What do women talk about/do?

[Ivy C]

Hi again! Having received answers to my previous question, "What do men talk about/do", I'm kind of realizing that it might also be helpful to have answers for what women talk about and do. So what do women do together, what do they talk about, and what do they not talk about? Thanks!!

[DeeDee]

@Ivy C This is starting to seem like a clipboard survey. ? What is it you are looking for exactly, what makes you ask the questions? Does your conversation change depending on who you are talking to and how they identify?

 

 

Same rules of age apply. Women can and will talk about literally all of the same things men do but they do not need the focal point that men do to gather and start talking. ?

 

"How are things?" by any real friend gets a genuine response and not just a "fine", but as a parent most of my conversations are centred around my children and what they are doing, other womens children and what they are doing, then their partners, pets and careers or hobbies.

The biggest difference in my opinion is the fact that emotion and empathy play a far bigger role in the conversation. Far less comparing for the sake of one upmanship (though it can happen, it just doesnt tend to with my friends, we've known each other too long for anyone to pretend to be perfect ?) it is more about having someone else acknowledge how it feels, though if I want to play to type, music, food, fashion and films. Bridget Jones is a great example of internal and external monologue, though we aren't all middle class.

 

[Ivy C]

@DeeDee Thank you for your insight! I'm so sorry if I made you feel uncomfortable, that was not my intention. I have basically been a recluse for my whole life and I'm just now trying to makes sense of social structures and how I fit into them. Gender doesn't make very much sense to me, especially since all I have to go off of is fictional characters, so I thought it would help me if someone could explain things about the binary genders.

[Elizabeth Star]

I love the interactions I have with women now. I still get confused about fashion and social interactions but my friends are amazing and helpful. Whenever I have a question I can just call one of them and ask. It doesn't have to be a short or straight forward to the point conversation either and usually isn't. We talk about whatever, and I mean Whatever, comes to mind without any judgement.

[DeeDee]

@Ivy C not uncomfortable, just curious where the questioning was coming from/leading to, I didn't mean to sound defensive.  In any year that wasn't 2020 the best suggestion I could give you to see the difference is to go to a cafe/pub or a place where people gather and wait for something and just people watch. There is a huge but subtle difference in the way that people tend to interact with one another depending on their perceived gender.

[Robin]

I have found that people tend to talk about the things that everyone is traditionally judged on.  Men want to know which one of them earns the most money and has the fastest car.  Women want to know which one of them has the best kept home, and the most healthy and successful children and grandchildren.

 

Robin.

[Ivy C]

@ElizabethStar @DeeDee @Robin Thank you all so much!