Why do you think we are our own enemies.

[Red_Lauren.]

When it comes to our visual, and voice aspects of life. Before hormones I was lucky to pass at 20ft. I then thought I was lucky to pass at less then 20, and I thought the voice was my dead give away. 

 

That was till I went full time last month. I work female retail, and work up and close with woman Ranging from 20 to about 80. I also live in a conservative part of the state. So far I have only gotten called sir once, and that was by a middle aged woman. Heck I work with a girl who is 19? And I truly think she has a deeper voice then me, and if you put her in male clothes, and in a hat. She probably could easily pass as a man. She also has very strong male features in her face. I do know for a sure she's a woman. On top of passing in front of a few men. Even with my voice.

 

It seems like now. Everything I was worried about pre hormones. Has kinda faded away now. While I know hormones are sorta of a magic pill, and makeup helps a bit. I feel a lot more comfortable being out, and about. I know I might not look like a model, but being able to pass, and blend in with the avg woman. Has made me change my views on a lot of things, and means I don't need ffs. Its not like I was planning it any way. 

[VickySGV]

Simply being out and learning that we do not stand out like Bozo The Clown at the Mayor's ball, or a bull in the fancy mall quickly does our fears in.  Someplace in this set of topics is a story I wrote of my first trip to a women's rest room at a mega mall.  My concluding remarks are that I actually felt bad that no one, NO ONE had paid any attention to me in the long line going into the RR and I had been feeling I must stick out like a fire truck or worse.  I hear horror stories and sadly do read about assault cases or worse, but my greatest happiness is that most people ARE kind and do not see evil in us as individuals.

 

[Charlize]

I lived in fear when i was out.  As Vicky describes the ladies room felt like a final frontier.  I also found there were never any issues.  I did and still do my best to stay quiet.  A girlfriend i was shopping with said my voice coming from a stall could raise doubts.  I'm not sure that hormones changed my appearance enough to make a big difference.  I am glad i was fairly comfortable as myself prior to HRT.  Now years later confidence carries me through life as i am.  

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Beatriz]

Sadly, I think that my face, Adam's apple and voice would give me away even in a dark place. But I also know that I have a lot of work to do to shed away the shame and gain confidence. Going out in somewhat girly clothes is an ordeal for me; I get very tense. So yes, I think I am my worst enemy due to shame and clumsiness (I still have to learn about make-up).

[Red_Lauren.]

21 hours ago, VickySGV said:

Simply being out and learning that we do not stand out like Bozo The Clown at the Mayor's ball, or a bull in the fancy mall quickly does our fears in.

That I agree with. I will also add a few things. It helps that most of us don't want to stick out. Just like the avg person. it also helps that the general persons mind is in their own thoughts. When they are out doing what they need to do..

 

10 hours ago, Beatriz said:

Sadly, I think that my face, Adam's apple and voice would give me away even in a dark place. But I also know that I have a lot of work to do to shed away the shame and gain confidence. Going out in somewhat girly clothes is an ordeal for me; I get very tense. So yes, I think I am my worst enemy due to shame and clumsiness (I still have to learn about make-up).

While I'm far from being a make-up expert. I can at least pull off a day look. There are even days where I don't wear make-up.