Brave or Spineless

[Holly Brandt]

Is it brave to come out to your wife? Just to tell them "It can go away'' To make the hurt stop? 

[Holly Brandt]

1 hour ago, Holly Brandt said:

Is it brave to come out to your wife? Just to tell them "It can go away'' To make the hurt stop? 

 

[Jackie C.]

Well, coming out to my wife was the scariest thing I ever did, so that part was pretty brave. I'm not sure what I would have done if she wasn't so accepting though. I didn't really have a plan B.

 

Hugs!

[Janae]

1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

coming out to my wife was the scariest thing I ever did, so that part was pretty brave.

Me as well!  Jumping into the unknown can be scary, but afterwards there is a great sense of relief, because it is something that eventually you must do.  It may not go as smoothly as you would like, but for me it lifted a weight off me.

Hope things go well for you 

 

Hugs

 

Janae

[Charlize]

Fear was certainly a factor as i came out to my wife.  There was a great deal of pain for both of us.  Time has healed those wounds.  As i now no longer live with a "terrible" secret life is better.  

Some may call it brave, some might call it selfish but actually it was just hard.....at times i think the hardest thing i ever did.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[KathyLauren]

Certainly, telling my wife was the hardest, scariest thing I have ever done.  It felt like jumping out of a plane without a parachute.  But it had to be done.

[Kathy2020]

Bravery tends to be seen as a fairly spontaneous act of selflessness without much thought to the long-term consequences. Courage, on the other hand, is the ability to face down your fears knowing the consequences can (and likely will be) very uncomfortable. With that in mind, I consider anyone who is transitioning to be very courageous every day, and more so when it comes to things like talking with family, changing socially, and undergoing physical procedures. Courage is also something people have to build up to move forward, and that can take a little bit of time or a lot, so don't down yourself for having to do it. When you are ready to face the fear, you will know it... then just take the next step. ?

[Ivy]

On 5/6/2021 at 4:04 AM, Jackie C. said:

Well, coming out to my wife was the scariest thing I ever did, so that part was pretty brave

I know a lot of folks here are dealing with this.  In my case we had already broken up, so it wasn't real hard.

For me it was harder to come out to myself.  I had anxiety attacks…  But here I am.

[AnnaD]

On 5/6/2021 at 6:59 AM, Holly Brandt said:

Is it brave to come out to your wife? Just to tell them "It can go away'' To make the hurt stop? 

It’s definitely brave. You’re telling people something which takes a lot of courage to tell people about. People don’t typically expect you to be trans. Good luck if you do!