not a computer geek.   I'll catch up with the other bookmarks next week. We leave to go home for the Easter Holiday with our families. Saturday with her side, and Sunday with my side. What's odd about that is I'm out to more of her side and they're reluctantly supportive. My side on the other hand are less supportive, and my sister just under me in age will not acknowledge my being there. She will be constantly moving to keep from dealing with me. I'm dead to her.   Hugs,   Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋  
    • Ashley0616
      I used to follow baseball and the team I would cheer for is Boston Red Sox. My favorite player was Papi. He was an awesome guy and even held a child during the National Anthem. I haven't watched baseball for a long time. It just died off to me. 
    • Ashley0616
      That stinks that nothing transferred, and no bookmarks were saved! 
    • Ashley0616
      I'm doing patches for now but I think soon I'll go to shots because it's hard to alternate when you are doing two xx patches at once. Unless she gives me Estradiol and progesterone
    • Sally Stone
      Go Cleveland Guardians!  I love baseball and I loved playing it when I was younger.  
    • Sally Stone
      My view is we are "dependent" on government, because as a society, we are too lazy to stay actively involved. So, we let politicians do our bidding for us.  I think we'd be in a better place government wise if we policed the actions of our politicians.  We elected them; they work for us.  Sadly, we are allowing them to run amok.  We are where we are because we have chosen to let politicians make all decisions without us.  Remember "by the people, for the people?" That was the intent of our democracy.  Today, however, it is "by the politicians, for the politicians," the people be damned. 
    • Mmindy
      "Play Ball! Batter Up!" is the closing line of the National Anthem as far as I'm concerned. It's the call of the Home Plate Umpire and signals the start of the game. I grew up in the TV and Radio broadcast of the St. Louis Cardinals. Harry Caray, Jack Buck, Tim McCarver, and Mike Shannon, were the voices on my transistor radio. KMOX 1120 AM pushing 50,000 watts of Class A clear-channel non-directional signal. It could be picked up all across MO, IL, IN to the East. KS, OK, CO to the West. IA, MN to the North, and KY, TN, AR to the South. There has always been a rivalry against the Chicago Cubs, in the National League. As for the American League, I have to pull for the Kansas City Royals. I've also been a Little League Umpire, and fan of everything the Little League stands for. Going to Williamsport, PA and seeing the Little League World Series is in my top 10 things to do on my bucket list.   Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • Mmindy
      Good evening everyone,   I don't think my mother ever cooked a meal that I didn't like. We also had a kitchen where mom fixed the food, dad filled your plate, and you eat it. It wasn't until our baby brother was born that we could have Pop-Tarts for snacks. Before that all snacks had to meet mom's approval, and in her opinion wouldn't prevent you from eating supper.   Well my day started off on a good note, but has become frustrating because my IT person didn't transfer my saved videos I use for teaching. Then I found out that they didn't save any of my book marks for websites I use frequently.   Best wishes, stay motivated,   Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • MaeBe
      The number is relative to method of deliver, the time of the dose, and when the blood is drawn. However, I do want to keep away from DVT and other potential issues. I assume I may be getting backed down from my current dose, but my doc told me to stick with the higher dose, so? I also wonder if this has anything to do the my breast growth and mental changes that have been happening over the past few years, like I have some estrogen sensitivity so a little goes a long way or something? I don't have enough data to postulate, but who knows!   With weekly, subcutaneous, shots you expect to see big swings of serum level estradiol from shot to peak to trough. My doctor is interested in mid-week testing (for E and T levels only), which would be post-peak blood serum levels but they will be higher than trough. Most, if not all, resources I've seen online is to measure at trough (which I might do just to do it next time) along with a SHBG, LH, and other metrics.   This is from transfemscience.org for Estradiol valerate in oil, which is very spiky compared to some other estradiol combinations. It's also for intramuscular, which will have a slower uptake and is usually dosed in higher volume due to the slower absorption rate from muscles. They don't have subcutaneous numbers, which I would expect to see similar spikes but higher levels at similar doses due to the relatively higher absorption rate direct from fat.   Are you doing pills, shots, or patches? And when you do get your levels checked are you getting that done when your levels are lowest or some other time?
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...