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Working trans ppl, how did any of you ever find a safe, affirming job? I know the unemployment rate for us is ridiculous, but I really need a job, because a job pays for a place to transition. I'm still pretty closeted right now, although if my boss isn't a complete -professor- he'll figure out something is up. I work in graphic design but don't have very much education, and I've mostly been working for small companies. A lot of these companies don't love trans people.

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Weird, I'd think graphic design (and the arts in general) would be more open to us.

 

Anyway, I'm doing this right now. I found a job who was willing to train for something that's not going to be automated anytime soon (RBT or Registered Behavior Technician). I was open and up-front about my status as a trans-individual (it's educational with autistic kids, they're going to be running a background check). They said it wouldn't be a problem and I'm currently chugging through the onboarding process.

 

As an FYI, I've got lots of experience in tech support, but most of those jobs are over-the-phone, (which I hate) or gig work in my area right now. Also, I absolutely hate the bitch I turn into when I'm doing tech support.

I'm also a trained character animator, but the animation jobs flew away at the end of the last financial crash, so here I am.

 

I think a lot of it has to do with your area. I have yet to run into anybody who cares that I'm trans except my spouse. I don't shout it out most of the time, but I'm not exactly living stealth either. If we have Pride this year, maybe I'll run into some transphobes then.

 

Hugs!

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When I started on hormones in December. I knew the only industry I have ever known was going to behind me sooner then later. I spent my whole life around the metal fabrication industry. My dad and I were welders/machinist. I was on the verge of leaving it before any way. As wages have pretty munch flatlined, and they expect 60 hour weeks any more. After taxes I was pretty munch working for free after 40 because of my pay rate. 

 

I didn't know what I was going to do after I left, so in the fall I started putting together a paln.. I decided I was going to do nails for a living. I start the training in July, and I currently am full time working retail. The money sucks, but its only temporary. Till I get my license in November, and I should be making not munch less then before, and that's at the hourly rate. That dosn't include tips, or commission. 

 

My choice was partly based on Iam creative, better hours and working conditions, its very trans friendly, and I get to be my self. 

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On 4/3/2021 at 11:03 PM, Red_Lauren. said:

When I started on hormones in December. I knew the only industry I have ever known was going to behind me sooner then later. I spent my whole life around the metal fabrication industry. My dad and I were welders/machinist. I was on the verge of leaving it before any way. As wages have pretty munch flatlined, and they expect 60 hour weeks any more. After taxes I was pretty munch working for free after 40 because of my pay rate. 

 

I didn't know what I was going to do after I left, so in the fall I started putting together a paln.. I decided I was going to do nails for a living. I start the training in July, and I currently am full time working retail. The money sucks, but its only temporary. Till I get my license in November, and I should be making not munch less then before, and that's at the hourly rate. That dosn't include tips, or commission. 

 

My choice was partly based on Iam creative, better hours and working conditions, its very trans friendly, and I get to be my self. 

I am super happy for you, ngl. Being poor sucks, but a trans-friendly place would be worth its weight in gold. I value time more than money any day

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On 3/11/2021 at 3:56 PM, Drake said:

but I really need a job, because a job pays for a place to transition

 

 

Try Fiverr

 

The link shows you all the freelance graphic artists. Throw your hat in the ring. Then you can search for the right job at the same time developing your own gig business

 

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5 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

Healthcare is generally a trans friendly space and good jobs. 

I'm definitely not smart enough for health care. Let alone have the gut for it. I have killed, and processed many animals in my life, and never had a issue with it. I can also see that stuff to a degree on TV, movies, and video games. Its when it's real that it gets me..

 

9 hours ago, Drake said:

I am super happy for you, ngl. Being poor sucks, but a trans-friendly place would be worth its weight in gold. I value time more than money any day

Yep, I spent all of my of adult life working 60 hours a week. Typically 2nd or 3rd shift, and weekends. Because of that it was hard to make friends, and when I did make friends. I couldn't see them ever. Let alone enjoy my own hobbies.

 

In the last few years I slowed down a bit, but the damage has been done. Most of my friends now have kids, are married, and have good jobs. Now that I have time. They don't. 

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22 hours ago, Red_Lauren. said:

I'm definitely not smart enough for health care. Let alone have the gut for it. I have killed, and processed many animals in my life, and never had a issue with it. I can also see that stuff to a degree on TV, movies, and video games. Its when it's real that it gets me..

 

 

There are lots of health care jobs that aren't patient care.  Everything from food service in hospitals to pharmacy techs. Even receptionist work. Point being, the industry tends to be more open and accepting.

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I'm an ABA tech and I count as healthcare. I made it a point to ask if my status would be a problem during onboarding. They're going to do a background check, so it'll come up. Anyway, they said not at all. While I'm fairly certain that I'm the only trans person (that I've met so far) in either center, nobody actually cares.

 

Also, it's a female dominated industry at my level. I'm just one of the girls. It's great!

 

Hugs!

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