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How do I get clothes as a transgender girl?


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I don’t have very much money, I don’t know how to hide my clothes, or how to get them. I have 2 things I reallllllllly want. Please help.

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Thrift stores and resale shops. Hit the Salvation Army store if you need it. Good, solid clothes, good deals and your money will go a long way.

 

Hugs!

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Well, there is no doubt that the parts of the solution to gender dysphoria are expensive, almost economically discriminitive in most cases. To get clothing, shop in person at retail and thrift or look to private local companies that offer mailbox services that accept packages and buy online. Of course this will involve paying a monthly fee to the mailbox company. 

 

As for hiding, i say don't. Just hang them in your closet. If a confrontation results, however hard that may seem, it is a good thing in the long run. It empowers you to know what the situation really is and immediately resolves all the ambiguities the mind introduces as you go through the countless, and incredibly painful, what if's.

 

As for money, sometimes you have to make the tough choice of sacrifice with regards to expendable income. Do you address the gender dysphoria or do you buy other items.

 

If you have no expendable income, then getting roommates, looking for a different job, etc. so that you do have additionaly expendable income are all actually things that address the gender dysphoria. Doing any of that is a personal victory and you should personally, privately, celebrate that.

 

Be strong. The journey is long and rest assured that every bit towards your goals are wonderful achievements.

 

 

 

 

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15 hours ago, MelanieTamara said:

Well, there is no doubt that the parts of the solution to gender dysphoria are expensive, almost economically discriminitive in most cases. To get clothing, shop in person at retail and thrift or look to private local companies that offer mailbox services that accept packages and buy online. Of course this will involve paying a monthly fee to the mailbox company. 

 

As for hiding, i say don't. Just hang them in your closet. If a confrontation results, however hard that may seem, it is a good thing in the long run. It empowers you to know what the situation really is and immediately resolves all the ambiguities the mind introduces as you go through the countless, and incredibly painful, what if's.

 

As for money, sometimes you have to make the tough choice of sacrifice with regards to expendable income. Do you address the gender dysphoria or do you buy other items.

 

If you have no expendable income, then getting roommates, looking for a different job, etc. so that you do have additionaly expendable income are all actually things that address the gender dysphoria. Doing any of that is a personal victory and you should personally, privately, celebrate that.

 

Be strong. The journey is long and rest assured that every bit towards your goals are wonderful achievements.

 

 

 

 

This is good advice, but I have to hide them. I don’t really want to get into the details right now about why for multiple reasons. Maybe after I eat I will, but suffice to say, I don’t really have a choice about hiding them.

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I buy all of my clothes online. I took all of my measurements and buy from the listings that have all of the measurements for the garment available. I bought the cheapest things I could find until I found some brands that I trusted and became familiar with their sizing. For instance, I only wear Victoria's Secret panties. I only wear thongs, so I tried different sizes, styles and fabrics until I found the ones that work best for me. Now I don't have to worry about it anymore, since I know what works and what doesn't. I'm partial to Old Navy jeans. I bought a couple of used pairs online until I figured out the sizing and fit that I liked, and now I can buy them new without having to worry about it. That would be my suggestion. Buy cheap used items in different brands and styles until you figure your sizing out and find brands that you like. Don't be afraid to miss a couple of times, and then you can buy new stuff once you figure it all out. I would also not bother hiding it. Someone will eventually find out no matter how hard you try, and you'll just make yourself miserable in the process. I am not fully out yet, but I don't bother hiding it anymore. Everyone knows that I wear bras and panties at this point, and they don't even bat an eye when they find a mini skirt in the floor anymore. My point is that you can't be ashamed of it, or worry about what other people think. Only worry about yourself. You only have one life to live, and you might as well be happy.

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I was going to comment but I see my points - if uncomfortable going to thrift stores refer to sizing in most online clothing stores and buy the most inexpensive clothes that look good to you. As far as hiding - yea - if you are uncomfortable there - neatly store in your dresser under things or when you get more comfortable, hang in your closet.

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I went to Good Will and for under 70 dollars I got-3 pairs shorts-1 short denim skirt..1 pr boots 1 pair sandals-1 pr black dress shoes 1 pair white legging slacks 1 pr capris and 1 pr sparkly blue jeens and 2 tops. Not a bad haul if I say so myself..

 

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If you have Marshalls, TJ Max or Ross Dress for Less in your area, you can get cute outfits for less than 50% off or more. While I do have a budget for my daughter to spend on clothes, it's certainly much more expensive than before her transition and going to these places helps. Now that she is growing, I have to constantly take her shopping. We also go to Macy's and for a special occasion outfit, I took her to Nordstroms. Some know she is transgender (because word got out), others don't and can't tell. It use to make her very nervous going out as a girl, but she is now used to it and is can easily pass. 

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