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Red_Lauren.

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Ive always worked my butt off. Multiple jobs, long hours etc. Even if I didn't have to. Well now that I'm in my mid 30s. I felt my body breaking down both mentally and physically. That resulted in me taking my first 40 hour a week job since I was like 18. Mostly so I could get stuff done, and have some free time for my hobbies. Well my hobbies are fishing and doing things in the garage. Its still too cold to fish, or do any thing in the garage. I feel like getting another job, but I know it will only be temporary. As the weather warms up. i will want to be outside. Friends all have their own things going on, and I don't like to intrude on them. I need some thing to do. 

 

I know I'm just rambling, but I'm bored.  

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At the very least, you are not alone with that.  I am retired for 10 years by now, and until a year ago when this pandemic stuff hit the fan I was doing about 60 hours a week of volunteer time, including my time here on the moderator staff.  Luckily my hobbies which go into my volunteer work are able to be done alone here at the house, but I have a garage full of gear that I cannot use.  Stick around here and use us as some boredom therapy. 

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I do scan the fourms. I just know in July I'm going to get my nails license. So that will keep me busy for a few months. Then decided if that will be my only job or not after. 

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I've also worked crazy hard my whole adult life. A few years back, when I came out to my wife, things were tough and thinking that was the end of our relationship, my wife went back to work after 15yrs (We've got four children). Now things have settled down between us, we've got twice the income coming in and money is not a problem.

 

Last night I had a callout at 2am for four hours and I sat there in my lorry and questioned. What's the point?  I don't need to do this anymore. I don't need to work my ass off for little reward in a job I hate, working silly hours, phone ringing 24/7, thinking all week about what's happening next week and preparing or worrying about that.

 

I'm considering giving it all up and doing something I would enjoy. Maybe a Postman / Woman?  I love walking :)

Then have more time for myself, not bringing stress home and yes, cracking on with projects.

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Me deciding on going in to nails was purely a accident. I got my first set over the summer, and with me being hands on. It intrested me. I don't know what I would have done other wise. Retail, and food bores me. I left the manufacturing world. After being around it my whole life. Because it destroyed me body. I even was going to school for engineering at one point. I was good at it, but it really bored me, and I couldn't see my self sitting at a computer all day. 

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I've never had my nails done. When the shops are open again its on my list as I've been driving Gritting Lorries of a night for the last six months, and find the salt de-laminates my natural nails. Fancy something tough and durable, whilst also being pretty :D

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Our shops were closed for two months, and probably would still be closed. Because our governor is a a baboon, and is scared of his own shadow as it seems. 

 

Acrylics are pretty tuff though. If you can deal with the up keep. Typically you have to get them filled every two weeks or so. Other wise gel polish is also tuff, and you can buy gel polish, and light for at home. I don't know the prices in pounds, but a bottle of gel will run you about 7 American dollars each, for color and a top coat. A curing light will run about 50 American dollars.  

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A friend suggested one of those gel lamps. My nails are just poor though. Its a shame as last year they looked amazing.  Would you happen to know if my natural nails would heal / repair under acrylics?

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They might and they might not. In theory they should as they are now protected as they regrow, but you can also use a clear gel top coat with a uv lamp for the same thing. Till the shops open up again.   

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I might go and get a UV lamp then. I like it when my nails looks nice :)

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Me too. Even though I can't make them look super girly now. Hopefully by the Christmas holidays I will be able to. I was planning on transitioning about this time next year, but that was also because I didn't plan on going to nail school till at least the fall this year, or March next year. That has been bumped up. As ill be done with school by the end of November. 

 

If I finish school on time, and everything works out right. I'll be celebrating with my friends. I was going to do it in July for my birthday, but my birthday is in the middle of the week, and it feels weird celebrating a birthday days before or after, and December will have more meaning for many reasons. Hopefully I'll be doing nails for a living, I'll be living full time by then, and In December marks one year of hormones. So many more reasons to celebrate. 

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Well my night out just got canceled. I wish I would have known earlier. Other wise I wouldn't have put to munch effort in this morning. My make-up was done, I'm dressed nicer then I usually do. Oh well. I guess they are getting fancy me at work today. 

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3 hours ago, Red_Lauren. said:

Well my night out just got canceled. I wish I would have known earlier. Other wise I wouldn't have put to munch effort in this morning. My make-up was done, I'm dressed nicer then I usually do. Oh well. I guess they are getting fancy me at work today. 

 

Aww. You'll just have to be fancy for yourself then. That or make up a wild story about what you plan to do when you get off work.

 

Hugs!

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10 hours ago, Shay said:

@Red_Lauren. no sense wasting a perfectly good make up job. Go treat yourself.

 

10 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

Aww. You'll just have to be fancy for yourself then. That or make up a wild story about what you plan to do when you get off work.

 

Hugs!

Sorry ladies. I posted that in the wrong thread. For some reason my phone defaults to a older topic for some reason when I load up the site, and I forgot. 

 

We ended up going out for dinner, and just looking at make-up after. It was nice, and completely opposite of boys night. No drunken fights, no weird straight male gay humor, I heard no one complaining about lack of sex all night, no beating of chest to prove how manly they are, no complaining about spouses, children, mother inlaw all night. 

 

While I have known a lot of woman to do what I posted. It seems like most dont, and that's probably because of lack of going out. They really just want a good time out. They don't want to get drunk. They just want to chat with Friends, have a few drinks, and dance. 

 

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9 hours ago, Red_Lauren. said:

no beating of chest to prove how manly they are

 

That would be admittedly weird on a girl's night.

 

9 hours ago, Red_Lauren. said:

no weird straight male gay humor

 

That would be weird without straight men too.

 

I'm glad you had a lovely night out. It sounds great! I really need to get out more, but sadly my friends are either scattered all over or at high-risk for COVID and stuck indoors until it's been eradicated.

 

Hugs!

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I do feel the difficulty of not being able to be with friends in person.  Those feelings almost went away after vaccinations seemed so effective but now with the variants appearing and the continued presence of anti-vax folks it isn't safe.

Fortunately the work on the farm keeps me busy.  I also go to many Zoom AA meetings.  Boredom isn't a problem at this point but i miss being with others in person.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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4 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

That would be admittedly weird on a girl's night.

 

 

That would be weird without straight men too.

 

I'm glad you had a lovely night out. It sounds great! I really need to get out more, but sadly my friends are either scattered all over or at high-risk for COVID and stuck indoors until it's been eradicated.

 

Hugs!

Well you know what I mean by the gay stuff. All my male friends as far as I know are straight, have zero issues with gay people, and are probably a bit messed up in the head, and that's why I like them, but it was nice being with a grownup, and not have to deal with that stuff for once. Don't get me wrong there was stupid stuff said, but it was more or less funny stupid stuff. 

 

As for the chest banging. The closest I got to that. Was when my 5'2" oompa-loompa friend decided to hug me. I'm a 6ft Amazon, so her head is perfect height for my chest. After she broke the hug. She said my breast were like a soft warm pillow, so I guess I need to learn how to hug short people now. 

 

It was just nice to go out. I haven't been out in years. Probably five or so years. I have been working a lot, and it was just nice to get out for a few hours. 

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1 hour ago, Red_Lauren. said:

s for the chest banging. The closest I got to that. Was when my 5'2" oompa-loompa friend decided to hug me. I'm a 6ft Amazon, so her head is perfect height for my chest. After she broke the hug. She said my breast were like a soft warm pillow, so I guess I need to learn how to hug short people now.

 

No, sounds like you hugged her JUST right.

 

But yeah, my friends are fine with me but there was a LOT of homo and transphobic stuff before I came out.

 

Hugs!

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

 

No, sounds like you hugged her JUST right.

 

But yeah, my friends are fine with me but there was a LOT of homo and transphobic stuff before I came out.

 

Hugs!

Well, she's married, and we only care about eachother as friends. 

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1 hour ago, Red_Lauren. said:

Well, she's married, and we only care about eachother as friends. 

 

Yup, and it's OK for girlfriends to hug each other like that. It's all good.

 

If you were guys you'd have to punch each other in the nuts and say, "No homo," afterwards or something. (I'm obviously mostly joking.)

 

Hugs!

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

 

Yup, and it's OK for girlfriends to hug each other like that. It's all good.

 

If you were guys you'd have to punch each other in the nuts and say, "No homo," afterwards or something. (I'm obviously mostly joking.)

 

Hugs!

Yea, that's pretty munch how men are. A lot of men especially the younger generation like mine, and younger Men are a lot more comfortable acting enfemment, or gay towards eachother. Even in public places like work, or a bar. Now I enjoy joking around with my friends, and being comfortable with them, but at some point. It gets old, and some times you just want to relax, and not have to worry about saying something, and one of my male friends Taking it too far. I don't know if I could pull that off now that I'm a chick. 

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2 hours ago, Red_Lauren. said:

I don't know if I could pull that off now that I'm a chick. 

 

I think you'd be surprised. I know I'm generally the most "wrong" person in the room. Transitioning didn't really change who I am and the guys can deal with that. Disturbing mental images are a house specialty.

 

Hugs!

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19 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

I think you'd be surprised. I know I'm generally the most "wrong" person in the room. Transitioning didn't really change who I am and the guys can deal with that. Disturbing mental images are a house specialty.

 

Hugs!

Yea that is what I told all my male friends. I'm still the mentally distributed, scrastic, dark humor a hole that you guys love. I'll just look different. 

 

I'll use when I came out to friend a few months ago as a example. It was him, his wife, my ex, and I just hanging out. I noticed my male friend just staring at my chest, and after a while still was. I was like ok man. If you want to see them. I'll have to charge you 50 bucks. His wife, and my ex started laughing, and he acted like he was caught with his hand in the cookie jar. 

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2 hours ago, Red_Lauren. said:

Yea that is what I told all my male friends. I'm still the mentally distributed, sacrastic, dark humor a hole that you guys love. I'll just look different. 

 

I'll use when I came out to friend a few months ago as a example. It was him, his wife, my ex, and I just hanging out. I noticed my male friend just staring at my chest, and after a while still was. I was like ok man. If you want to see them. I'll have to charge you 50 bucks. His wife, and my ex started laughing, and he acted like he was caught with his hand in the cookie jar. 

 

Only $50? You must have been giving him a friend discount. Putting his hand in the cookie jar would be extra.

 

Hugs!

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