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Hi, My name is Matt, I am 31 years old, AMAB and identify as genderfluid. A little about me: I live in rural Herefordshire, UK, I came out publicly a few months back and have had very mixed responses off people, as a result I have lost a lot of friends and people i believed cared about me. I am going into my second year of a degree studying counselling with a view to starting an LGBTQ+ specific counselling service in this area as the support available locally is horrifying, I am also a single parent to a fantastic little 6 year old, he is my life. I'm looking forward to hearing others experiences surrounding their gender identity, as well as any thoughts people may have with regards to the service i am hoping to set up. As well as making like minded friends and hopefully finding some support, 

 

Much love to you all, thank you for having me

Matt 

xxxxxx

 

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Welcome Matt, you will be made most welcome here I know!

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@mattb89 welcome. Sorry for the response from friends but know you many new friends here and I am so happy you are studying counselling. There is a sire need in all parts of the world and being able to help in that profession will be rewarding not only to you but to so many.

 

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Thank you all for a lovely welcome :) i look forward to getting to know everyone better when i can, got a bit distracted tonight fixing a guitar, had intended to trawl the forums properly but lost track of time! Over the next few days i will definitely be around :)❤️ 

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@mattb89welcome to the group! I hope you feel welcome here! Thank you for sharing a bit of your story with us. We're glad to have you! ❤️

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Welcome Matt! Glad you're here. I think you'll find the support & advice here helpful; I know I have. Your career choice sounds wonderful & rewarding. Raising a six year old can be a career in itself. I find the joy of nurturing children an affirmation of my femme. 

 

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Hi Matt, welcome.

I also lost friends when coming out, and realised they where the kind of people that expected something of me and needed me to conform to their idea of who I was, instead of appreciating me. Since then I've made some new friends with whom I can be myself freely and be accepted for who I am, and as a result our frienship is closer, more authentic and freeing. You'll find your people too.

Your career choice is wonderful. Cheering you on!

Looking forward to hearing more about you

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Hi Matt, pleased to meet you. :) There is a definite shortage of accreddited accessible counsellors in the UK, so it is a good path to choose.

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Hi Matt!  nice to meet you and, Welcome!

I think you will find this Forum and the Members to be a great community for support and sharing experiences and encouragement.  I know I have.

18 hours ago, mattb89 said:

I am going into my second year of a degree studying counselling with a view to starting an LGBTQ+ specific counselling service

That is FANTASTIC that you are using your life to help others in our community.  Gender Therapy has been extremely important for me and I understand what an essential service it is for everybody who struggles in society. 

Wishing you all the best in your journey and endeavors.  Deep breaths ... one step at a time

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