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By Elizabeth Star · Posted
It’s another slow day at work and I’m having trouble staying awake. I pray to the Goddess that this mug of unicorn blood will restore some vitality. -
By Shay · Posted
@Elizabeth Star in the state of Ohio it is or at least I don't want to go through process more than once of I can. -
By Jamie68 · Posted
It was last on my list also, at least the gender change on SS card. I just got my name changed on SS card since it's a long process to get a birth cert. from Puerto Rico. It takes over a month. They sent back my application once already saying my money order was wrong amount, and also said I needed a lawyer to submit it, which is incorrect. I resubmitted about 3 weeks ago. Still waiting for response. -
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By Elizabeth Star · Posted
You have to change your birth certificate first? That’s currently last on my list. It’s always good whenever you can be yourself. A good haircut can doing amazing things for self affirmation and easing dysphoria. At least it did for me. I agree with what Jackie said about the comfort zone. You may learn something new about yourself. -
By Kathy2020 · Posted
@Mroz All the good advice and vibes above are spot on, and as you are probably finding out as a spouse / support person already, learning, listening, and empathy are all really important. When there is a new couple in my support group, I usually mention these things... Everything about transitioning takes time for both partners, so do things in bite-sized portions and at a manageable pace. Make sure to give yourself mental breaks from transitioning too; don't let it become your whole world even though its a really big part of it now. As a spouse / support partner, don't feel bad if some things just "don't sit right" anymore between you two. Some things can be accepted like getting used to snoring or conceding to the fact she spends way too much time gaming. Other things might take a little more creativity to overcome or are deal breakers. Just remember that neither of you are wrong, its just a question of compatibility. And believe it or not, we all change as we grow older, so compatibility questions will crop up eventually; you just hit the lottery this time! Both of you should see a therapist, and I generally advise it being separate professionals. Your partner will be focusing on a lot of physical, social, and emotional issues of transitioning and will need a therapist well-versed in non-binary and gender-based topics. As a spouse / support partner, you will have a whole set of different issues usually starting with how to reconcile your own sense of self with a new reality you were not expecting, and how to do that while still being supportive of your partner. Everything else is just going to happen for both of you, and no two transition stories are alike. Have a plan but don't over-plan, have goals but keep a flexible time table, and have some fun with it! For every "bad" story we all share about transitioning, there are at least two more good things that happen, so live for those moments! Good luck on your journey together! -
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By Maddee · Posted
@Shay The Church..!!! Omg that's amazing May Rod have even the slightest relief from his sufferings today -
By Shay · Posted
@Elizabeth Star congrats. I'm still waiting for my new birth certificate to come so I can get my SS and Driver's licenses changed then tackle insurance, estate planning and credit cards..... Sadly no dress makes me look good yet - I'm still in the gas to the floor and clutch in - with family and wanting surgery. -
By Shay · Posted
@Maddee my mentor is my music producer who is currently suffering from a brain tumor. He was the only one who really encouraged me musically and although I had 2 brothers (they never supported me) he was my older brother in truth who advised me and looked out for me. He produced an album for me that almost got my band signed to Atlantic Records (dang band imploded) and then we went to Nashville where he and another friend who played in The Dillards recorded demoes and we just ran out of money. Over the years we co-ran Leon Russell's old studio in Tulsa called tThe Church, where Tom Petty first recorded with Mudcrutch and tRoger Linn created the Linn drum and all the Beatles as well as Bob Marley recorded. Only his brain tumor he was stuill advising and encouraging me and using ProTools via DropBox to mix my songs. His name is Rod Seagram and if you look up The American Music Association - he was one of the founding board members. -
By Shay · Posted
OMG - I love Mahavishu and especially Paco - not familiar with Free Fall Lover - can't wait to check out. -
By Elizabeth Star · Posted
After almost two months of silliness I finally got my new social security card. I just to ooo and ahhh at it all day. It also meant a trip to our main office so hr could see the physical card and get a copy for file. Just so happened I am also wearing my green, skull covered dress. I think I like that office a little better sometimes, I got 5 compliments on my dress. -
By Maddee · Posted
Ronny. He was like 30 years older. Pro security contractor. Marine. "Injustice collector". Played semi pro football into his 40s We rock n rolled together. Hung out. He took me to ball games. Secured my gigs. Lot of living advice. We weren't a couple but it was something. I knew he was gone before anyone told me. Everything went to hell without you. RIP -
By Kathy2020 · Posted
Boho skirts and sandals do the the trick for me. Its not the most glamorous or sexy look, but for around the house or running quick errands, its so comfy and self-affirming! 🙂 -
By Vidanjali · Posted
Speaking of which, @Maddee be sure to take yours with food else you may experience nausea. Nonetheless, some folks cannot tolerate opioids at all regardless of whether they are taken with food. And @Jani is right on - don't wait til you're in hideous pain to take something. Rather take them preventatively according to a protocol as Vicky shared. 🙏
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