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Im a trans girl pre transition looking for some indoor clothing shopping ideas.


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Hi im a trans girl and im planning on doing most of my Social transition in the year before my first appointment. I want to start collecting my wardrobe and i want to first start getting used to wearing female clothes indoor. Im looking for shopping tips, cause i have no idea what to get exept bras and underwear. Please keep in mind that im more of a jeans kind of girl. Im looking for things that are not that expensive and are comfy. And maybe are able to make my booty pop out. I would love to be able to show at least a bit of a female figure. Im looking for ideas on top wear and bottom-wear. For bras i think i will start with a croptop type bra and for underwear i dont really know, i dont feel comfortable with tucking right now. I hope you girls have some ideas and tips.

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Women's clothing that isn't expensive? Do they have that in the Netherlands? Over here women's clothing costs at least twice what men's clothing does.

 

I'd advise browsing around in resale shops and whatever the Netherlands equivalent of Goodwill is. (Um, Goodwill is a charity organization that sells deeply discounted used goods to people in need.) See what you think is pretty and then go home and try it on. Your style will develop on its own as you get a better feel for what looks good on you. Take a supportive partner (romantic partner, good friend, family member) with you if you can. A second pair of eyes is always welcome and makes the experience more fun.

 

Happy hunting!

 

Hugs!

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If you don't like tucking, look into a "Gaff" to wear with anything that is "tighter". You can get underwear that has some padding for the hips and cheeks that can give you a bit if shape.  Try not to "hyper-feminize", most women you see every day are wearing basic comfortable clothes that are just cut different for women.  Basic women's tops can be bought online. Skinny jeans work if you are a thinner build.  The larger waist sizes tend not to fit "our curves-or lack of"   If ordering online- USE THE SIZE GUIDE" sizes can vary in a big way but if the guide has measurements then you will be more likely to get something close to fitting. Make sure you can return online orders.  Buy a basic knee length skirt to learn how to sit and move in a dress/skirt and not expose yourself ;)

Don't get "lacey" underwear ot thongs.  They don't feal good on male anatomy.  There are some very feminine 'french cut' or high waisted panties that still hold things realtively well.

And, as I always seem to say- Jackie's right   Second hand/thrift stores offer a cheap way to find your style. And shopping with a girl friend is lots of fun.

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You really need to go to the women's department and try out what you like. I initially took my daughter to the girls department when she was still living as a boy. They were very helpful and the outfits fit her. I initially got her 3 outfits that day. She did wear then around the house for a  few month before she fully transitioned. It always helps do do your hair if you can, that is what I did with her so she can fully make sure this is what she  wants adn give her a full feel for living a a girl before she did it in public. 

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Hi, in Europe I've used websites like Venca or Zalando. They have clothes in all price ranges, including big sales quite often. I've purchased 4 or 5 items for less than 30 euro. I avoid clothes sites that ship from China or outside the EU, due to long waiting times and the extra cost of import taxes.

 

Like you, I'm finding my style. I'm thin, so skinny jeans work well. I also like long shirts and blouses - they're comfortable, easy to combine with other clothes and cover the zipper area. Long cardigans are also nice. I'm not into tucking either so I use "compression underwear": it's women underwear that holds tight and (some of them) slightly push up your butt. I don't know if "compression underwear" is the right name in English (or Dutch!)

 

For shoes, I go for sandals or sneakers - and I'm a fool for high heels too!

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19 hours ago, Beatriz said:

I don't know if "compression underwear" is the right name in English (or Dutch!)

 

Here in the states it's "Shapewear"

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Depends. ?

 

Shapewear is it's own thing. Most of the underwear I own has extra elastic to keep my tummy out of sight. I'd like to get that corrected surgically, but one disaster at a time, right?

 

Hugs!

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