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If memory serves me right, Susan will be flying home from Spokane today - a fully realized woman. I am so happy for you and proud of you.

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Oh, and she'll be able to sleep in her own bed and have breakfast in her jammies!!  Welcome home!!

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What a whirlwind, congratulations Susan !, enjoy being at home again

 

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Ahhh..Thank you ladies...you’re all so sweet. I did get home and I slept like a baby! I’m officially off my pain meds and so I think the minuscule amount of pain I feel is all there is so that’s a good thing. I have more pain from my new binding bra than any of the surgical areas. I still wake up stiff as can be but after a few hours I’m ready to rock ‘n roll. And NO, it’s not old age so don’t even go there folks..lol😋 It is so refreshing to be home where everything you need is where it’s supposed to be!

 

Thank you again for all your kind thoughts,

Susan R🌷

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yeehaw! Welcome home :DD

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Dear @Susan R, It's so wonderful to hear that you're back home now and recovering well from your surgery, and with so little pain. Sending you positive energy all the from NYC!

 

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~Audrey.

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Glad you're home Susan. I'm sure you're tired and happy all at once. Rest is always easier when you're in your own comforts.

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Don't forget to take it a bit easy even if your feeling great.  Get extra rest !   I remember being told not to pick up anything over 8 pounds.(a gallon of water)  Hard on a farm for sure but i did try to be a good kid.  My son helped out.

 

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Charlize

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@Confused1 @TTheta @Emily michelle @Audrey @Abi @Charlize @gina-nicole-t

 

I appreciate the warm welcome Home! It is so nice to start back on my regular routine a little bit at a time. I did my daily walk for the first time in almost 3 weeks. It wasn’t my regular 3 mile route but I did manage to do a very slow 1 mile walk around our neighborhood. It was nice to say hi to a few of my regular passerby's on the route. It felt like I walked 3 miles though..lol

 

Many Thanks All,

Susan R🌷 

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Welcome home! I'm glad to hear you are getting on well :)

 

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