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BrandenLeon

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So normally I blog about my issues, but 2 weeks ago I met my friends. Their behavior scared me and I feel concerned for their well being and I need advice. 

 

My friends have been believing and ghosts and the supernatural to a unhealthy extent. They think they have ghosts that fallow them. And I think it might be affecting their view on reality. I try not to bash people beliefs, cuz I am questioning my own. To an unrelated reasons.

But with their actions and who they did a channeling session in front of me. Made me really worried for them. 

One of my friends is a schizophrenic same as me, but I realized my delusions were taking over my life and I got help. 

 

I am just worried they may do something dangerous. 

 

If anyone can help me with giving them advice on trying to go back to reality would help out. 

 

Thank you for reading this.

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A belief in the supernatural is pretty harmless most of the time. I for one would love to have a legitimate encounter with a spirit or a cryptid. Especially the cryptid. Heck, I'd probably be OK with being abducted by aliens if they weren't pricks about it.

Had my chips fallen a little differently, I might have realized my dream of being a parapsychologist. Searching for evidence of the unknown, even if I never find it, sounds like an awesome way to spend my days.

 

The supernatural has been pretty popularized with things like "Ghost Hunters" too.

 

The schizophrenic angle is a little worrying though. So is the, "Ghosts follow me around," bit. That one is easier. I mean why would you spend your afterlife stalking a twenty-something as they go through their day-to-day lives? What's your motivation?

 

I also have to ask what was involved in their "channeling session?" What were they trying to do? What happened? I'm trying to get a feel for why you're thinking this behavior is dangerous because I'm coming in cold. I mean I have friends that go to church on the regular. I think they're wasting their time, but so long as they're not hurting anybody, who cares?

 

Hugs!

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You are a wonderful friend to be concerned about them, but the real goal is for you to take care of yourself.  You mention they have MI issues which I agree is a cause to be concerned for them, but you cannot work their health program.  Your focus needs to be what part of their behavior worries you and could be a trigger to bring your health down. 

 

If you share a counselor with them, it would be fine to describe your own feelings about their behavior and how it affected you which will let your counselor be on an alert for all of you.  Ghosts / spirits, and that nature I am not too worried about because they can be many things to us.  I will use the word ghost because you have.  Some ghosts can be cheery and comforting, since they are actually memories that we give a shape and form to and those can come up to help us in times of hurt and doubt.  Those are fine to have around.  Other ghost / memories can be the memories of harm done to us or harm we did to others because of so many things and we have not resolved them.  Those ghosts are the ones we need to fear and avoid and those are what you need to discuss with your counselor.  I do know a couple of people whose "ghost" turned into a DID Alter and took a while to resolve back into the Host personality, so I have compassion for what is going on.  I have had several points in my life where without help for JUST ME that I could have slipped into an alternate reality myself, and I and a counselor think that I wanted one where my GD did not happen. 

 

Channeling is letting the ghost / memories have a voice from inside of us and we speak their words, or more what our minds think are their words.  My problem with it is that most of it is a jumble of words that only have meaning to the speaker the difference between this and "speaking in tongues" is that the words are words in my shared language with the speaker and not "angelic languages" that religious practitioners claim to use. 

 

One more time though, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF in this, realize that even the best of friends are even better when they are in good emotional help.

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21 hours ago, VickySGV said:

You are a wonderful friend to be concerned about them, but the real goal is for you to take care of yourself.  You mention they have MI issues which I agree is a cause to be concerned for them, but you cannot work their health program.  Your focus needs to be what part of their behavior worries you and could be a trigger to bring your health down. 

 

If you share a counselor with them, it would be fine to describe your own feelings about their behavior and how it affected you which will let your counselor be on an alert for all of you.  Ghosts / spirits, and that nature I am not too worried about because they can be many things to us.  I will use the word ghost because you have.  Some ghosts can be cheery and comforting, since they are actually memories that we give a shape and form to and those can come up to help us in times of hurt and doubt.  Those are fine to have around.  Other ghost / memories can be the memories of harm done to us or harm we did to others because of so many things and we have not resolved them.  Those ghosts are the ones we need to fear and avoid and those are what you need to discuss with your counselor.  I do know a couple of people whose "ghost" turned into a DID Alter and took a while to resolve back into the Host personality, so I have compassion for what is going on.  I have had several points in my life where without help for JUST ME that I could have slipped into an alternate reality myself, and I and a counselor think that I wanted one where my GD did not happen. 

 

Channeling is letting the ghost / memories have a voice from inside of us and we speak their words, or more what our minds think are their words.  My problem with it is that most of it is a jumble of words that only have meaning to the speaker the difference between this and "speaking in tongues" is that the words are words in my shared language with the speaker and not "angelic languages" that religious practitioners claim to use. 

 

One more time though, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF in this, realize that even the best of friends are even better when they are in good emotional help.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thank you so much. And your right. I need care for my self frist before anyone else.

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