How do I ease bottom dysphoria?

[whatishappening]

My bottom dysphoria has been REALLY bad lately, and nothing I’ve tried seems to distract me from it. I hate the feeling of it just not being there, and I feel like I might end up crying soon. I don’t have any way to get in contact with a gender therapist or anyone that could really help me start to medically transition (even get me on puberty blockers). My parents think that puberty blockers will ruin my body and that they’re not reversible, and I don’t think they realize the extent of my dysphoria. I have a therapist, but he doesn’t exactly specialize in trans stuff, and I don’t really trust him. How can I make this stop? I just wanna look like a dude so bad. 

[Susan R]

On 5/1/2021 at 7:46 PM, whatishappening said:

My bottom dysphoria has been REALLY bad lately, and nothing I’ve tried seems to distract me from it.

I don’t know of any magic pill to help you with this issue. I had bottom dysphoria every day getting out of the shower until GRS. I obviously avoided looking at myself in the mirror but nothing helped until I got my pants or skirt on. Sad but true.

 

On 5/1/2021 at 7:46 PM, whatishappening said:

My parents think that puberty blockers will ruin my body and that they’re not reversible, and I don’t think they realize the extent of my dysphoria.

If I was in your situation, I would definitely start educating my parents on this issue. What your parents are saying to you about irreversible damage is misinformation. Also, they shouldn’t dismiss your dysphoria unless they are completely unaware of the seriousness on one’s mental health and what kind of stress and anxiety it causes you. Your therapist, if they’re worth their salt, should be able to provide this information about puberty blockers which you can then pass along to your parents. They should also have a sit down with you in one of your sessions so your therapist can help them understand this bottom dysphoria. If your parents understood the reason why Puberty Blockers are used and they knew how low the risks are, its within the realm of possibility that they might agree to let you go on them. If your current therapist will not assist you in this way, it may be time to ask them for a referral to a therapist who specializes in this these gender identity issues. They are out there and they do help.

 

My Best,

Susan R?

[Jackie C.]

Yeah, this.

 

Your parents need to be educated. Puberty blockers are safe, reversible and have been in use as long as I've been alive. The thing that's doing irreversible (well, mostly T is pretty strong stuff) damage to your body is the estrogen it's making.

 

Yeah, it's going to take some work, but being trans isn't especially easy.

 

In the meantime, maybe roll up some socks? Cis-guys used to do that when I was your age to impress the girls and it will at least give you the feeling of having SOMETHING down there. Best of luck!

 

Hugs!

[Kiera]

10 hours ago, whatishappening said:

My parents think that puberty blockers will ruin my body . . 

 

@whatishappeningI'm at a complete loss but a sincere, honest question: I know that in the case of a MtF "blockers" can help "buy time" and stop a young one from more "masculinity" but what is even available for FtM, would stop femininity as well? If it's "either/or" what third choice is there? I would think "T" would definitely set you on a path that may, or possibly NOT, be easily "reversible" in which case you would face the same conundrum as us older discovered trans-girls.

 

While one withholds back, "takes away" your seeming only option "adds to"? Read up on "Andrea Long Chu". Her recent new gender theory suggests EVERYONE starts off "as female" and, my "take away" at least, is that masculinity is then forced upon certain of us who otherwise can't accept, refuse deal with it.

 

Perhaps am wayyy off base here but 'ave always had the greatest respect for many "FtM posts", no matter which gender is ultimately "assumed".  Being "butch" is certainly very socially acceptable these days but I tend to look at the more practical "outcome" side of things . . . and how one would eventually "best fit in" with others?

 

“It’s [sometimes] very dangerous to get what you want.”

[Jackie C.]

6 hours ago, Kiera said:

I'm at a complete loss but a sincere, honest question: I know that in the case of a MtF "blockers" can help "buy time" and stop a young one from more "masculinity" but what is even available for FtM, would stop femininity as well?

 

It's the same deal. The blockers keep hips and breasts from developing in a typically female pattern.

 

Hugs!

[Kiera]

2 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

It's the same deal. The blockers . . 

 

 Are adding more progestogens? Sorry if answering own 'q' . . 

 

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       Progestogens, comprised of natural, micronized progesterone and synthetic progestins, are an important class of medications for induction of amenorrhea in the transmasculine and nonbinary adolescent. They may be considered in the postmenarchal adolescent not yet ready for or desiring of masculinizing hormones

[Jackie C.]

Here, while I'm technically a health care professional, my area is more behavior focused. St. Louis Children's can explain it better than me.

 

St. Louis Children's Hospital - Puberty Blockers

 

Hugs!

[Gabriel]

@whatishappening I get it about bottom dysphoria. For me felt like totally missing a limb, like really not understanding why it wasn't there, like I had the mental connexion to it and could almost feel it and yet there was nothing where it should be. And that profound longing. About how to ease it, for me packing worked (and works) when dysphoria hits stronger. Fold some socks (there are videos in youtube that will help you create a nice pack).

I also want to encourage you to connect to who you are inside and live as you feel inside. I found that when I could take steps to being myself, my bottom dysphoria got way more bearable, to the point that now I just pack on occasion. Coming out to people you trust and behave the way you feel authentic to you may help you too.

You are not alone. Keep sharing, keep asking.

A hug

[porcelain]

i relate to this so much, im pre-t and i struggle almost every single day with my bottom dysphoria. it gets so bad that ive had panic attacks over it and i cant even count how many times ive cried over my dysphoria. i had a packer but my nosey little sister gave it to my mom. after that, it just went downhill from there