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Well it’s been a while I didn’t write anything here XD

So I’m feeling awesome towards my gender xD if I could say it like that because to be honest I was really dysphoric for a long time a bit unhealthily but now I’m more than fine and I am thinking of a full coming out! I talked about this a year ago but I didn’t do it because I was too worried, and thankfully I didn’t do it. I was not ready! xD

My situation is, I came out to my parents, my boyfriend and some friends at school and all of them were extremely supportive. Well my parents less xD My dad excepts it and it will take a while for him to use the right name and pronouns and I respect that and mom she thinks it’s my hormones messing with my brain because of puberty but she is still supportive xD I don’t really understand but it’s still good!

The thing is it has now been months that I KNOW that I am FtM no more, "I’m just a girl", "I’m a man but not trans", "I’m just nothing", I am a man and trans and proud of it! And that is why I am really thinking of a full coming out. What made me think that was the fact that 5 people found out by accident and first it made me scared but the more people asked me what pronouns were out of nowhere I started to feel good and I am now really thinking of coming out to school and all.

 

I need now to talk about it to my parents tell them that I now really know that I am trans (my first coming out to them was accidental and I didn’t finish thinking about all of this so they told me to wait to be extremely sure, which I am thankful for XD) so now I am going to tell them how I know I am a man (more of a boy lulz I’m just 17) and all there is to know and more importantly that at school I am going to be Liam!

 

I’m gonna shiz my pants cus finding them both together is stressing XD but I know I can do it! And one day I’ll be Liam da potato in the school and not that shizzy [birthname]! I can’t wait! I really am ready! I know I am not rushing it’s been month that I’m sure and a year I found out what was trans! The thing is I was already questioning myself before so I did think about it for several years o-o

I’m ready! >w<

 

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Congratulations and welcome to the world @Liam da potato! I now pronounce you Man-Boy! Use your powers for good.

 

Seriously though, proud of you. Hold your head high. This is a big step.

 

Hugs!

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I've seen boys with potatoes before, that is NOT using your powers for good. ?

 

Hugs!

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Feeling awesome is good. You may continue with my blessing. ?

 

Hugs!

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Yay Liam! That's awesome. I can feel your energy from here (Girona is not that far from France, but still ;) ). 

You go rock the world ?

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Welp as mom was making a reference about me "maybe wanting to be a boy" (which is not the case anymore as I am a boy) I said that the three of us will have to talk about this subject o-o I can't go back now I HAVE to tell them I'm thinking of full coming out and that I know o-o

I'm worried she seems to really not like talking about this I mean I get it, I don't want to hurt them

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1 hour ago, Liam da potato said:

I don't want to hurt them

 

Noble. However, they're your parents. Their goal should be to not hurt you. Their rule should be, "Love and support your child, no matter what." There are not exceptions for, "Unless your child is gay," or, "Unless your child is trans." Their whole job as a parent is to support you, nurture you and help you grow into the very best potato you can be.

 

Potatoes are hardy, but they still require care. Your parents signed on to deliver that care when they decided to conceive. Time for tough love. You are a boy. You need to be able to express yourself as a boy. Your parents need to let you. That is the whole of the discussion. If you would prefer a Star Wars quote, "This is the way."

 

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this is the way niiiiice!

but yea thanks i needed that I actually felt like giving up xD but I mean yea that's what they told me when I came out to them (by accident lulz). But I still can hurt them but I mean I think we'll get through it ^^ my parents are the best after all =w=

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