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First off thank you for reading.

 

These past few months have been confusing for me. I'm not sure if I'm trans male or not. 

 

Im lucky that I have a friend that is ftm and he has been so supportive in this as he is the only one I have talked to bout this. But I'm all for help as I try and answer if I'm trans or not. 

 

I know it my choice but I'm so confused. I have always been a tomboy growing up. Never really fit in with the girls and what they did. I always felt like an outsider, thinking bout what the boys where doing and wanting to join in. 

 

I've had thoughts of wanting to be a boy probably since mid teens. Like the what it be like if I was a boy and that. What I would be like. 

 

I've never seen myself as feminine always struggling with it, but never with being masculine. 

 

I hate my body and have found that in the last few years I have genuinely hated my breasts, visioning a flat chest. 

 

I have experimented with using masculine pronous with my friend and have welcomed it. Makes me giddy. 

 

So, that it really. Thank you for listening and hope you have a good day ?

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Hi Samuel,

 

Take your time. Love and accept yourself. You said it is your choice. Many of us feel that it is not a choice, it's who we are. You will probably find a lot of good advice around here and you may want to find a gender therapist to help you with your thoughts and dysphoria about your body.

 

Welcome to the website.

 

Chloe

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Salutations @Samuel2021 and welcome to TransGenderPulse!

 

Gender euphoria is a perfectly valid reason to start questioning. It sounds like you could have some body dysphoria as well if you're not loving having breasts. I know I adore mine (such as they are). Even if they are damage magnets.

 

Now then, why can can and will offer all you the experience, love and support that we can, you'll want a gender therapist to help you sort out your feelings and help you to figure out what you need going forward. We're peers, not doctors. Hopefully we can make your journey a little easier though. We're glad you're here.

 

Hugs!

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@Samuel2021 Welcome to the forums, it's nice to meet you and I'm glad you've joined us. Reading your post, I relate to some of your own thoughts - not fitting in with peers of my assigned gender, curiosity about what life would be as the other gender from a younger age, and dislike of my body's sex characteristics (I'm AMAB). I'm really happy to hear that you have a supportive friend you can confide in. As Jackie C. and Chloe have suggested, connecting with a gender therapist would be a great idea as you process your thoughts around gender identity and expression. The community here is also a warm and friendly place too. Questioning can be a very challenging place to be, and ultimately only you can decide if you are transgender or not. So take all the time you need to sort out your feelings. Looking forward to seeing you around!

 

Love,

~Audrey.

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