Changing my name maybe

[Benji C]

I don't know where to post this so I'm just going to post it here....

 

 

 

I don't know if I'm going to do this or not but I was thinking of changing my name again... Ainsley is the name I chose when I first knew I wasn't cis and at the time I thought I was nonbinary but I wasn't and now I just think it's too feminine sometimes...  but I do associate the name with myself... but not a lot of people use my name so I don't know if I want to keep it or not....

If I am going to change it I'm also wondering what I should change it to and I have 2 ideas... my first is that I kind of want to choose whatever my mom would have named me if I was born male... she has a couple ideas but most of them are super religious or ugly... the only decent name she picked was Ben or Benjamin... but part of me is thinking that if she isn't going to support me transitioning then she shouldn't get to pick my name but another part of me feels like that's mean cause she is my mother and if I pick the name she wanted she might be more likely to support me later.... my other idea is just go with what I like... and I like the name Lucas and I was going to make that my middle name anyway but I might make it my first name if I do change it... but then again I don't even know if I want to...

I guess I will have to think about that more....

 

 

 

 

[VickySGV]

If you want to change your name here just let one of the Admins know via PM and we can do it for you.  Either Benjamin or Lucas sound good, they are both a bit Biblical, Benjamin (youngest brother of Joseph) is a bit Old Testament and Lucas (Luke) are New Testament.  Even if you are feeling hurt about mom's attitude they are both strong male image names. 

[Jackie C.]

Nothing at all wrong with changing your name if the first one doesn't fit. I didn't end up going with Jacqueline after all (I kept it as a middle name, it's fine). After all, you're the one that has to wear it. Which one fits better?

 

Benjamin: My name book says it means "Son of the Right Hand." Shortens to Ben. A good, strong name.

 

Lucas on the other hand means light. It shortens to Luke. Also a good name and popular among fans of the original Star Wars trilogy...

 

Wait, both names feature heavily in the original Star Wars trilogy. If we're going to use that as a yardstick, old Ben Kenobi was a way cooler character than whiny Luke. Though to be fair, that was apparently a genetic trait in the Skywalker line. Anakin was whiny too.

 

Hugs!

[HollyElizabeth]

I went with a name that my mother was going to name me if I had been born a cis girl. Now she says she doesn't like Holly much anymore. Now I'm kinda stuck with Holly. Don't get me wrong, Holly is a good name, but TBH, if I picked a name now I would go with something else. So my advise is to think of something you really like. So few of us get to pick our own name. Just take your time and try out different names until you find something that feels right.