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Coming out 22 years ago


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Coming out 22 years was a relief for me,I was crossdressing part time at the time and was at a crossroads if I was happy being part time or fulltime as Bre.Also was weighing out things too,realized I liked dressing as Bre more.It included realizing wearing the male wardrobe was getting boring to wear.I always liked the feminine wardrobe more including the shoes.Then one day before thanksgiving came over and asked my real parents whom took me in when I was 10 years old.Told me the ball is in my court,make the right choice.It was two days later I came back finally came out I am going fulltime.Took it well and knew I was going to be much happier.It was great with my 2 younger sisters too,they have looked up to me as a big sister to this day.Best part was bringing some boxes over and dumped my male clothes and shoes in them finally getting rid of them.To this day,zero regrets and never going back dressing in guy mode ever again

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It's good to read you found yourself and what worked for you Bre. Congrats, and thank you for sharing.

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Realized I loved wearing the dresses and heels instead of the suits and ties.Remember mom and my sisters walking out in dresses wanting to be like them in my teens

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