Therapist experience

[ilikefilms]

Hi I recently went to a therapist who was asking me questions my birth sex is female i identify as a woman but i have wanted top surgery she began talking about all the surgery and risks felt like she was trying to put me off wanted to know about my family asked me why I want top surgery as a woman I have always seen breasts as a nuisance a hindrance wearing bras and so on she came to the conclusion that it was not about my identity that was an issue one thing she said that really stuck into me she said  how would I feel in society as a breathless woman.she said society would class me as a freak I was shocked by her words and feel really crap about myself I am femme presenting and I feel like she did not believe me about wanting top surgery or did not see things from my perspective i suppose life as a breastless woman would be hard on a binary world  she asked to think about my relationship to my chest and I feel like I am being encouraged to think about them it just feels really jarring i guess this was a nh s therapist

[Jani]

Hello.  I wonder if this was a gender counselor?  It does appear as if they were asking tough questions to make you consider all the options.  You need to be honest with yourself about what in your life would change (physically and emotionally) if you had this surgery.   I do think her statement about being a freak was a little harsh and not necessarily correct.  If possible you might consider a new therapist. 

 

Jani

[Ellora]

I agree, the freak part is a bit much.

 

Other than that, they all make sure everyone understands what may or may not happen, more than once. All the way up until the seconds before any of the surgeries. I had my Orchiectomy put on standby and they brought the electronic docu sign thing, and I signed it on the operating table. I signed it and told them Ill sign everything they give me, with a smile. 

It can be a tough road, but we are ready. Bring it.