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Shay

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I want to apologize again for my mis-interpreting a posting from a beautiful lady name Rosalina. I am so used to seeing BEFORE and AFTER photos in that order that I neglected to THOROUGHLY read the text and didn't realized the mis-gendered her and that is the biggest insult I can imagine. Where there was a hurting soul I put fuel on the fire instead of the intended soothing sauve to the wound.

 

I reached out to her and asked for forgiveness as I understand the pain of transition and know I am not even close to being correctly gendered let alone mis-gendered. 

 

When someone reachs out here I (we) must make sure we read and understand as best as we can what the person needs and is asking for - and it is better to let a veteran - such as a moderator reach out instead of putting mine (your) foot in my (your) mouth and causing more hurt.

 

I know this forum was established especially to help people with suicidal tendencies and to always be careful.

 

I want so badly to reach out and comfort any hurting soul - I've been hurting for 68 years and know the pain and the suicidal thoughts and I am so sorry if I have EVER said ANYTHING that does harm to anyone of you and if I have please forgive me as I try my best to be compassionate.

 

If I do make a mistake please send me a message and I will correct any wrongful words I have posted.

 

I hope you understand where I am coming from and accept me as I am - a flawed human being trying to do her best.

 

Heather Shay

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Carolyn Marie

Thank you for your kind words and great advice, Shay.  I know they are heartfelt.  We all make mistakes, and we hopefully learn from them.  I know you learned from yours.  Please don't beat yourself up. 

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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20 hours ago, Shay said:

 

I reached out to her and asked for forgiveness

Heather Shay, we all know where your heart is and the fact that you reached out to Rosalina demonstrates that.  Yes, we are all imperfect humans .. but your sincerity is pure gold ❤️

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Thank you I hope others can learn to take their time to make sure they know what they are saying... Like doctors.... First do no harm.

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Thank you @Shay for your words, we all know that your comments were made in mistake, just glad you realised quickly and resolved things.

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