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My parents adjusting to the changes the first time


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Kimber M

My parents adjusting to the changes with me living and dressing as a girl for the first time was one step a time.I was 17 at the time finally happy as my true self.It was after during the weekend I was transformed into a girl saying good bye to my male life.They called me Kimber right and saw I was much happier.Dad,he asked me if I wanted to go back to my life as male and told him no.Mom,she saw me be like any 17 year old girl getting ready doing my make up and hair.When I came out after getting ready,went in the kitchen with my mom having breakfast ready.Said good morning Kimber and we hugged.Wore a nice black top with jeans that day and mom got to know me more first.She noticed things right away,one was getting used to wearing a bra the whole day.This was on a Sunday and surprised me,she got me a pair of 2 inch hoop earrings and loved them.I still have this pair of hoop earrings,so special to me.Also saw shopping for clothes was so much more fun for me.Dad,he saw me act feminine very well.A few was playing with my hair and earrings.Biggest thing was seeing my confidence and esteem back.Both saw a love of happening too,my love of shoes and started with heels.Still see I love shoes to this day.I even surprised them weekend after starting living and dressing as Kimber.Had to go to an aunt's wedding and watched me walk out wearing a black dress with off black pantyhose and a pair of 4 inch heels.Both said I looked good and it was positive after we got there.Both saw my other aunts and uncles saying I looked pretty meeting me as Kimber for the first time.My parents were asked if they were proud parents of a much happier daughter and they said yes.This aunt of mine that got married,told my parents don't ever give up on me.She even told me I came out a much better person and said she has a much happier niece.To this day,my parents don't regret losing an unhappy son that became a much happier daughter.

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Jackie C.

That is a lovely story @Kimber M. Thank you for sharing. I wish all of us could have parents as supportive as yours.

 

Hugs!

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Kimber M

It is and glad they didn't have to plan a 3rd funeral.Before this.My oldest brother died in a motorcycle accident and my 2nd youngest older brother was murdered in cold blood the same year.I was suffering so much long

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Susan R
On 5/12/2021 at 5:56 PM, Kimber M said:

To this day,my parents don't regret losing an unhappy son that became a much happier daughter.

Kimber, I agree with Jackie, your parents were very accepting and supportive. Especially given that society was so different and so much less accepting back 25 years ago. Your parents loved the real YOU so much. It is a wonderful story.

 

Life would’ve been so much easier for many of us here if our parents could embrace our real identities. I am so glad yours embraced and accepted you so unconditionally. It sounds like an amazing experience.

 

I’m so sorry to hear that you had lost two siblings within a year back then. That must have been such a difficult period of your life. I can’t even imagine experiencing that kind of loss in such a short time period. We all have different crosses to bear. No journey through life is an easy one.

 

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Susan RūüĆ∑

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7 hours ago, Susan R said:

Kimber, I agree with Jackie, your parents were very accepting and supportive. Especially given that society was so different and so much less accepting back 25 years ago. Your parents loved the real YOU so much. It is a wonderful story.

 

Life would’ve been so much easier for many of us here if our parents could embrace our real identities. I am so glad yours embraced and accepted you so unconditionally. It sounds like an amazing experience.

 

I’m so sorry to hear that you had lost two siblings within a year back then. That must have been such a difficult period of your life. I can’t even imagine experiencing that kind of loss in such a short time period. We all have different crosses to bear. No journey through life is an easy one.

 

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Susan RūüĆ∑

It was difficult losing them both.Good thing is the man whom murdered my 2nd older brother is serving a life sentence without parole.My oldest brother,loved doing thing he should of never done,My mom admits she has a daughter now that she always wanted.When I was diagnosed with gender dysphoria at age 17,said it was so bad I couldn't go through it anymore.

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On 5/13/2021 at 9:56 AM, Kimber M said:

To this day,my parents don't regret losing an unhappy son that became a much happier daughter.

That is such an inspiring story, Kimber.¬† Thank you so much for sharing‚Ě£ÔłŹ

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