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So I came out as trans to my mum


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I finally did it! I brought it up by reminding her of a time I told her how I hated being a boy as a kid, and she remembered. I followed with, “What if I told you I sometimes still think that way?” And then I just fully explained how I knew I was a trans woman.

 

She naturally had some questions, but was super supportive and told me that all she wants is for me to be happy! She asked me if I was going to change my name, and I said I was, but that I wanted to keep my current name for now. She also asked me if I wanted to fully transition and was super supporting when I said I did want that! I also asked her not to tell the rest of my family, which she agreed to

 

I feel a huge weight lifted off my shoulders and I’m really happy! I also feel kinda weird, but this was one of the scariest things I ever had to say and I’m so glad I did

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:applause::applause::applause: Yay! What a fantastic Christmas present! Congratulations on being brave enough to have the conversation, it is so good to hear that your mum is supportive and asking good questions. ?

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Dear @SpongeBobFan, I'm so very happy to read this news especially on Christmas! I remember you were thinking about talking with her the other day. I'm sure it was super challenging to work up the courage to talk with your mother, and it must feel wonderful to know she is supportive and understanding of you. I'm hopeful your relationship with her will continue to grow as you move forward as well. Wishing you the best!

 

Love,

~Audrey.

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That's wonderful @SpongeBobFan! I can totally imagine that huge weight that lifted your shoulders, and I'm so glad she is both open to ask questions and fully supportive. Now you have a really close ally that can support you in your journey. You go girl!

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On 12/24/2020 at 12:51 PM, SpongeBobFan said:

I finally did it!

Congrats @SpongeBobFan on coming out to your mom. Best to you and your evolving relationship with your mom. Hopefully it will strengthen it further. Opening yourself up like that can sometimes have a very positive affect and help you both become even closer to one another. That took a lot of courage on your part..I’m very happy for you.

 

On 12/24/2020 at 12:51 PM, SpongeBobFan said:

I brought it up by reminding her of a time I told her how I hated being a boy as a kid, and she remembered.

Most caring mom’s pay very close attention to ALL the little things we kids think they’ll forget. I’ve found that they rarely ever do!!

 

My Best,

Susan R?

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Congratulations! @SpongeBobFan!  To have even One person in your corner supporting you is HUGE, and specially since its your mum.

I know you've been trying to find a way to cross the barrier recently so I think it must be a huge lift to your confidence to make the leap.  Very happy for you❣️

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@SpongeBobFan OMG thats awesome. I know just how scary it can be telling the one person in the whole world that you are different than they've always knew you to be. I was so scared that I almost didn't tell my mom, I really didn't want to lose her. With me I had to tell her three different times, the first two times she though I was joking. She said "Yeah Right!" after I told her the first two times. The last time I followed with "YOU NEED TO LISTEN TO ME AND TAKE THIS AS SERIOUS. I'M NOT JOKING!". After that it was a argument and a rather long discussion about how I was wrong and mistaken. She even went as far as wishing I would change my mind. To her this was a choice that I was making wrongly. To me it was something that felt right and was what I needed.

It's takes real courage to take the step of telling your parents that you are trans. It makes you feel better and it makes you a Hero. We are all proud of you and this step you've taken. Be proud of what I consider to be the hardest thing you will ever do as a trans person.

 

Hug Holly

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On 12/24/2020 at 3:51 PM, SpongeBobFan said:

I finally did it! I brought it up by reminding her of a time I told her how I hated being a boy as a kid, and she remembered. I followed with, “What if I told you I sometimes still think that way?” And then I just fully explained how I knew I was a trans woman.

 

She naturally had some questions, but was super supportive and told me that all she wants is for me to be happy! She asked me if I was going to change my name, and I said I was, but that I wanted to keep my current name for now. She also asked me if I wanted to fully transition and was super supporting when I said I did want that! I also asked her not to tell the rest of my family, which she agreed to

 

I feel a huge weight lifted off my shoulders and I’m really happy! I also feel kinda weird, but this was one of the scariest things I ever had to say and I’m so glad I did

 

 

I have not come out yet, but, your backstory to your mom is what I was kind of planning for my sister. She is 1o years younger than me and she lived with Dad and my stepmom and I lived with my grandparents. For my little part to her I am planning on asking if she remembers that we had plaid The Sims and with her Barbie dolls a few times? and then going to the trans talk.

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