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Re-Birthday? New Birthday? Real Birthday?


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I know in the last 2 weeks 2 of us legally changed our names. Do you consider that day your NEW birthday? a Re-Birthday? I know it can't JUST be A day. So what is the term we can enjoy using?

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Personally, no. It was a good day. I had a lot of euphoria that day and I see it as one of my landmark achievements towards becoming my real self. I don't consider it something I need to celebrate though. I look at HRT and my GCS the same way. That would give me four birthdays a year. Who has time to keep track of all that?

 

It was awesome. I'm happy I did it and I have a cool story when people ask me how it went, but it's not on the same level as, say, my anniversary.

 

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@Jackie C. but 4 birthdays would give you lots more presents.....

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1 hour ago, Shay said:

@Jackie C. but 4 birthdays would give you lots more presents.....

 

I'm lucky if people remember my first birthday. It passed uneventfully and without remark this year. Just as well, I'm done with getting older. I'm going to age backwards from here on out.

 

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@Shay ROFL ...

 

I talked it over with my wife and got the idea from someone else of celebrating it. I don't think it will be something that I celebrate every year with everyone, but celebrating the name change once sounded like a good idea. Also it is honestly partially just a reason to get people together and celebrate new beginnings. At least that is my thoughts on it. I don't want anybody to bring me anything, except positive vibes and good feelings, as that is the best thing anybody can give me to be honest.

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@AmberM your wisdom wins out - although 4 day of presents still sounds like a good like after what we folks go through.................

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Honestly I have a hard time receiving presents, because if I wanted something I would just go and get it. So the idea of just getting friends and family together to celebrate the new beginning will mean more than any physical memento could offer. In the end the most precious things to me are good memories, playing games, eating food, and just having good conversations would mean so much to me.

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1 hour ago, AmberM said:

In the end the most precious things to me are good memories, playing games, eating food, and just having good conversations would mean so much to me.

 

No backrubs? I would totally go for four birthdays (or more! Why not celebrate FFS or BA?) if it meant happy birthday backrubs.

 

** (I so need a good massage therapist in my life) **

 

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@Jackie C. I am all over my wife doing the back massages, but other people I haven't able to do that yet. I do want to use the perk of my one therapist. Apparently as a client, I get a discount with  a massage therapist that she is linked with. I should totally use that once we go back to in person appointments, try to time it right after therapy.

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1 hour ago, AmberM said:

@Jackie C. I am all over my wife doing the back massages, but other people I haven't able to do that yet. I do want to use the perk of my one therapist. Apparently as a client, I get a discount with  a massage therapist that she is linked with. I should totally use that once we go back to in person appointments, try to time it right after therapy.

 

Oh, color me jealous. I am definitely talking to my therapist about perks. ❤️

 

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@AmberM I understand not getting presents - I usually buy things I want - but back rubs - that's another kettle of fish entirely. My daughter is a certified massage therapist but she ain't cheap and being half Polish I go for cheap. Heck when I go for a flu shot, they say it's free so I get back in line and get a second one.

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1 hour ago, Shay said:

Heck when I go for a flu shot, they say it's free so I get back in line and get a second one.

 

I hope you waited, oh, four weeks in between. You wouldn't want them to catch you double-dipping.

 

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2 hours ago, Shay said:

...but 4 birthdays would give you lots more presents...

 

1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

I would totally go for four birthdays... if it meant happy birthday backrubs!

I'm so glad we are working through the positive side of having multiple birthdays in this thread because I am a big supporter of it too!!! ? Presents don't have to come in a box either (except from my sister who thinks its a federal law); a nice dinner out, a spa or massage day, a mani-pedi with my bff, or just getting some positive support from my family & friends are all great gifts! ?

 

Getting back to the original topic though... I've been thinking a bit lately about this very topic because I am less than two days away from beginning HRT and starting to get the paperwork sorted out for my name change. I think its all up to the individual, but I'm leaning toward my name change day being my "new" birthday, HRT being my affirmation day, and SRS being my confirmation day. If I can plan things right and have my court hearing for name change on my current birthday though, that would be ideal! I definitely see name change day being super important because that's when you become you legally to everyone no matter what, just like the moment someone put a name to paper when we were fresh out of the box! ?

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1 hour ago, AmberM said:

Honestly I have a hard time receiving presents

Not me. Having adult children flips the table a bit. Not only do I get presents, I require them...kinda like tribute. In fact, I am so ruthless, I even implemented a 100 dollar buy in threshold.

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Good conversation - I like the birthday, affirmation and confirmation day concept - no reason we can't mark those days to be extra kind and special to yourself even if no one else is forced to give presents.

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All together now .........Happy rebirth day to you,  Happy rebirth day to you,  Happy rebirth day dear Shay Heather Michelle,  Happy rebirth day to youuuuuu.????? now blow out the candles?.  

Cake please!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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1 hour ago, MelanieTamara said:

Having adult children flips the table a bit. Not only do I get presents, I require them...kinda like tribute. In fact, I am so ruthless, I even implemented a 100 dollar buy in threshold.

This is the best thing I have heard all day! I'm in!!! ?

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Who is making the cake?  My baking skills are very sub-par.

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1 hour ago, Shay said:

Who is making the cake?  My baking skills are very sub-par.

 

I can bake...

 

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Hurray!!!!! Thank you.

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I haven’t yet decided if I’m changing my name so I don’t get one of these. But I do “celebrate” the day of starting HRT and I think that’s gonna be my re-birthday for now. 

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Re-birthday for name change? I can behind that. With my Government birthday in January and my HRT start date in December I could really use a Summer birthday.

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