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Kimber M

I am transgender living and dressing as female since I was 17.I knew at the age of 5 there was something not right with me.Growing up with two older brothers,I knew I wanted to be one of the girls.It was tough growing up.I became a ticking time bomb after that and my parents saw me go through it seeing me angry at times.As I got older,kept it in the closet not wanting to come out yet.This was in my early teens.At times,I brought home girl's clothes my female friends gave me keeping them under my bed secretly trying them on without my parents knowing.Age 16,it got even worse becoming really unhappy becoming depressed.Seen a therapist for this for a couple years.Then tragedy struck in my family.January of 1996,my oldest brother decided to get his motorcycle out and got in a wreck killed instantly and 3 weeks later my 2nd oldest brother was murdered in cold blood.The therapist I saw for the depression saw something else was wrong and my parents mentioned I was a ticking time bomb angry at times.Thinking about it,I knew it was time to come out and I could not stay in the closet about it.Finally in February of 1996 at the age of 17,I finally came out to my parents and I was nervous at first.It was my mom that asked what is wrong after I helped her put dishes away.Told her I needed to come out about something and she did get my dad to the living room.Finally looked at them and told them this: Mom and Dad,I am transgender wanting to live a new life as a girl.They wondered why I was a ticking time bomb angry at times.It took them a couple days to accept this and glad I am their own kid alive to this day.Didn't want to plan a 3rd funeral.Seen my therapist for my depression,referred me to a gender specialist that diagnosed me with gender dysphoria.I decided to live and dress as female.My parents were not ready for the next step at first,saying good bye to me as male and it took them a day to get over this.Final time as male was saying goodbye to my mom.Spent a weekend with a couple transwomen getting the special treatment.Ears pierced,hair and nails done including make up.Went shopping for my new clothes and shoes.Parents surprised me too,they went in my room and purged of my male wardrobe.Also found my stash of girl's clothes under the bed,they were a little unhappy about that keeping this behind their back.Good thing is I was honest to them.I was emotional seeing me as Kimber at the first time in the mirror and felt much happier.My parent's reaction seeing me as Kimber for the first time,it was emotional knowing their last son became their daughter.Both called me Kimber right away and love me as their daughter to this day.Adjusted very well too,one has been using the pronouns she,her and herself around me.I love my life as Kimber to this day and not going back.

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Lexi C

Hey Kimber

Wow tough life, but Dam girl you survived it. So Congrats and So Happy that your living your true self. and welcome to Transpulse 

Keep being you. Stay Safe, BE Proud and KICK ASS

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Kimber M

It was and living a great life with my partner Shawna of 24 years.She is a genetic female and supportive.Met Shawna as a roommate and turned into love.My life was tough and knew my parents didn't want to lose their final kid.Good thing is the killer of my 2nd youngest brother is a serving a life sentence without parole for 1st degree murder.

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@Kimber M First, welcome to the site. Second, I knew I was different when I 8, however there was no word for transgender in spoken public like today. Life in the 80's was very much different than today, and depending on where you lived was how free you were to speak on certain topics. I unfortunately grew up in the Bible Belt and talking about anything that didn't fit into their boxes got me beaten. Conversion Therapy was a real thing that a friend of mine was put through who eventually ran away from his parents. My dad beat on me for being feminine and associating more with women than with him and the men. He thought beating me would bring me around. It just forced me more to what I felt than what he thought I should be. It took me 44 years to finally get to be able to get on HRT, four more to have surgical procedures to start to align my body to my mind. Now at 48 I am starting to see and feel like the woman I should have been all along. Like they say it's never to late to live your true self. Well I am part of that. 

Hugs, 

Gina 

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Kimber M

I learned a lot from it,one is love yourself.My parents learned from it as well too.They learned it was not their fault.No regrets too on coming out as well

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