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Mary Jane

I don’t know if this is even the right one to put it on or if I can ask but how bad can it be? I genuinely don’t know because I haven’t experienced and nothing has explained it much

 

also I wanted to ask because I have a real life friend that’s been sexually assaulted which makes me want to understand how bad it can be or at least have an idea 

 

if i shouldn’t have asked because rules I guess I’m asking my friend soon

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VickySGV

Ok, you have me confused, is the following the question you are asking?? 

1 hour ago, Mary Jane said:

I have a real life friend that’s been sexually assaulted which makes me want to understand how bad it can be or at least have an idea 

 

Let's just say that I was 11j years old the first time it happened to me, and 62 years later I still remember it with a ton of negative feelings.  Even the fact the person who did it to me is dead does not help dealing with the molestation.  There are many books written by survivors of sexual assault as children or young teens like I was back then.  Imagine first being in real pain, physically, and people brushing it off for any number of reasons.  If it happens to you, not having your parents believe you, and other people telling you it was your fault when you tried to get away from the person.  Imagine having to look at the person daily and being afraid of them because no one else thinks they are a danger to you.  If you sit at a family dinner table with them you become sick to your stomach, or at night dreams of it terrify you and you cannot sleep for days on end, or at least not in your bed.  Talk to your school counselor about how you can learn to listen to your friend, because that really is all you can do until you can learn actual counseling during college years.

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Mary Jane

I Was asking how bad can being sexually assaulted be? Which I think you answered so I think no one else needs to answer because I can understand it more now understand how bad being sexually assaulted can be

 

But if anyone has more and is ok with saying it you can go ahead

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