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So I have mentioned to be somewhat naïve so please consider that.  LOL

I am curious about the hypnosis therapies and if anyone had had success in them.  I'm not talking about the little silly ones you can find on YouTube.  Though admittedly I have tried them.  (blush)

Like most "make you a women" products I am wary of actually results not taking the manufacture's claims to heart no matter how convincing they seem and what scientific proofs they have..

I will further admit I do believe in hypnosis but have never had the true opportunity to have it done.  So I am "hoping" there is a real program out there that does work.

 

 

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Tragically, no. Hypnosis can't change your body. If we're being complete, even most magical traditions (their words; I find the anthropology behind magical belief systems fascinating) only claim the ability to affect probability in the future (nudging you towards happiness, money, your soul-mate, whatever...). I'll be the first to admit that swilling a potion or saying some magic words to fix my body would be freaking awesome, but that's not a thing. Same for hypnosis. It might relax you enough to help you in therapy, but the science on that is sketchy.

 

I've actually been hypnotized by a professional. It's more of a psychological trick to make you think that something is OK. While you're under, there's an ... undercurrent I guess ... of just going with what the hypnotist tells you to do. It feels like it's all in good fun. There's an element of suggestion to it as well. I'm probably not explaining this very well, but hypnosis is more of a tool to help uncover your feelings and lower your inhibitions than a magic wand that will make you feel better about yourself or turn you into something you're not.

 

So, yeah. We don't get easy fixes. Coming to terms with who you are takes work. Presenting your true self to society takes courage. Best of luck!

 

Hugs!

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If this is for your Gender Dysphoria, save your money for a Gender Therapist and go to one as I have recommended before.  Hypnotherapy to change your Sex or Gender orientation is lumped in with Conversion Therapy as being ineffective and actually dangerous to your mental health.  Some forms of hypnotherapy can give some help for anxiety, but even there Dialectic Base Therapy (DBT) where you are in control of things is the best and safest way. 

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Oh no I wasn't talking about changing anything physical.  I seem to have mental blocks from time to time when it comes to my inner self.  The person I want to be and let out.   I get upset when its been days since I have not dreamt I was a women.  I question myself instantly when I feel not so feminine.

I have days where its ok to be a guy.  "Your in a male body why not.  Your married to a beautiful women who loves you.  Why risk it."  Like Im trying to talk myself out of feeling feminine.  I hate myself afterwards and don't know why I flip flop like this.

Then I cry and cry.  

I guess I want to purge some of that questioning side of myself.  

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Thank you Vicky.

I have taken your advice and sought out a therapist.  Perhaps in time I will figure it all out.  Just hate the flip flop feelings and don't like the hating myself for it.

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59 minutes ago, Nivegnal said:

Just hate the flip flop feelings and don't like the hating myself for it.

 

It does take time, that is true, my timeline on being fully understanding of who I am took nearly killing myself with drugs and alcohol, but I recently had my 11th re-Birthday and know it can be lived with.  There is absolutely NO SHAME in having GD, we have so far only hurt ourselves which is understandable, but not a reason to be ashamed once we start to explore our TRUE SELVES.

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Ah, I see now. There's no shame in that either. I have a dear friend (since Junior High) that describes herself as bi-gendered. I'm going to use female pronouns because I'm thinking of her female alter-ego right now. In person I use pronouns that reflect who they might be presenting as at that time. Besides, for all I know, she is presenting female right now.

 

Anyway, she presents as male during the work week and female for events and going out (sometimes). More than being a cross-dresser, less than being MtF if that makes sense. That's not intended to lessen or rate her dysphoria in any way, I'm just saying that what she does calms her down enough to live with herself. That's enough for her and that's fine. This whole big mess is on a spectrum so find what is comfortable for you and go with it.

 

So back on topic, hypnotism could probably help you let your inner lady out in a controlled setting if you and your therapist thought it might be helpful. I'd strongly suggest exploring that side of you in a safe space until you feel more comfortable. I'd also suggest a batch of panties purchased online. You'd be surprised how much the right underwear helps and nobody notices unless you're walking around showing them. Which probably wouldn't work for me, but you do you.

 

Hugs!

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