What are you wearing today?

[Aggie1]

2 hours ago, Ann W said:

I get some looks too, but...whatever.  I think I'm adorable. ?

I love your style! Black with white accents on the hat, shoes and necklace, purple glasses and scarf! No wonder you get some looks!

[Aggie1]

5 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

 

I’m trying a new thing with colors and patterns. 

 

It works!

[Teri Anne]

Ann W you look fabulous .

[LindaMarie]

 This was taken 16 years ago. I was in Charlotte, NC. 

I was at the Betta Kappa Girls chapter meet. I'm on the far right, the little one.

By now I have been to many trans meetings, and many more to come.

I had learned so much from my peers, and it helped this time.

The lady on the far left is Meg, she was very new. She wanted more than just a meeting.

I ended up escorting her out. First the clubs, breaking the ice so to speak.

When all that was over I told we have one last stop. She freaked out when I pulled into the parking lot, asking me, are you sure?

I took her to Deny's restaurant. Main stream public. She had a very good time, her first time out in public, And I escorted her!!

 

Who felt better? Her or me? I have to admit I felt really good seeing her excitement, wow.

The important part of this story is all about the meetings, learning from others, I too was escorted out when I first came out.

 I had a lot of help, then I went out on my own and a new world opened up.

I owe it all to the LGBT, I didn't learn on my own. 

 

LM❤️

 

 

 

 

[Teri Anne]

Groups are the only way to go when you are just starting out. Knowing there are others just like you is a huge help.

[Bri2020]

Ann you look fab!  Always love your style- please post more

 

[Bri2020]

in the vane of "here's me warts and all". lol

It's football Sunday AND an electrolysis appointment.  Normally I wouldn't combine them but my electrolysis person has been training someone and told me to see her for free 90 minute sessions periodically as a training and I get the session for free so.....

Not pictured are my Dolphin's themed sneakers and white capris

 

[Jackie C.]

Pfft. You look perfectly respectable. Also, I'm guessing that that's the numbing gel? Good luck with your appointment!

 

Hugs!

[Ann W]

On 10/2/2021 at 12:25 AM, AgnesBardsie said:

I love your style! Black with white accents on the hat, shoes and necklace, purple glasses and scarf! No wonder you get some looks!

 

On 10/3/2021 at 7:03 AM, Bri2020 said:

Ann you look fab!  Always love your style- please post more

 

 

 

On 10/2/2021 at 5:58 AM, Teri Anne said:

Ann W you look fabulous .

Thank you ladies...you help a girl feel good about herself.

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[Elizabeth Star]

I wandered out of my comfort zone again. Sans skulls and a minimal amount of black. 
 

 

[Jackie C.]

1 hour ago, Elizabeth Star said:

I wandered out of my comfort zone again. Sans skulls and a minimal amount of black. 

 

I LOVE those colors on you though. Maybe you should invest in a skull pendant or earrings. You know, just so you never have to go without skulls completely.

 

Oh, or...

 

 

Just carry it with you. https://www.inkedshop.com/products/grave-digger-skull-handbag-by-killstar-black

It also comes in pink if you're feeling girly.

 

Hugs!

[Aggie1]

4 hours ago, Elizabeth Star said:

 

I wandered out of my comfort zone again. Sans skulls and a minimal amount of black. 

 

A bit more black I think. Black purse, black pearls?

[Elizabeth Star]

3 hours ago, AgnesBardsie said:

A bit more black I think. Black purse, black pearls?

Hmm… my purse and mask are black. 

[LindaMarie]

This is what I'm wearing today. Nothing special going on, just felt like glamming up today.

 

[Teri Anne]

Looking nice Linda Marie

 

[Maddee]

15 hours ago, LindaMarie said:

This is what I'm wearing today. Nothing special going on, just felt like glamming up today.

 

Always looking good lady.

No special reason needed.  

[Teri Anne]

9 hours ago, Maddee said:

Always looking good lady.

No special reason needed.  

Thats right  and just because you feel like it is reason enough.

Stopped by my neighborhood Goodwill and luckily found a few tops and some jeans which is odd because I rarely find any plus sized clothing in that one Goodwill.

I usually check that Goodwill for movies and electronic stuff or books,

 

 

 

[Maddee]

There's a big goodwill a block from where I live now.  I recently bought some jeans and a small shelf stand there.

 

I'm feeling down.  Crying all the time, confused, uninterested.

 

I only wore this dress out once, on Easter, to a couple girlfriends house, 5 years ago (when I still had some friends to go to).  Now I don't wear stuff that doesn't cover the shoulders or hide my upper body. 

 

I got it pretty good really.

Sorry im not more positive.  And for my lack of effort with hair and makeup.

 

Wondering how far I'll have to go with surgeries to help my "dysphoria"

 

Reaching out in the middle of the night that is my daytime.

 

[Jackie C.]

You make that dress look great @Maddee! Thank you for sharing!

 

It sounds like you're having a tussle with the depression monster though. Is there anybody you can talk to? The depression monster is really hard to beat alone. At the very least, try to do something nice for yourself. Self care is super important when depression is trying to kick down your door.

 

No answer to the "how far" question though. That's personal. You just do what you need to to do feel right and it's different for all of us. I hope you find what you need.

 

Hugs!

[Maddee]

Thank you @Jackie C.

Hugs
I don't have anyone to reach out to.
Will keep looking- in the meantime I'll have to play halfass dress up and fish for compliments to keep going....

 

 

 

[Jackie C.]

I don't know what the landscape is where you are, but over here when I feel sad and lonely I reach out to groups in the community. I'm introverted as heck, BUT I can mingle with other LGBT+ folks for a couple hours without coming off like a total freak. Are there any groups (I use Meetup, your mileage may vary) you could hook up with for something casual?

 

Chatting on the internet is great and we'll do everything we can, but at our heart, humans are social creatures. We really need that face to face connection to maintain our mental health.

 

Hugs!

[Teri Anne]

Is there a trans group in your area?

Call the local LGBT pride center closest to you and ask them.

A local trans group really helped me to sort out my dysphoria.

I grew away from that group when they got too political and started taking sides on everything.

I still have my down moments but they aren't near as bad these days.

[Emily Michele]

Feeling a little risqué the past couple of days…

 

felt pretty good, and fierce, these past two days. My Friday outfit was a bit more subtle in real life because it was rainy and gloomy, not bright lighting as in the pic, but still very oooh la la!

[Jackie C.]

Looking good @Emily Michele! I am MUCH too old for either of those outfits. Also, I work with autistic kids so that wouldn't work at ALL for professional apparel. ?

 

Hugs!

[Emily Michele]

@Jackie C. I just turned 47 years old, and as my mama says, “you are only as old as you feel.” Are you really too old, or do you just think you are too old? 
ever hear of a lady named Iris Apfel?

https://medium.com/mind-cafe/five-terrific-life-lessons-from-iris-apfel-a-100-year-old-fashion-icon-7c086c230bc0

Don’t limit yourself with a number or a label. You’ve been unbending yourself from limits in other more difficult areas, why keep this particular restraint in yourself? I just buy and wear what I like… and I feel great and unstoppable in my clothes!