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I got some larger breast forms and I think they look better on my frame. I don't like how the wig looks, though, but I'll keep it. (Even if I never wear it again I have use for it.) It is nice that you can no longer see my male-pattern baldness, but I think I'd rather have shorter hair. I think the look I'd like to cultivate is more of a "butch" woman, which is closer to how I feel about myself. And, frankly, I just find women with short hair attractive. (I blame King Oedipus.)

 

I'm probably also going to get a body-length mirror so people don't have to look at my dirty bathroom.

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One thing I just noticed, though, that 3D picture to the left looks a heck of a lot like the photo. I'm pretty impressed with my skill in that software.

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Yeah, I don't really like the way that frames your face either. My first wig was a disaster too so solidarity! I still have it as a head covering but it is totally not me. I miss being able to try wigs on at the shop. ?

 

The rest of the outfit still looks good on you though! That's pretty much how learning to dress yourself as a woman works. Try, refine and then try again. I've got plenty of things I either wouldn't wear or don't wear often because they're just not me.

 

Hugs!

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Style the wig a bit  and you never know you might make it work better for you.

Wigs are hit and miss sometimes. Something may look great in the pic but look horrible on you. Ask me how I know that one LOLOL.

 

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1 hour ago, Teri Anne said:

Style the wig a bit  and you never know you might make it work better for you.

Wigs are hit and miss sometimes. Something may look great in the pic but look horrible on you. Ask me how I know that one LOLOL.

 

Ooh! Ooh! Pretty sure I know! ?

 

Like I said; I really, really miss being able to try them on in the shops. At least I have a better idea of what works with my face now.

 

Hugs!

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I ordered a pixie cut style that's a similar color, but it'll take until Saturday to arrive.

 

The god's honest truth is I've always looked a lot like my mother at a given age and she's always worn short hair (except a little while in the 1980s when she had a perm) so I'll give that look a shot.

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Jackie is right finding your "woman/female look" is trial and error.

I was so frustrated early in my figuring it all out phase I almost gave up even trying.

It took me a good 2 years to learn make up skills,hair styling skills

and all the other things female natured.

You need to realize just starting out is your trans puberty phase where you are learning how to be and dress/act as a woman.

Cis girls learn from birth what they need to know from their Mom we don't have that luxury and have to learn on our own.

 

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1 hour ago, Teri Anne said:

Cis girls learn from birth what they need to know from their Mom we don't have that luxury and have to learn on our own.

 

Wouldn't have helped. My birth mother's idea of dressing feminine is a flannel shirt, down vest and jeans. I still would have to have learned in the gutter.

 

Hugs!

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If you have a professional wig shop in your area that is where you need to go to find one that fits your face.

Wig shops have seen it all so don't be afraid to seek their help and there is a good chance 50% of their customers are trans or local drag performers.

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4 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

Wouldn't have helped. My birth mother's idea of dressing feminine is a flannel shirt, down vest and jeans. I still would have to have learned in the gutter.

 

Hugs!

LOL. My Mom was the the all out girly girl and hyper feminine I am the flannel shirt and jeans type girl next door.

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@Teri Anne

 

I pass a wig shop 10 times a day while at work. There's one in front of a local mall that's a couple blocks from the place I deliver for.

 

I also made a 3D figure based on a photograph of myself so that I can try different looks using it.

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That would be a good tool to use to find a look I suppose.

I'm not that high tech and I still can't do anything with photoshop type software . Just way too complicated.

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I'm not using Photoshop I'm using DazStudio, but it's similarly complex.

 

I've accepted that I'll never pass as a feminine-looking woman and I'm OK with that because, frankly, I identify more with "butch" looking women. (To put it another way, the kind of women who wear sensible shoes and play golf.)

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3 hours ago, HaraSurya said:

I don't like how the wig looks, though, but I'll keep it.

I actually like the way it looks on you.  The length is just right.  You might try for a different slightly lighter color that may bland in with your complexion.  

 

3 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

I've got plenty of things I either wouldn't wear or don't wear often because they're just not me.

This is the biggest issue when starting out.  It takes time to gather a style that fits your body and mind.  That's why observing how others dress is such a good learning tool.  You quickly figure out what works and what doesn't.  

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Your look is shaping up fast @HaraSurya. One little wig tip that helped me was that we tend to wear the hair line too low, which makes it look more phony.  I pull mine back just until it looks too far, then forward just a smidge...fluff the bangs with my fingers and looks more natural.  My hair is getting long so I haven't worn one in a while, but I got this one at a little tiny Asian discount store in my neighborhood.  I think the girl behind the counter had me figured out.  She was super nice and gave me a discount I didn't ask for.  Even climbed up on a ladder to get the box for me.20200923_011923.thumb.jpg.c464e8d747efd4a6c8055c3d243fe8a0.jpg

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@Ann W

 

Honestly, I think I'm going to try a more butch look. It's what I identify with more. Some of the real life women I'm aspiring to look like were the openly lesbian women I worked with at an alternative school a few years ago. I just finished doing a 3D render of how I'd like to identify and I find myself not only drawn to the look, but realizing it's how I could look given my masculine frame.

 

There's no rule saying transwomen or cross-dressers need to look traditionally feminine and I'd learned that long before I embraced it about myself.

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I like the combo Liz!

Today I am owning who I am and pushing my boundaries.  Pleather pant with the tunic sweater and knee highs. Big hair and the largest loops I've ever worn.  Of course I get to work and the two employees for the morning call out sick so had to cancel their clients. Oh well, no one to see all this awesomeness ;) Gonna crank the music and dance like nobody's watching.

 

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1 hour ago, Bri2020 said:

I like the combo Liz!

Today I am owning who I am and pushing my boundaries.  Pleather pant with the tunic sweater and knee highs. Big hair and the largest loops I've ever worn.  Of course I get to work and the two employees for the morning call out sick so had to cancel their clients. Oh well, no one to see all this awesomeness ;) Gonna crank the music and dance like nobody's watching.

 

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Love the look - I think it really suits you and the necklace is just right for it.

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

Yeah @Bri2020... now I want pants like that.

 

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I keep doing this to you Jackie! lol

I have to say, I bought these as a joke but I LOVE them.  Just feels empowering to put yourself out there.   I've gotten over the what people think and have adopted the philosophy of do things that make ME feel good.  My wife actually shed a few tears this morning when I showed her what I was wearing and why (she encouraged me to someday wear them) She said she has been so inspired by me it's helping her do more for herself.  now I'm crying lol

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