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Feeling great getting my ears pierced!


Kathy2020

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So a while back there was a thread in one of the forums from a girl who was just elated about getting her ears pierced, and it got me thinking how wonderful that would be to do it too! Well, last night I did it, and the feelings were just overwhelming!!! I had a friend join me to hold my hand and take incriminating pictures, and promptly broke down in her arms with joy after seeing myself in the mirror the first time with real earrings! I feel like there is a generational aspect for how important this simple step is for those of us transitioning later in life, how scary the lead-up to getting them is, and how validating the results can be. In my case, its given me a huge sense of relief along with a lot of joy! I just wanted to share the moment and hope everyone else is finding their own momentous moments of validation this spring! ?

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Yay!  Congratulations on getting your ears pierced!

 

I always wear (at least) silver ball studs in my ears, even if I am just working around the house.  They make a huge difference to what I see in the mirror.  And of course, I fancy them up if I am going out, especially these days, when going out is so rare.

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I keep my studs in 24/7.   The mask thing complicates the dangliest ones though.

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Congratulations! I’m so happy for you @Kathy2020. It was such a moving experience for me too. I can totally relate to the joy you describe. I still get some joy when I see them shimmering in the mirror. It was so worth it!

 

My Best,

Susan R?

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Congratulations @Kathy2020!  Its a big step to feeling good about yourself.  Keep the area clean and don't take them out for a while!

 

@DeeDee This might be something you could do sooner than later.  Wearing small studs would not be too revealing as many people do it.  It could be another baby step to coming out.

 

Jani

 

 

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2 hours ago, Jani said:

DeeDee This might be something you could do sooner than later.  Wearing small studs would not be too revealing as many people do it.  It could be another baby step to coming out.

This is true.  My son had pierced ears for years and nobody would take him as trans or sissy.  

I had one ear pierced back in '72 (i think) and wore a hoop for years.

The more I think about this, the more complicated it gets.   Oh well.

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Thank you everyone for the warm replies! I woke up this morning and the first thing I had to do was go look at myself in the mirror... which is a change of pace in itself! I'm still in awe about how good my ears make me feel now! ?

 

@DeeDee It was a more moving experience than I expected (in a very good way), so when you go to have your ears pierced, take a friend to hold your hand and provide big hugs!!! I was lucky that I did and had a great piercing pro too; they both broke the no-hug Covid rules when I lost it! ?

 

@Jani I try to be super good on following aftercare instructions, and in this case I'm laughing at myself a little inside. I figure if I can do what I'm told to keep my ears healthy, I can move up to more complicated things like GRS. If I can't, well... ?

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On 5/9/2021 at 8:42 AM, Kathy2020 said:

Thank you everyone for the warm replies! I woke up this morning and the first thing I had to do was go look at myself in the mirror... which is a change of pace in itself! I'm still in awe about how good my ears make me feel now! ?

 

@DeeDee It was a more moving experience than I expected (in a very good way), so when you go to have your ears pierced, take a friend to hold your hand and provide big hugs!!! I was lucky that I did and had a great piercing pro too; they both broke the no-hug Covid rules when I lost it! ?

 

@Jani I try to be super good on following aftercare instructions, and in this case I'm laughing at myself a little inside. I figure if I can do what I'm told to keep my ears healthy, I can move up to more complicated things like GRS. If I can't, well... ?

I loved getting my pierced. I love all the earrings I have especially the dangly ones. I feel just a little more myself.

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On 5/13/2021 at 5:01 PM, SheenaT said:

I loved getting my pierced. I love all the earrings I have especially the dangly ones. I feel just a little more myself.

Yesssss!!!  I love dangly earrings!!!  I wear small gauges or hoops normally, but dangly ones are so cool!!!!

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On 5/8/2021 at 5:32 PM, Kathy2020 said:

it got me thinking how wonderful that would be to do it too! ......... In my case, its given me a huge sense of relief along with a lot of joy!

Hi Kathy2020, I am so happy for you!  These are the things that help validate our feelings.  

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