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How Often do You Stop and See How Far You've Come?


Heather Shay

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I know it is so hard to think well of yourself even you are in pain but I am trying harder to at least thank myself for how far I've come - especially since joining Transpulse. Do you ever stop and think and give yourself a pat on the back or a hug in your heart for how well you actually are doing?

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I think for me it is an ability to do so that is required. When my mood is good, I am able to see the growth and leaps and bounds I have come. When my mood is not good, I have a hard time seeing growth and movement towards my goals. I think it is something I need to work on, because I can tell you that yes, I have greatly moved the needle in the last year, let alone 6 months. I am hitting all my goals marks except for the thing that I can’t control, which is growth in the chest. I want to do checkpoints more I think to see things that have changed, but I don’t feel comfortable doing them with pictures per se.

 

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I started to keep a journal last year of all the changes I was going through.  Its amazing how far I have come since I first started my journey last year.   I was still in the closet to most of my friends and family last year, was still only wearing women's clothing part time when going out into the world.  Now I'm fully out, and wear whatever I want to wear full time and just trying to find my style.  I made huge progress over the year how could I not stop to give myself a small pat on the back.  But I also know I still have a long road ahead of me on my journey of life.

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Too often.  I don't want to look backwards anymore than I already do. But to take stock of progress with gratitude is better than to look back with regret or self loathing.

 

Today I feel that I need to stop and visualize exactly where this is going. 

 

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At least once a day as I express gratitude for having made it one more day, but I also have only made it one more day and that is enough.

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"How Often do You Stop and See How Far You've Come?"

Every day!

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Each day with gratitude.  There is so much to be grateful about as I look around.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Yes, gratitude, it's part of my daily vocabulary ? Through the decades of life's twists and turns, I have much to be grateful for today, and I'll be grateful for tomorrow....

 

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Probably almost every day for me. I've had some very dark times, even a few times where I thought I might have to detransition, which was quite horrifying and fueled some suicidal thinking. I'm in a place now where I love me, things are going great despite being single, and I am proud of myself for all the hard work and pain I've went thru to become the woman I was meant to be. I still have a lot to do, but instead of dreading that I see it as part of the journey, a quest in a sense. I am happy with myself and have developed a sense of value from within. I take selfies on a regular basis so I can see the physical progress, my mental health is so much better than it ever has been. I often say that transitioning saved my life. 

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I don't ever look back.  Too much baggage, got to keep moving forwards. I was asked to update my photo (and name) for our "Mental health Ambassador" poster at work. The old one was taken four years ago. Someone had scribbled my new name crossing out my old. My god!  Firstly, my old self was amazingly good looking... Secondly, I couldn't relate to the person in the photo. I'm not on hormones yet, but that person isn't me. The posture, the expression, that fake corporate smile.  And seeing Tamsyn scribbled underneath made me feel quite ill. I did enquire if I could just forego the photo altogether to avoid future trauma, but apparently people want to see me face eek!

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21 hours ago, VickySGV said:

At least once a day as I express gratitude for having made it one more day, but I also have only made it one more day and that is enough.

This........

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