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I was relaxing after studio session last night and watched Jackie's video on talking with your spouse's during transition and I was so proud of her talking about Transpulse and especially how good and wonderful our moderators are. She is SO right.

My thanks and gratitude to all the moderators. You have all been so important to my mental health and I cannot say thank you enough for all you do.

 

FOR all of you who are not moderators please use this topic to chime in.

 

Heather Shay

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Jackie has come a long way and I'm so proud and happy for her.  

We Mods do try to make this place a welcoming environment but its members like you that make it really happen. 

 

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It's nice to know that an "influencer" is looking after us and sending people who need support our way.  Allies are wonderful to have.  Thanks, Heather.

 

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19 hours ago, Shay said:

I was relaxing after studio session last night and watched Jackie's video on talking with your spouse's during transition

Hi Heather Shay
Can you post the link here.  I subscribe to Jackie's Channel, but I thought others might like it.

thanks!  Hugs!
Kay

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When I get to my regular pc I?will I'm not proficient enough on smart phone....the phone is much smarter than I am

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Thank you @KayC and thank you @jae bear Jani tells me I am a lot like you and in finding you on YouTube along with Dr. Z gender specialist in LA I found these incredible ladies and have moved forward more in 2?months then in 68 years. Thank you for your sound advice and I hope to join the ranks of full transition in as timely a fashion as I am able.

 

And again thank you ALL the moderators here ... You gals are the most beautiful, thoughtful, caring and comforting women I have ever known and cannot express my gratitude any more then my weak attempt here. As I say in a song I wrote that @Cyndee liked enough for us to work on together "Words Get in the Way". I notice now that many of my songs speak to those of us gathered here and I will continue to share the recordings in my blog here and hope they help some of you during times of trials and tribulations.

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Thank you, @KayC for posting that link. Jackie had some words of wisdom. I will be watching more of her videos.

 

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@Kymmie - she has so much she shares and is VERY articulte in her presentations - wonder if she has teaching and/or motivational speaking background. It's nice to have honest input with no sugar coating nor being something that doesn't seem real.

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100% agree and she is one of the ladies that helped me find sisters like @Kylie

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Oh my,   ? 

my rabbit ears were burning!

it really feels good to hear that I’m doing what I set out to accomplish, it’s definitely been a long trip both here on the forum and on YouTube, and I always do my best to get girls moved over here that need the support! This is where I found support at first, this is where I was prompted to find a therapist, the one thing that made the world different and set me up for success...
I picked one of the therapists out of the resource page, searched my location and found one not far from me, that therapist helped me start my path. That’s why I talk about the forum in my videos, because I know how important it is to get here, to use the resource page, to talk to the girls here and get reassurance that the world will not end if I started doing what had to be done for me, to start the process of transition as scary as it soundEd at first. All the members and moderators helped me through those scary first steps, and one of those moderators, “who knows her own name”?, told me to take things one day at a time, not to live by fear, and that the world would not end if I showed people who I really was... She was absolutely right, she was there with the right words when I needed it, and I certainly hope that I am presenting the right words when someone else needs them, and if not, at the very least I hope I help them find their way here.

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oh my gosh - Mama Bear was a name of a band I was in in college - what a lovely coincidence... ?

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On 8/21/2020 at 12:17 PM, Kylie said:

@jae bear is a wonderful YouTube influence for individuals!

Jackie:

 

You brought me to this forum to help me transition from male to female.

 

Although, I am 67, it is not too late to transition to my real self as a woman.

 

I have done a great deal of soul-searching and have decided to start HRT in the near future.

 

I have contacted my primary dr and psychiatrist and brought up my wanting to start my journey to female.  I have been referred to a gender clinic here in Portland to see about HRT transitioning.

 

I am excited and nervous at the same time not knowing how this journey will proceed, but I will not stop the process.

 

Much Love,

 

Katherine1745

 

 

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@jae bear and @Katherine1745 Jackie is a true role model Katherine. I am 68 and started HRT going on 3 months and it has helped immensely and I have a wonderful therapist. Rough spots ? Yes I have them but I know I'm on the right path and Jackie and the wonderful ladies in our age range have been true friends mentors and Champions.

We are not alone.

Best Wishes

Heather Shay

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1 hour ago, Shay said:

@jae bear and @Katherine1745 Jackie is a true role model Katherine. I am 68 and started HRT going on 3 months and it has helped immensely and I have a wonderful therapist. Rough spots ? Yes I have them but I know I'm on the right path and Jackie and the wonderful ladies in our age range have been true friends mentors and Champions.

We are not alone.

Best Wishes

Heather Shay

Thank you for your attention, Shay.

 

Not knowing is challenging to say the least, but I will make it through to be a classy lady. ;)

 

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Oh! I didn't know that was you! I've been gorging myself on youtube trans videos (so addicted to them) and I saw one or two of yours just recently. You were out at a park talking about differences between living as a man vs a woman. (BTW, I wanted to say, FWIW, even gender aside, I think when people enter a business and see a desk right by the door, even if there's nobody there, there's a tendency to assume "Well, that's where people put receptionist desks, so that's probably who works there". People usually think of a business owner's or manager's office as usually being further in, out of public view. So that may be part of the issue.)

 

One of the the things that's been helping ease my mind with all of this is noticing how much I envy the MtF youtubers. It's like my inner kid is whining "Aww, they were born a boy like me, buy they get to be girls!" I figure that's really telling me something.

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Hi Heather, yes that is actually me, I talk about this is my friends and sometimes it surprises me that people watch me at all or that I am an “influencer” On YouTube, I still find it baffling but I am really happy that I’m reaching the right people and have the right message for them. I did the same thing, I would watch girls on YouTube and think the same thoughts, I identified with them and saw myself somehow in their eyes, it showed me a possible future for myself and that with everything I was looking for, now I simply try to spread that message as much as I can to give some assemblance of hope for those entering the process, it is scary, it certainly plays upon our insecurities but I’m doing my best to show that it can be done, and you are not alone... 

I still find it baffling but I am really happy that I’m reaching the right people and have the right message for them.
I would also watch girls on YouTube and think the same thoughts, I identified with them and saw myself somehow in their eyes, it showed me a possible future for myself and that was everything I was looking for, now I simply try to spread that message as much as I can to give some assemblage of hope for those entering the process, it is scary, it certainly plays upon our insecurities but I’m doing my best to show it can be done, you are not alone,  and finding the right kind of support makes all the difference in the world, just ask the wonderful people here who helped me... I am doing my utmost to smooth out the pathway for the girls who follow behind me.

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jae bear!

I just want to say Hi ?...and thanks.

Your videos have made the impossible possible.  You're an angel from heaven to this one.  Plus you sent me over here, the other great thing that's happened lately.

Thank you darlin'

Ann

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I just wanted to jump in and let @jae bear
know that your YouTube channel brought me here too. After seeing the first 35 or so videos,  I'm a huge fan and hoping to one day follow in your foot steps or walk along side in my own similar steps on my journey! 

Thank you!

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@JamieL you are quite right - @jae bear is TP's most wonderful oasis for those who are searching and she leads so many of us here where she and all the other ladies and moderators are beyond fantastic, empathic, sharing experiences and advice without conditions. Glad you have found your new home.

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Passing on what we learn on our journeys is often one of the biggest gifts we can give to another.  Wonderfully in giving that we receive so much ourselves.  Sites like this give us that opportunity.  Somehow we grow to love ourselves as we love others.  I've found the same to be true in recovery from addiction.

Thanks to all here who make this possible!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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5 hours ago, Charlize said:

Passing on what we learn on our journeys is often one of the biggest gifts we can give to another.  Wonderfully in giving that we receive so much ourselves.  Sites like this give us that opportunity.  Somehow we grow to love ourselves as we love others...

Well written!  I couldn't agree more. Thank you dear friend!

Jani

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Hi Jae Bear

I appreciate your YT vids for your laid back style and the reassurance they offer. It's very important for someone like me, on the front end of this journey.

 

I heard you tell the story of your bike-wreck injuries. My cruiser high-side was 7 ribs broken in 11 places, a flail chest and a punctured lung. Compared to you, I was only bruised up a little. I'm glad you survived.

 

And I'm glad to know that you're in Oakland. I lived for awhile just uphill from Tele and Claremont. Three roomies from Cal College of Arts and Crafts, and me, just arrived from Reno, mind totally blown by Telegraph Ave before the "Summer of Love" brought the speeders, waiting for Cal residency for SF State. We were good friends with Owsley Stanley, but I'm old as dirt, so a young girl like you might not have met him. We could stand on our front porch, look directly out under the GG Bridge, past the Farallons at beautiful sunsets, while loaded, playing acoustic guitar and feeling soooo hip, slick and cool.... Charlize might know that feeling, too....

~~Thanks, and a big hug from Lee~~

 

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