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Mia, forgive me, I should have introduced myself. Hi, I’m Bette. I work with trans youth and I have many young trans friends; the other day I was at a party with 30-40 of them. If you’re envious of young trans folks I understand; when I left that party I broke down in tears thinking of all I’d missed out on as a young person. But I was also happy for them, and if anyone were to try and take away their happiness I would fight for them with all my strength.
I don’t know you, but it seems to me you’re angry about more than just your inability to find help? I’m very sorry to hear that you are struggling, but I hope you are not blaming young trans folks for that. Imo there is a generation gap in the trans community and it needs healing, not exacerbating. We are far stronger when we are united.
strength:
the quality or state of being strong : capacity for exertion or endurance
: power to resist force :
: one regarded as embodying or affording force or firmness : SUPPORT
Did you ask her if there was anything particular you need to learn from the BIble? Any particular book you should read? Result she wants you to have? Did you ask her if she is reading her Bible, and what she is getting out of it lately? What is the Lord speaking to her?
It shouldn't be a one way thing.
Comparison can be deadly. If the 23 year old beauty queen is the standard for women, all others are not real women. If Jocko Willink is the standard for men, all other men are not real men.
I read an essay about the mermaid and transgender people. There is a statue of a mermaid in a Danish harbor. She looks wistfully back at the sea, where she cannot go because she is human above, but neither can she walk on the land, because of her lower half. Psychologists have noted a fascination with mermaids by trans kids. TG folk, using the mermaid analogy, can feel like we can neither mountain climb nor explore the depths because of our condition, but there is plenty we CAN do. As humans we can both climb mountains and explore the depths.
Not all women give birth. Not all men become fathers. Not all men can pull cable wire all day long, walk iron safely, or heft 600 pounds in a dead lift. That does not mean they are not men.
Sally, thank you for deciding to post your life experiences. They have certainly struck some chords with me, and have caused me to look again at my life and where I am going. I will not take up your thread with my thoughts, but suffice to say that I was commissioned into the military (RAF) as an aviator in 1963. Fortunately my cross-gender feelings were mild and easily suppressed. It is only in later life that they have come to the fore.
I look forward to reading more.
Karen
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