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Posted something on this site for the first time an hour ago.

 

I've since looked through only a few of the other posts & they are really scary.

 

I've hidden from the reality of my true self for so long that it is what it is.

 

To have such Judgement & Cruelty in these times confirms my decision to join this Community is a good thing.!

 

Let's work towards having louder voices!

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Welcome Paula.  I found this space to be amazingly helpful in getting past my fear of myself, if that makes sense.  Finding self acceptance has actually given my life a loud voice. 

Enjoy the journey.  You are not alone.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Hi Paula! and Welcome!

I have found this forum to be uplifting, confirming, helpful, and sometimes even funny (the Members here have a great sense of humor).

 

Take care your time.  Find topics you'd like to engage in, and don't be shy❣️

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Welcome to our forum @PaulaF! You’ve come to the right place to find support, friendship and kindly advice. We are here for each other so join in and share as you like. We’d love to learn more about you if you're willing. Each of us have unique and sometimes inspiring life stories.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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Greetings Paula!   Yes these are indeed difficult times but I believe we can make it through by holding our heads up and being true to ourselves.  While some stories here can be thought of as scary, they are stories of rebirth and growth.  Look upon them in a positive manner and I think you will feel better about all this.

 

I hope you find this to be a welcoming and warm community.  I know it is.  

 

Cheers, Jani

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Welcome Paula,

 

I have to say you have found safe harbor and support. I joined recently and being 68 and still hiding and scared, this forum was the first time I felt I found sanctuary and guidance and mentors that I so badly need to move forward. You made the right choice. 

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Thank you for your kind welcomes. Right Place, Right Time!.

 

Time Zones make it a bit weird, Southern Hemisphere also. Mid Winter here but the extremes of where I live are 3-16 degrees (C) daily so shouldn't complain. I'm into music but not a musician. Worked in Media for 40+ years on & off. Now I do computer support from home.

 

Link to my latest project below.

 

Living alone now has it's benefits, the lonesomeness takes it's toll too.

 

If anyone checks this out it would be amazing! It's a bit rough, professionally speaking but aim for entertainment, you will find a few ads in it, Not for Profit! Just quirky stuff from DownUnder.

 

https://www.twitch.tv/pchwpdftv

 

 

Learning to become more comfortable rather than angry with yourself is next step.

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9 hours ago, PaulaF said:

To have such Judgement & Cruelty in these times confirms my decision to join this Community is a good thing.!

 

Let's work towards having louder voices!

 

Welcome Paula,

 

I'm in Central Indiana, USA. Summer is just starting. While some of the posts here are scary venting of broken hearts and dreams, everyone of them have been met with caring thoughtful responses. I know this because just a few weeks ago I came out to my wife, and grown children. To say it went badly is an understatement, however the people here on TransPulseForums came to my aid and soothed my scared broken heart. Things are better now all around with my wife, kids, and therapists. You are in a welcome place here.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy???

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Mmindy, 

So sorry things did not go well and i finally came out to 1 person and that went well but i am so scared to go too fast hoping for the best but being here on this forum has meant more to me with the friends i have met in such a short while and are more friends then i have had in eons. thanj you and i admire your bravery.

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you are more than welcome

hugs right back at you

Shay

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