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The past few times I've tried to shop for jeans in stores it seems like all there is for women these days are skinny jeans! I've put up with them for the past few years hoping the style would change, but it's still going strong and I hate it. I really loved the old straight leg jeans that were popular in the late 90's. The current straight leg jeans I've found are still really fitted and not true straight leg. I used to be able to fit into boys sizes which were the perfect length, but I've gained too much weight to do that anymore. Men's jeans are just too long since I'm very short (5ft 2in or about 158cm) and they just don't fit right at all no matter what style I pick (I don't mind cuffing them at the bottom). I just want some simple jeans that are straight all the way down.

Any suggestions as to brands or places I can shop? I'd prefer a brick & mortar since I can try things on, but I'm really thinking of giving online stores a try. Between the pandemic and the narrow selection at the remaining big retailers, I just don't think going into a real store is worth it right now.

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I've had good luck with both breadth of selection and the freedom to try anything on at both Kohl's and JC Penney.

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@Kiara

When I first came out to my wife and started transitioning I was limited to what my wife had for the first month until I decided to go out and do some serious wardrobe shopping. My wife loves the regular straight leg ladies jeans. Luckily, I had lost enough weight to get into her jeans and they fit so much better than my men’s jeans....looked better imho too...but I digress.😀

 

I wore her Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda style straight leg jeans for a while until I dropped under size 16. They were a very nice fit while it lasted but I later I found I preferred skinned jeans and I went that direction. They come in petite sizes too which might work better for you given your height.

 

Susan R🌷

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Obviously I don't know what is available in stores over there but I find it very useful to look online to see what is generally availble then zero in on particular stores. Here many stores have a 'deliver to shop' option so I presume you could try them on and return them on the spot if not Ok but I have never investigated.

 

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Personally, I love skinny jeans. They make my legs look amazing and I have several pair. Now, that said I've had pretty good luck at Kohls lately finding not-skinny jeans that fit me. There's lots of stuff there for small people too (sorry, I'm a 5'11" amazon. You're small). My small friend (she's 5'3") suggests Target. I've found straight leg styles without the super-heavy denim fabric that you see in men's jeans there too.

 

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On 11/12/2020 at 6:42 PM, Kiara said:

The past few times I've tried to shop for jeans in stores it seems like all there is for women these days are skinny jeans! I've put up with them for the past few years hoping the style would change, but it's still going strong and I hate it. I really loved the old straight leg jeans that were popular in the late 90's. The current straight leg jeans I've found are still really fitted and not true straight leg. I used to be able to fit into boys sizes which were the perfect length, but I've gained too much weight to do that anymore. Men's jeans are just too long since I'm very short (5ft 2in or about 158cm) and they just don't fit right at all no matter what style I pick (I don't mind cuffing them at the bottom). I just want some simple jeans that are straight all the way down.

Any suggestions as to brands or places I can shop? I'd prefer a brick & mortar since I can try things on, but I'm really thinking of giving online stores a try. Between the pandemic and the narrow selection at the remaining big retailers, I just don't think going into a real store is worth it right now.

Kiara, if you have a Tractor Supply Co., Fleet & Farm, or Western Wear store in your area, they have womenswear perfect Cowgirl👖Jeans in straight leg or boot cut. 

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I would wear skinny jeans, but sadly I am very tall, and they would look silly on me, so I have to wear women's straight leg or boot cut so the go all the way down, or at least don't look like I am trying to wade through flood waters. I have found the best buys for me on Amazon with the best selection. Once in a blue moon I might find a pair at Walmart. Tractor Supply doesn't carry them long enough for me. This is the bane of being a 6'8" woman. 

 

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Gina

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2 hours ago, gina-nicole-t said:

I would wear skinny jeans, but sadly I am very tall, and they would look silly on me, so I have to wear women's straight leg or boot cut so the go all the way down, or at least don't look like I am trying to wade through flood waters.

Gina, Have you tried skinny jeans? I’m talking about a pair that really fit well on the length? Not clam diggers..lol.  I realize you’re tall and the options are more limited. I’ll just mention this....we had a stylish trans woman who frequented our trans support group on occasion and she pulled off a very good look wearing well fitting skinned jeans. She was at least 6’ 8” or taller and a good weight for her stature. I’m 5’ 10” and she looked a foot taller than me when standing next to her. She would wear absolutely beautiful tunic tops instead of the shorter regular tops and it made her legs look much shorter and brought the focus off her long legs. I wouldn’t write skinny jeans off yet. Sometimes it’s what you wear with an outfit that can make the whole thing come together.

 

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Susan R🌷

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1 hour ago, Susan R said:

She would wear absolutely beautiful tunic tops instead of the shorter regular tops and it made her legs look much shorter and brought the focus off her long legs.

I agree that you have to balance the jeans with a complementary top.  Long and loose work best.   It can be done!   I am down to 6' but very lean and thats what I do to be able to wear differing styles.  I can look like a stick sometimes so its a challenge. 

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5 hours ago, gina-nicole-t said:

I would wear skinny jeans, but sadly I am very tall, and they would look silly on me, so I have to wear women's straight leg or boot cut so the go all the way down, or at least don't look like I am trying to wade through flood waters. I have found the best buys for me on Amazon with the best selection. Once in a blue moon I might find a pair at Walmart. Tractor Supply doesn't carry them long enough for me. This is the bane of being a 6'8" woman. 

 

I feel you. I'm only 5'11" and I have trouble finding pairs with a long enough leg. I'm lucky to be able to wear a 16T off the rack, but you'd probably need a specialty store. Long-Tall Sally might have what you need. Best of luck! You deserve clothes that fit.

 

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Believe it or not Long Tall Sally doesn't even have them. That was the first place I looked. It was more plus size which is too big in the waist. I am like a 16-18T depending on the jean maker. Levis fit the best on me, Lee is the second best. A lot of speciality women's stores lump me into plus size simply due to my height not weight. If you are not "model thin" you are going to have a difficult time looking for clothes as a woman, especially if you want to look halfway sexy at times. Thank you @Jackie C. for the suggestion. 

 

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Gina

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@Susan R yes I think I actually own a pair. The problem I have found as late is the length. I am a typical 34 length the longest skinny jean I have found is 31 hence the problem. I look like I am still in Missouri wading in rivers. If you know where I can get them a little longer let me know and I am all in. I honestly don't really want to wear women's pants that are no better than the jeans that I wore as a man. Kind of defeats the point. 

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Old Navy has a Tall inseam size on their skinny jeans once in awhile. I just checked their website. They do still carry Tall 34” inseams but I looked at a couple and they had only Long 32” inseam in stock at size 16 and 18 but not Tall. I’m wearing a pair of Old Navy skinny jeans right now and they are my favorite jean.

 

Here is a screenshot of their sizing scheme.

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On 11/12/2020 at 8:12 PM, Astrid said:

I've had good luck with both breadth of selection and the freedom to try anything on at both Kohl's and JC Penney.

 

I've been shopping at Kohl's and the one pair of "straight leg" jeans I have from them are basically loose skinny jeans. They're still very form fitting. It's from one of their private label brands so maybe I'll have better luck with some non-Kohl's brand jeans. There isn't a Penneys near me anymore, but I did love shopping there when I was younger.

 

On 11/14/2020 at 5:04 PM, Mmindy said:

Kiara, if you have a Tractor Supply Co., Fleet & Farm, or Western Wear store in your area, they have womenswear perfect Cowgirl👖Jeans in straight leg or boot cut. 

 

They just put in a Tractor Supply by me a few years ago, but I've never been in there! Part of the reason is that I worked for a big box home improvement store right across the highway and they were viewed as competition. It was more laziness on my part than being loyal to my company (also an ex-manager we all hated got hired there). I'll definitely have to check them out. 

 

16 hours ago, gina-nicole-t said:

I would wear skinny jeans, but sadly I am very tall, and they would look silly on me, so I have to wear women's straight leg or boot cut so the go all the way down, or at least don't look like I am trying to wade through flood waters. I have found the best buys for me on Amazon with the best selection. Once in a blue moon I might find a pair at Walmart. Tractor Supply doesn't carry them long enough for me. This is the bane of being a 6'8" woman. 

 

Regards 

Gina

 

I totally feel you from the opposite end of the spectrum. I have the opposite problem and all my jeans are either skinny fit or I look like I'm rocking the 90's JNCO look. It seems like jeans (and other clothes) are made only for people of a certain height... You have to fit into this narrow window of height/weight if you want any choice in what you can wear and still look good. The rest of us just have to either live with clothes that don't fit or pray we can find the rare items that fit and hopefully are our style too.

I know I luck out at being at the short end as I could just get my clothes cut down if I wanted, but all my tall friends can't add fabric make things long enough. Clothing manufacturers are so cheap now. They constantly use as little fabric as they can get away with meaning you don't have that extra fabric built into clothes anymore to let out hems and whatnot.

I hope you can find some skinny jeans in your size. I know the struggle is real.

 

 

 

Since we seem to be flattening the curve vertically and there's a high chance of everything shutting down again, all my non-essential shopping is back on hold. My work has been complaining about the budget and they just just came up with a shiny new furlough plan after what happened last spring. It things keep going this way then I may be going without a paycheck for a while. I'll just go back to window shopping for now and hoping that one day I'll find some non-skinny jeans that fit right eventually.

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Old Navy and Gloria Vanderbilt and probably what you would like.

They are straight leg and some are Mom jeans basically.

Ladies sizes vary because you have Jr, misses and womens size choices to choose from.

Womens and ladies sizes are wider in the hip and upper thigh.

I love high waisted jeans with a boot cut the best because I am quite large but I do on occasion wear skinny jeans because I love them too.

I look like a stuffed sausage  in skinny jeans but I still love them.

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