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MisterJax

Hello everyone. I'm unusual in that I am one of several personalities in one body and this body is AFAB, but I'm a dude. I am often the dominant personality so I'm out and about a lot. I definitely feel like I qualify as FTM. I think I could learn a lot on this site about how to feel more like me.

 

You'll notice I'm not a typical guy, I go for more of an androgynous 80s style because that is the kind of music I perform and listen to. But I definitely don't feel feminine when I wear what I wear, I feel like a rock god (ok...ok I WISH I felt like a rock god)

 

Besides music my interests include Celtic and Norse culture, cooking (when I can get around being too lazy) and going out on the town (thanks a lot Covid). 

 

Anyway, out of respect for another personality who shares this space I am not going to have any surgery, but I have a packer and I'm about to get my first decent STP device, and I can't wait. 

 

Also, if I have said anything wrong or inappropriate let me know because I am new to this.

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Carolyn Marie

Welcome to Transgender Pulse, MrJax.  What you said in your intro is fine - nothing inappropriate at all.  You may not fit the "usual" profile of an FtM, but you certainly fit in here as an FtM.  I welcome your search for more information as well as friends, and I encourage you to look around at any of the forums and post comments and questions.  We'll be here for you.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Timber Wolf

Hi MisterJax,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf🐾

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Hello Mister Jax.  Welcome!!  I like your style!  Its great.  You certainly qualify, if that is the right word.  Rock on!

Jani

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Welcome MisterJax.

I do have a bit of interest in Celtic and Norse culture myself - not that I'm a scholar or anything tho.

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Vanessa Michelle

@MisterJaxwelcome to the group!!! As a Gen X'er I think the 80's ruled!!! It's great to have you here! I know you'll find this a welcoming and safe place to learn, share and connect with some truly awesome people. ❤️

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MisterJax

Thank you all for such a warm welcome!

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Welcome MisterJax! Are you part of a system too? :0 

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MisterJax
7 hours ago, TTheta said:

Welcome MisterJax! Are you part of a system too? :0 

Yes I am. 

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On 1/11/2021 at 9:38 AM, MisterJax said:

You'll notice I'm not a typical guy,

It’s a pleasure to meet you @MisterJax. You look great. You’ll see that most of us here are not typical and I think that’s a good thing. Uniqueness is something we all share. It sounds like things are going very well for you and I wish you the best on your continuing journey. Thanks for reaching out here!

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

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11 hours ago, MisterJax said:

Yes I am. 

I am so glad not to be alone! (well y'know what I mean)

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MisterJax
4 hours ago, TTheta said:

I am so glad not to be alone! (well y'know what I mean)

Ikr? This is awesome!! Does this site have a pm feature? Is it cool to chat?

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Does this site have a pm feature?

 

Yes we do. As soon as you make 5 posts it will become available to you.

 

MaryEllen

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Hi MrJax!  I'm part of a multiple collective as well, except we were AMAB and we're exploring whether MtF transition would be right for us.  I hope that you find what you need here, and know that you're not alone!

RachelSB

 

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MisterJax
9 hours ago, MaryEllen said:

 

Yes we do. As soon as you make 5 posts it will become available to you.

 

MaryEllen

How do I get points?

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1 hour ago, MisterJax said:

How do I get points?

 

Right now the system says you have 6 POSTS (not points) so your PM capabilities for the membership are yours now to use.  You should have an envelope icon at the top right of the Forums and the world is yours.  Just follow the Community rules and have fun.  Let an ADMIN know if you have troubles with any one you try to contact.  You can contact a person but they do not have to respond. I will send you a test message just so you can see the insides.

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Hi @MisterJax,

    I just wanted to say hello and I like your jacket. I'm sure you'll find plenty of friends and support here. Have fun.

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MisterJax
22 hours ago, Abi said:

Hi @MisterJax,

    I just wanted to say hello and I like your jacket. I'm sure you'll find plenty of friends and support here. Have fun.

Thanks!

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Vanessa Michelle

Awesome! @MisterJaxI love seeing new members get involved and connecting with others like this. Again, welcome! ❤️

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On 1/14/2021 at 4:28 AM, MisterJax said:

Ikr? This is awesome!! Does this site have a pm feature? Is it cool to chat?

Sorry I didn't see this sooner, OF COURSE WE CAN :DD

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Damien Mcknight
On 1/13/2021 at 5:43 PM, MisterJax said:

Yes I am. 

We’re a system too!

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MisterJax

Sweet! I didn't know there were so many of us.

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Princess-audra
On 1/21/2021 at 7:13 AM, Damien Mcknight said:

Yea! We r hiding,, :D

I don't get out much, I was not aware that we are hiding. haha.

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Hello there!
Im Anna and from just over the hill in Central NC! Been to your town and area many times but never as Anna. Liked your intro! And I must say you are an attractive person! Looking to get to know others and relating to their journey.

always here to listen! Hope to chat soon!

-Anna

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