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Eight Years Have Gone by Since Surgery Date


VickySGV

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It is 5:30 PM my time.  8 years ago at this time I had been taken to my room after GCS by Dr. Bowers at Sutter Hospital in San Benito CA, just outside of San Francisco.  I had been cleared to order dinner from the hospital kitchen, the food was actually good when it got there, but a wet beef burrito, miso soup, non-fat milk, and fruit cocktail for desert is not what most people would envision as their first meal of a new body, but it was good.  About twenty minutes before I got to the room, I had been in the Recovery ward, and in my haziness of coming out of the anesthetic I had had a dream of being in my parent's oldest car with them begging them to stop and pull over so I could pee. A few moments later it seems they connected my catheter to its collection bag and the dream and bladder discomfort ended.  I have one coming to picture that shows my legs under a blanket spread apart by a couple of ice bags on the swollen area and I see this in almost all of the "immediately after" pictures of my other Postie friends.  I call it Post Op Leg Position, but it is real and seen nowhere else.  I am happy it happened, but there were some rough times in the months to come, but by my first anniversary they were in the books as simply some unique memories.  As I have written here in the Forums, I have learned several things.  No matter how well prepared for GCS you are it will still be far from a walk in the park.  It will affect your outlook on life differently than you once imagined.  It can be lonely at the wrong times.  You will learn what GCS DOES NOT DO for your life and other's lives.  I know now that it is wrong for me to encourage others to have the surgery when they are unsure it is right for them, but once they know it is right, they can count on me for full support.  I have visited others and been with their families and friends as they are coming out of surgery many times, and those times help me with any small lingering doubts I have had to know I did the right things and it is wonderful and not the grotesqie horrors our H8ers imagine for us and about us.  It is my second BD celebration of this month.

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Congratulations on your 2nd BD this month Vicky 🙂 8 years now, wow.

 

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Cyndi 

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Awesome!  Congratuations! 

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