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Shay

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On Monday I saw the most beautiful 🌈 the day before I was to go to court for legal name change. I know God was giving approval. Yesterday I had lunch with my oldest friend and wife and told them my new name. I noticed a trans woman waitress and stopped to say hi as I was leaving and she said she overheard me telling them and congratulated me. This has been one of the most joyful weeks of my life. Many roadblocks ahead but I'm reinforced and refreshed and will take it any way I can't.

Heather Michelle Shay .....

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Jackie C.

Well as one gorgeous woman to another, welcome to the world Heather Michelle Shay.

 

The fun part is when somebody sees your full name and says something like, "That's a beautiful name."

 

What do you say?

 

"Thanks! I picked it out myself!"

 

Hugs!

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Charlize

Enjoy your new name Heather Michelle Shay!  Such a big step leads to many others and soon you will know anything in the mailbox with his name is simply junk mail.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

The fun part is when somebody sees your full name and says something like, "That's a beautiful name."

 

What do you say?

 

"Thanks! I picked it out myself!"

Isn't that the best part of the whole experience, we get to take the compliment personally instead of handing the credit to someone else. Well, since I adopted the name my parents chose for a female, I still don't take full credit, but I still like it, so meh.

 

Congratulations Heather Michelle Shay! I know that the light you have become will be carried in the future by things and good that you will bring into this world.

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What a nice day you had!  Congratulations.

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Billie75B
4 hours ago, Shay said:

Heather Michelle Shay

@Shay A big ole CONGRATS on the name change, what a accomplishment I am so happy for you. 

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Kathy2020

Hello Heather Michelle Shay, its so nice to meet you! 😊

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@Kathy2020 same here. I love your suggestion about birthday, affirmation, confirmation. 

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So happy for you Heather.  Each time a step is made forward, is like a day we wish the happiness would last forever. 
 

Janae

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Susan R
17 hours ago, Shay said:

On Monday I saw the most beautiful 🌈 the day before I was to go to court for legal name change. I know God was giving approval.

I am so happy for you Heather! God is looking down on you and is smiling big.😊

 

Your Friend,

Susan R🌷

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