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Hi, my name is Jude.

 

Feel free to direct message me here (not sure if that's possible) or on the Discord server. 

 

I'm nonbinary and live in New Britain, CT.  

 

 

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Jackie C.

Hello Jude and welcome to Transgenderpulse!

 

We can certainly direct message you, but you don't have direct message privileges yourself until you clear the five-post mark on the forums.

 

So as the mood strikes you, please feel free to join the discussion, ask questions or whatever strikes your fancy. We're glad you're here!

 

Hugs!

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Thanks, I have a question - what is "MultiQuote?"

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Jackie C.

I have no idea what you're talking about. More information please?

 

Oh derp, I found what you were looking for. Yeah, it just lets you quote more than one post more easily.

 

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Lol here, I'll show you what I mean:

 

 

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Jackie C.

Yeah, no, I got it. It just lets you do this:

 

1 hour ago, Jude said:

Lol here, I'll show you what I mean:

 

 

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1 hour ago, Jude said:

Thanks, I have a question - what is "MultiQuote?"

 

1 hour ago, Jude said:

Hi, my name is Jude.

 

Feel free to direct message me here (not sure if that's possible) or on the Discord server. 

 

I'm nonbinary and live in New Britain, CT.  

 

 

trans_and_nonbinary_flag_landscape.jpg

 

By clicking the multi-quote box on the different posts you want to quote within the thread.

 

Hugs!

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Hey Jude! Welcome to the forums and hello from your neighbor here in NYC. It's nice to meet you and I'm hopeful you'll find the community here warm and friendly.

(Now I have a certain Beatles song stuck in my head...)

 

Love,

~Audrey.

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

Yeah, no, I got it. It just lets you do this:

 

 

 

 

By clicking the multi-quote box on the different posts you want to quote within the thread.

 

Hugs!

 

Cool, thanks!

 

-J.

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4 hours ago, Jude said:

I'm nonbinary

Hi Jude, Nice to meet you. If you have a minute and are open to the idea, why not tell us alittle more about your journey thus far? I’m sure like many others here, you have much to share. I’m sure your story might be of help to others who have had similar backgrounds and experiences.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

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Vanessa Michelle

Welcome to the group @Jude! We're glad to have you join us!! ❤️

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Timber Wolf

Hi Jude,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf🐾

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13 hours ago, Susan R said:

Hi Jude, Nice to meet you. If you have a minute and are open to the idea, why not tell us alittle more about your journey thus far? I’m sure like many others here, you have much to share. I’m sure your story might be of help to others who have had similar backgrounds and experiences.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

 

Nice to meet you all too. Here's a little of my background: I found out that trans people existed in college and thought that was really cool. The first transgender person I met was a transman who passed very well. I thought he was cis before he explained that he was trans and even showed me a picture of what he looked like pre-physical transition (unprompted).  I was very out as a pansexual polyamorous person and even lived in the first gender inclusive housing on campus at my school for my last 2 years of undergrad. I helped to keep this housing open and available to students on campus since my 2 out transgender roommates didn't have any spoons for advocacy in addition to simply being out and trans at the same time (in addition to dealing with 2 different kinds of mental illnesses respectively). This housing has expanded since I've been there and now includes 2 suites in freshman housing in addition to 2 suites in upperclassmen housing (although I imagine this may fluctuate on the need for gender-inclusive housing based on the amount of people interested per semester). I went to many gender discussion groups hosted by a nonbinary person in my area after undergrad and came out as nonbinary around 2017-2018. I use They/Them pronouns exclusively and have issues with gendered restrooms whenever I am in a building that doesn't have a gender neutral option. If I have to choose I will typically use the women's but I hate it. I wish all buildings had gender neutral restrooms available. I lived in San Francisco for about a year and was able to get an "X" on my drivers license, which was awesome! Then I moved to NYC and got my name changed with the help of some lawyers who took on my case pro bono (in connection with the NYC LGBT Center). Then I moved back to CT and had to choose between "M" or "F" on my new license and was sad, but at least the name was right this time! Last January (2020) Connecticut updated their requirements for changing a gender marker on licenses and I was able to change mine to "X" again so I'm pretty psyched about that. :) Currently I'm taking classes to get my masters at a local state school and working full time from home with my girlfriend (she's trans too). I've had to advocate for myself a lot this past semester since Connecticut's state schools haven't updated their systems to allow "X" as an option yet. It's slow going but my estimated graduation date is Spring of 2022 so I've got time to make some noise before I graduate.

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