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By Heather Shay · Posted
A calming thought can be a simple sentence or phrase that helps to reduce anxiety or stress by shifting your focus towards positivity or a sense of control. Examples include: "I am strong, calm, and stable," or "I've done hard things before. I can do it again," says Erica Layne. -
By Heather Shay · Posted
A calming thought can be a simple sentence or phrase that helps to reduce anxiety or stress by shifting your focus towards positivity or a sense of control. Examples include: "I am strong, calm, and stable," or "I've done hard things before. I can do it again," says Erica Layne. -
By Heather Shay · Posted
A calming thought can be a simple sentence or phrase that helps to reduce anxiety or stress by shifting your focus towards positivity or a sense of control. Examples include: "I am strong, calm, and stable," or "I've done hard things before. I can do it again," says Erica Layne. -
By Heather Shay · Posted
A calming thought can be a simple sentence or phrase that helps to reduce anxiety or stress by shifting your focus towards positivity or a sense of control. Examples include: "I am strong, calm, and stable," or "I've done hard things before. I can do it again," says Erica Layne. -
By Heather Shay · Posted
Do you have a mantra that helps calm you? -
By Heather Shay · Posted
A calming thought can be a simple sentence or phrase that helps to reduce anxiety or stress by shifting your focus towards positivity or a sense of control. Examples include: "I am strong, calm, and stable," or "I've done hard things before. I can do it again," says Erica Layne. -
By Heather Shay · Posted
Do you have a treasured keepsake that reminds you that you are LGBTQ+ and to love yourself? -
By kat2 · Posted
With pressure from James mum, that she wanted children and James not wishing to tell his parents, up came a job in the United Arab Emirates he took up a job to repair military jets for the Saudi Gov He later got a job teaching others the skills that he had gained over the many years in the royal air force. My mum dad and sister loved james, he was a real romantic, we did the usual trying to keep in touch best we could but it was heart wrenching, he wanted to bank enough money for a house and sadly over time we drifted apart. -
By April Marie · Posted
I call it the black bear. Working with my therapist and having the support of my wife has helped me keep it at bay. I have created some strategies that help me fight it off should I feel it coming around. -
By Karen Carey · Posted
Winston Churchill referred to his depression as 'black dog'. -
By kat2 · Posted
My average always seems to fluctuate between 55kg which is 121 pounds and 60 kg which is 132 pounds, mostly i worry alot and get stressed very easy, when we are on hormones we had a weight sheet, as normally Oestrogen tends to gain weight Had a very hot long walk yesterday managed to do 4.8 miles and had plenty of offers from guys in cars wanting to borrow my portable fan!! still a lovely day despite the heat below some of the scenery which hugs the coast. Tonight is a night out with friends our usual wednesday night out, i hope your day is bright and beautiful. -
By Carolyn Marie · Posted
Good for you, @Jake. I hope it fits right and is comfortable and safe. Good luck! Carolyn Marie -
By kurogami777 · Posted
So many parallels in mine and @KathyLauren and @MirandaB's stories. I think late 30's counts as "later in life" lol. I didn't just ignore signs, I repressed them and shoved them into a deep recess in my mind. I grew up in a very religious and conservative household, and knew deep down that these feelings and thoughts would be punished. I went through my typical teenager rebellious phase which allowed me to experiment with lots of things, like nail painting, long hair, that kind of thing, but even then I kept some things tightly under wraps. I really wanted to experiment with makeup, but could never push myself to actually take the leap into that. For a very long time, I didn't even know that trans people existed, so it never crossed my mind that I could be one. It wasn't until I was in college that I was exposed, and even then I never thought I could be trans myself. After a lot of years of battling depression, fighting what I thought was body dysmorphia, and engaging with unhealthy "hobbies" I finally had my "huh, wait a sec" moment. I remember it distinctly. I was at the grocery store with my partner and saw a woman walking by and my first thought was "I wish I looked like that". This definitely wasn't the first time I had thought that, and realizing that in that moment was powerful, and I knew I couldn't ignore or repress it anymore. This kicked off several months of deep research, and deep introspection. I, being the person I am, took the scientific approach and tried to disprove this to myself. I tried really hard to find something that I could point to and say "this is why I'm not trans" but only found myself relating to other trans people's experiences, and eventually learned what gender dysphoria was. I showed all the signs: always playing as women in games, complaining that men's fashion was terrible and women had so many more and better options, feeling very uncomfortable with my own body hair, specifically in the "men's only" areas like my chest and stomach, really hating my body but never fully understanding what about it I hated, the list goes on and on. I never had the experience or vocabulary to accurately describe what it was I was feeling, and after my months of panicked research, I finally had the words. The moment I finally looked at myself in the mirror and accepted the truth of who I was everything fell into place in my mind, and I felt a peace I had never felt in my life before. I was lucky enough to have a week alone in the house, so I took that opportunity to do one final experiment and try out some cheap clothes and cheap makeup and a super cheap wig, but it was enough. I told myself that if I put myself together and I was even remotely uncomfortable with it, then that was it, I wasn't trans, and I can move on with my life, but once I saw the finished product, despite the terrible fashion sense, and completely awful job at doing makeup, I saw myself for the first time in my entire life and I saw myself smiling like I never have before. So, TLDR, I figured it out by finally facing my feelings, learning about myself and what these feelings meant, and then experimenting. The scientific method, I guess lol. Observation (I have these feelings), question (does that mean I'm trans?), hypothesis (I might be trans), experiment (try on being a woman), analysis (I feal right for the first time), conclusion (I am trans).
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