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KimmieElise

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Hi all.  I have been lurking off and on for some time.  More just a time thing than any reluctance to post.

 

I am in my 50's single, and two years into my transition.  I am told by family and friends I pass, but I really have my doubts.  I don't seem to attract a lot of odd looks in public, and people treat me as a woman, but I still have my doubts.  It is probably as much people not paying attention to the others than anything else.

 

I am having trouble right now.  I have been out of work for a couple of months, and signed up to drive for a ride sharing company to make money to get through.  I have not legally changed my name, and my driver's license still shows the old me.  The profile picture I submit is the new me, and the company I am trying to sign up with keeps saying they suspect fraud.  It is like impossible to talk to a real person at this company.  I have never seen a company so removed from its customers and "contractors."  I am not the type to pull the "intersectionality" card.  I don't like being a -Naughty word-  I just want to live my life.  You know?  Anyway, I ended up going on their facebook page and posting.  I got the whole "We will look into this" thing, but I don't know now.  For all the noise this company makes about being LGBT inclusive and making a big deal about Pride, they make it super hard to sign up.  I don't have a couple weeks to get a new license to get my picture on my license, and I don't have the time and money to change my name yet.  I was going to do that after the first of the year, before I got laid off.  I really need to start getting some money coming in.

 

Has anyone else had this kind of problem?

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@KimmieElise Hi and welcome to the group!!! So glad you joined us!! I'm middle-aged myself. I trust you will find this a great place to get to know people with much in common. Wow, that's nuts about your company too. That would definitely be hard.  ❤️

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Dear @KimmieElise, it's lovely to meet you and welcome to the forums. I'm hopeful you'll find the community warm and friendly here, and I look forward to getting to know you.

 

I'm so sorry to hear about your challenge seeking a new job (especially during the pandemic) with regard to documentation that appears fraudulent in their view. Ideally, a human resources professional with experience onboarding would have reviewed your application and supporting documents, and the explanation for why they do not match would then make sense. A truly inclusive company would have anticipated this sort of thing, and they would know to avoid hiring practices that could be seen as discriminatory. I'm a big believer that actions speak louder than words, so I'm hopeful that your speaking up on social media attracted the attention of people in the company who will see the inconsistency between their inclusivity statement and their hiring practices, and take action - if this experience hasn't soured you on working for them before getting started. Wishing you the best!

 

Love,

~Audrey.

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Welcome KimmieElise.  Legal name change and id's caused me a great many issues in early transition.  I remember going to our local Motor Vehicle office after going full time and getting a new photo ID. The lady at the counter was a bit put off at first and then understood.  She took my picture and there i was.  Charles had my face.  Later when i got my named changed the same woman, with a huge smile, asked if i wanted if i wanted my old picture back.?   

Some companies are so big and so impersonal i'm not supprised you are having difficulties.  hope it works out well for you sooner than later.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Hi KimmieElise,

I'm sorry, but I have not had experience with this situation. But welcome to Transpulse!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf?

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Hello and Welcome.

Jobs seem only to be getting harder and harder to get with all this lack of communication and understanding. Still trying to wrap my head around how these companies and corps manage to keep people, let alone hire new ones. Hopefully things work out in your favor. Also hopefully they didn't convert the whole HR department into robots and eventually will figure out all just needed a little extra processing time. Since there's been a slight change in the political winds, maybe they'll start coming around sooner then later. Keep posting the progress, and social media online always has open ears. The pen maybe mightier than the sword, but can it really hold a candle to what Tweets and FB posts do now. I hope you are successful at landing the job and manage to get to those personal ID fixes soon. Be well, stay safe and may fortune favor you on your journey.

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I had a phone interview on Monday, which went well.  I have a follow up interview scheduled for Friday.  Hopefully, I am on my way to a new job.  I am really interested in this job.

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Hi @KimmieElise,

 

I snooped your profile. ? You most certainly pass, girl! Better than I do that's for sure... Also, I love your background picture, it's adorable!

Hoping that your sense that the interview went well is correct and that you find gainful employment. ?

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On 1/20/2021 at 6:40 PM, KimmieElise said:

Hi all.  I have been lurking off and on for some time.  More just a time thing than any reluctance to post.

Hello @KimmieElise Glad you finally decided to share a little of yourself with us here. We are a good bunch. Some of the early insecurities you shared are common and slowly go away with time presenting in your true gender. This forum has been a good support system for me over the years and for so many others. I’m sure you’ll find it to be a good support for you too.

 

6 hours ago, KimmieElise said:

I had a phone interview on Monday, which went well.  I have a follow up interview scheduled for Friday.  Hopefully, I am on my way to a new job.  I am really interested in this job.

I wish you the best with your newest job prospect. You are experiencing a lot of new changes. This must be quite an exciting time for you. Keep your head up and good luck!

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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Hello Kimmie! 
Im Anna from just up the road in North Carolina! Thank you for sharing. I’m new here but hoping to make some new friends like us! Always here to listen.....we all have to relate to each other and our struggles. Talk soon,

-Anna

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2 hours ago, Anna A said:

Hello Kimmie! 
Im Anna from just up the road in North Carolina! Thank you for sharing. I’m new here but hoping to make some new friends like us! Always here to listen.....we all have to relate to each other and our struggles. Talk soon,

-Anna

Aw.  Thanks, hun. :)

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