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BEAN_CHILD

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im currently working on writing a story about a transgender woman in around the 90s and what it was like living.

the problem here is that im a transboy born in 2005

so i wanted to be able to accuratly depict what it was like coming out during those times

thanks!

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Look for books by Jennifer Finny Boylan, Julia Serano, or Dr. Susan Stryker and use them as references.  They cover that time frame pretty well, especially Dr. Stryker's actual history book.  She is a professor of history and a Trans woman herself.  Julia Serano is a social scientist, and Jenny Boylan is a professor of English and has written many newspaper articles as well as three books about what it was like in those times.  My time in the 90's was not until the end, but way different from the earlier years.

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I'm a transgirl born in 1995, but I dunno if I could be much help; I spent the first twelve years of my life on a farm in the middle of the woods in Alaska in a violent alcoholic household. I spent the next five years in an abusive psychoward/laboratory for kids. Then I spent the next five years after that working for the government on extended assignments as a private contractor in remote hostile environments. A few years ago, I quit my job and moved to Montana's fourth largest city, (pretty much an alien planet to me), to finally settle down and MAYBE try to have a happy life, whatever the hell THAT'S supposed to look like lol. And then just last year I figured out I was girl. ...Never really had time to reflect before lol. Oh well; better a little late than never. I'm only 26...I'm still young...ish lol!  ?

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Hi, Bean_Child. I agree with Vicky about using those books as a good starting point.  Carrie is probably one of the few here who transitioned that long ago.  I hope she can be a good resource for you.

 

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