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On 7/11/2020 at 4:07 PM, Tory Aoi said:

I'm so glad I found this thread.  I am also a musician, primarily instrumental not so much vocal myself.  I do a little bit of writing and I have a project that is focused on my experiences as trans that I recently started.  Maybe as I make progress with it I'll start a separate thread but here's a sample clip if anyone might be interested.  It's still rather rough, though.

 

https://soundcloud.com/tory-aoi/invisible-sample

 

 

@Tory Aoi Very nice piece Tory, melodically really picks up around 1 minute juncture and carries nicely to the end. Excellent ideas on the keys, I enjoyed listening....

 

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I have played on a lot of stuff that ended up on sound cloud but only one on my channel.

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On 7/6/2020 at 1:25 AM, Susan R said:

I’m not a musician in any sense of the word. I played drums throughout my high school years at a friend’s house. My parents were always encouraging us kids to play an instrument but I was only interested in percussion and specifically drums.  I asked them if they would allow me to buy a drum set. They said, yes, as long as you don’t play it after dinner time (~6pm). My senior year, I saved up and spent $500 on a used Pearl drum set a friend had which barely fit in my bedroom. I played it whenever I could prior to my father coming home from work. He would always come home and have a few drinks before dinner. One day he came home an hour early and walked into my room. I stopped and asked him if it’s ok to continue to play. He said, “Oh sure. You play them pretty good.“  He goes upstairs to have his drinks and I start to play again. Three mins. later (no joke), he screams at the top of his lungs...louder than my drums, “Will you turn that  xxxx off!?!”

 

Needless to say, I sold them for $300 the next week and I’ve never played since...lol

 

Susan R?

You should start playing again. It’s a great way to let your frustrations out and burn calories...lol

 

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i agree and i need a drummer for the brand new AT Band (All Trans) Band. we are good on bass, guita and vocals, need a solid drummer and keyboard player.

Shay

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I know a mtf drummer who I worked with for ten years.  She's stealth for many years though, pretty sure she doesn't do sites like this. 

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37 minutes ago, Ms Maddie said:

I know a mtf drummer who I worked with for ten years.  She's stealth for many years though, pretty sure she doesn't do sites like this. 

 

ya never know, giggling in the background could be heard....?

 

sometimes they resurface later, searching for community, not always, but often enough...

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Wouldn't put it past her!!

 

However she changed before the internet, and doesn't even use text on her phone.  Perfect cover for a social media spy...

I played bass with her on over 1000 all-nighters.   I silently knew her status the whole time, because of someone in our past, but she never came out to me until after I told her I was trans 5 yrs ago.  She was surprised about me.

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2 hours ago, Shay said:

i agree and i need a drummer for the brand new AT Band (All Trans) Band. we are good on bass, guita and vocals, need a solid drummer and keyboard player.

Shay

That sounds great.  I’m currently looking for a Band. I would love to audition. I’m from Jersey though, where are you located?

 

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we are more of recording via dropbox at the present time. I hsve been working with Cyndee on originals and sending wave files.

 

i live in central ohio

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9 hours ago, Michellle said:

You should start playing again. It’s a great way to let your frustrations out and burn calories...lol

I’ve considered it many times since. I’ve had a few opportunities to play also but we live in a two bedroom and right now the second bedroom where I’d love to put a drum set is currently our media/computer/reading room. If we ever ditch that purpose for the room, I might be able to bribe my wife..somehow! LOL I don’t see it happening anytime soon though. My life is busy enough right now but if I had the room...who knows?

 

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3 hours ago, Susan R said:

I’ve considered it many times since. I’ve had a few opportunities to play also but we live in a two bedroom and right now the second bedroom where I’d love to put a drum set is currently our media/computer/reading room. If we ever ditch that purpose for the room, I might be able to bribe my wife..somehow! LOL I don’t see it happening anytime soon though. My life is busy enough right now but if I had the room...who knows?

 

Susan R?

Oh, that’s too bad. I’m lucky I have a finished basement I can play in. It’s funny , my wife is very tolerant and supportive of my music but not my transitioning.... I guess you can’t have everything.. lol

 

 

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I have been playing drums for about 350 years. I never took lessons. I never played in a band either. I have more beats than I can know what to do with. I tried jamming with people but, it very rarely was enjoyable. I am not good with structure. I just play for me and that has become a rare occasion at best. I guess my music is not band worthy. We can't all be in the band.:dunno:

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9 hours ago, Abi said:

We can't all be in the band.

Years ago as a teen when I had a drum set I played for me too.  Once I tried to play with others and froze up.  I wasn't good with structure either!   Oh well...

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Ego's tend to be the biggest problem and having some not talented enough and hold the rest of band back (can be awkword) but the joy of playing and for me - the experience of live playing cannot be beat EXCEPT when I'm recording.

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22 hours ago, Jani said:

Once I tried to play with others and froze up.

I never froze up. I just wasn't a drummer that liked being fenced in by other musicians. I could fall in line and make the beats they wanted. It's just that I was not content with that and became bored with the experience. The other people needed a drummer that would keep simple beats and set the pace. I like to make beats that do not maintain a certain time. It makes sense that it aggravated other people, I just do not conform too often.  :)  It was my choice not to play with other musicians. I am happy doing my thing all alone.

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that is fair - it is very important to know one's self and live by it. Our current drummer keeps the "simple" beat and then somehow adds bits and flourishes in the spots open for it and he amazes me every time I play with him in his creativity within a band context. 

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On 8/3/2020 at 2:24 PM, Shay said:

Ego's tend to be the biggest problem and having some not talented enough and hold the rest of band back (can be awkword) but the joy of playing and for me - the experience of live playing cannot be beat EXCEPT when I'm recording.

I agree, some people’s egos hold the whole band back. Me and my brothers always got along playing and recording together. It’s bass players we had issues with. I think they know they are in demand.

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Michellle - there are 3 bass players here that are willing to add bass to any tracks you might have need of recording via dropbox.

 

Heather Shay

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Great ,thanks Shay. I’ll keep that in mind. All I have to do is learn how to record via Dropbox... lol

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