Well that didn't go as planed

[Holly Brandt]

Hi just a post about a failed marriage and some who came out and I was told i am sick and a lifte time lier. So there is that 

[Jackie C.]

Oh sweetie, I'm sorry. That happens sometimes though. Our wives don't always want to transition with us. Only about 55% of marriages survive our transitions.

 

However, sometimes our partner's initial reaction isn't their final one. She's reacting in shock and probably fear. In all fairness, there was some misrepresentation on your part, but you were lying to yourself too. At the end of the day, all any of us want is to be happy. She might come around and decide that seeing you happy (finally, I was a miserable SOB for the first 26 years of my marriage) is worth at least giving it a try.

 

The only real solution is talking to each other. Reassurance. Love. All those things you're supposed to do as a couple. It doesn't sound like she's ready now, but once she's cooled down a little. Well, you never know.

 

Hugs!

[Ivy]

4 hours ago, Holly Brandt said:

I was told i am sick and a lifte time lier.

This is hard to take.   My views on a lot of things evolved over the years, but because they weren't the same as 30 years ago, my ex insisted I'd been lying the whole time.

I don't know anything about your marriage, so can't speak to that of course; but mine was over by the time I began to transition.  It actually improved our relationship as friends.  But I would be lying to say I don't miss her at times.

I hope you can find a place of peace in all of this.

[Marcie Jensen]

I am so sorry!  That sort of speech is just plain mean and cruel. No one should have to go through it. My heart bleeds for you.

 

Marcie

[Holly Brandt]

Thank you for the hope this is not gonna be easy or nice anyway go with it .

[Natalie99]

I'm sorry to hear that. Do not feel guilty! You were really brave to come out.

You don't deserve to be called a liar. It is not like you have cheated on them or something!

 

However, understand that it is shocking for them, as others have said before. They experience grief of a loss one. But I recommend you to focus on your emotions, and that you are beginning your new life - the one that you deserve.

 

I also recommend watching this video. (And her other videos too, she explains stuff really well.)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0pfZyR-34-g