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Nikki-C

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I am almost too embarrassed to even ask these questions, but I honestly and truly would appreciate input from anyone.  My issue is quite simple. Earrings.  They are uncomfortable after years of trying to become accustomed to them,they either hurt my earlobes or they fall off, or both.  I am not sure if ear piercing is a solution at my age, but that does bring to mind the question: How old is too old to get both earlobes pierced?   Next, what is a good online source of good quality earrings for non-pierced and pierced ears that you girls recommend?  Of course good quality == premium price, but any recommendations for reasonably priced earrings that don't fall apart or feel as if alligator clips are attached to your earlobes? TIA... Nikki

 

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3 hours ago, Nikki-C said:

They are uncomfortable after years of trying to become accustomed to them,they either hurt my earlobes or they fall off, or both.

Hi Nikki-C,

 

Hmmm. I have had mine for 18 months and have had no issues like this. I did have a few early infections (first month) due to the clasps being to tight on the post though. I am no expert by any means so take that into account. I don’t wear dangling earrings or hoops as much as some girls but I have had no issues with pain or discomfort since checking for the following things. 

 

Are they on perhaps a little too tight? This makes all the difference. Early after getting mine pierced, I had issues wearing them too tight. I prefer the earrings that click when you are putting on the post backer as you’re putting them on. Not all do that I understand but I wonder if that may be an issue. Are you cleaning your lobes and ear rings regularly? If not, they can become irritated very easily. Sometimes makeup or hair product get inside the piercing and can lead to infection. As far as the earrings falling off…I have not had an issue but I know it’s a common thing. You can also buy those clear rubber backers and double up on the earring posts if it’s common for you.
 

3 hours ago, Nikki-C said:

How old is too old to get both earlobes pierced?

You can get earlobes pierced at any age…it’s a matter of preference.

 

3 hours ago, Nikki-C said:

Next, what is a good online source of good quality earrings for non-pierced and pierced ears that you girls recommend?

I can’t give you a source for that as I haven’t worn those type of earrings in 35 years. But back in those days, I can remember one things about them. After an hour…they hurt like you know what. I always had to take them out on a long evening out every couple hours to get some momentary relief. Maybe I’m pain intolerant gal but I absolutely hated them. They would sometimes give me headaches if I wore them too long. After taking them out, the headache would soon disappear. Needless to say, this is why I chose to get pierced ears..lol?

 

Best of Luck,

Susan R?

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3 hours ago, Susan R said:

Are you cleaning your lobes and ear rings regularly? If not, they can become irritated very easily. Sometimes makeup or hair product get inside the piercing and can lead to infection. As far as the earrings falling off…I have not had an issue but I know it’s a common thing. You can also buy those clear rubber backers and double up on the earring posts if it’s common for you.

 

Susan, thank you so much for your reply.  I think that  my post was not as clear and concise as it should have been.  See, due to the earring discomfort I have been experiencing, I was thinking about the possibility of piercing, but wasn't sure if doing so would be encouraged or not in older women such as myself.   However, your post does give me some clear clues as to potential things to watch for when dealing with piercing earrings. 

 

I love dangling and/or hoop earrings.  However, a long time ago, I knew a girl who was wearing dangling, sparkling earrings who wished they were not pierced when her cat decided to play with one of them.  The kitty's paw ended up getting all tangled up with it.   I witnessed the event and it was horrific then, and as well as when I recall the horrid incident.  Ouch.

  

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I can’t give you a source for that as I haven’t worn those type of earrings in 35 years. But back in those days, I can remember one things about them. After an hour…they hurt like you know what. I always had to take them out on a long evening out every couple hours to get some momentary relief. Maybe I’m pain intolerant gal but I absolutely hated them. They would sometimes give me headaches if I wore them too long. After taking them out, the headache would soon disappear. Needless to say, this is why I chose to get pierced ears..lol

 

Yes,  you are spot-on as to what is happening to me as well, hence my reason for asking about earlobe piercing.  Yes, often times my entire ear will throb in pain. So its not just you.  Non pierced earrings are like wearing alligator clips on your earlobes ?  Susan, please accept my apologies for my post not being more clearer.  I thought that people had the ability to know what I meant to write verses what I actually wrote.  ? Now I know better...  LOL ? 

 

Thanks Again,

Nikki

 

 

 

 

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Hi Nikki

I don't think age would even be a factor in ear piercing.

Just keep them clean while they are healing and you should be fine.

 

I have had one ear pierced for close to 50yrs, and both now.

It does give the option of wearing simple posts when anything dangly would be a problem.  I wear simple studs most of the time.  I think they would be kitty-proof LOL.   (I can see where that could be traumatic)

 

Personally, I much prefer the piercings to clamping something painfuly to any part of my body.

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I got my ears pierced 10 years ago at 63.  I was tired of either loosing an earring or suffering the pain of a very tight clamp.  As i remember even tight clamping wasn't terribly effective.  I mostly wear white gold hoops which don't cause an elergic  reaction and if pulled come apart easily without damage.  I'm very happy i made this decision.  Clip on's belong in the S+ M world as far as i'm concerned.  

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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I got my ears pierced 5 years ago, at age 61.  The only issue I had with them was that one piercing closed up (perhaps a bit of an infection?) enough that I couldn't use it.  I had had them done at a hair salon that used a piercing gun. 

 

I went back to a proper piercing studio to get that ear re-pierced.  It was a scary-looking place, all goth, as was the guy working there, covered in tattoos.  However, he was absolutely scrupulous about cleanliness.  He found the hole that was closed, re-opened it, then enlarged both holes.  He was much more professional than the hair salon was, and used the proper tools.  I would never recommend a piercing gun.

 

I have had no trouble with them since then.  I always have earrings in them, except in bed, even when I am at home.  Simple silver ball studs at home, because I like the look of them in the mirror, and fancier stuff when I go out.  I like dangly earrings, but I am finding I am wearing studs a lot more with the pandemic and mask requirements.

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2 hours ago, Charlize said:

Clip on's belong in the S+ M world as far as i'm concerned.  

I remember playing around with my mom's a little as a kid (clue?).  It was not real pleasant.  At the time I didn't even know about piercings.   

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Nikki,

 

I still wear clip on earrings.  My favorite are "Comfort Clip" earrings made by Anne Klein.  These earrings, even the dangling ones, are quite comfortable (as the name implies).  I have been quite pleased with them.  I do have other clip on earrings that are extremely painful, but I hardly ever wear them any more.  

 

I think you can find the Anne Klein brand online, but I buy mine at Macy's department store.  I also have a pair of large hoop earrings that are clip on and these are the Macy's brand "INC."  They are super comfy as well and when I wear them, they look like pierced earrings.  You might want to give these brands a try until you decide to get your ears pierced.  Good luck!

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A long time ago I used to have magnetic studs.  Like others mentioned, after a couple hours they hurt.

 

I now have them pierced at 14g, which is body jewelry size.  20g is the size of normal earrings (the higher the number, the smaller the size).  I wear either barbells which look like normal silver studs from the front, or hinged rings that are super easy in/out.

 

Go get them pierced.  You won't regret it.

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I got my ears pierced on 31-May-2022 and have had some troubles.  The piercing of my left ear was easy, but something went wrong on my right ear (lots of pain).   My right ear piercing continues to be problematic.   I always have difficulty putting on an earring and have drawn blood several times, it also hurts to take off the earring.  Just when I think it's getting better, things go south again for the right ear.

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It seemingly took years for my ears to heal.  it turned out that i was allergic to most posts so today i almost always use gold.

I still find when i wear a pair i love with stainless posts etc that i have a reaction if i keep them in too long.

Good luck with it....i remembervthe frustration.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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2 hours ago, Katie23 said:

You may be better off pulling the earring, leaving it out until it heals, and then trying again later. 

I did have to do this once.

I have a friend who had a lot of trouble with one ear.  She has a lot of piercings.

She went with me to get a stud in my nose recently.  So far it's doing fine - once I learned not to scrub it when washing my face!  (She got a 3rd hoop in her nose, and another piercing in her ear.)

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20 minutes ago, Ivy said:

So far it's doing fine - once I learned not to scrub it when washing my face!  

That's a learning curve that is sharp.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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I got my ears pierced a couple years ago. I not only love the look of having them done and but they make me feel cute, that's what I like the most. 

 

 

Desi

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On 8/14/2021 at 8:52 AM, Charlize said:

 Clip on's belong in the S+ M world as far as i'm concerned.  

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

This comment made me laugh out loud. How true it is!!! I love to wear hoops but have not had my ears pierced, yet, so I end up with indentations and sore ear lobes after a few hours.

 

I'm going to try the Anne Klein Comfort Clips but will probably end up getting my ears pierced. My problem is that one of my ears is lower to the point where it's noticeable so I'm not sure how they'd align the piercings.

 

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I've been trying to decide if I should get both ears pierced. I had one done when I was younger but stopped wearing the stud.

I find that the clip ons are brutally painful. 

After reading through all of your comments, I am going to go for it. 

Thanks to all of you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Pierced ears are the way to go.  The actual piercing is quick and not that bad as you already know.

I remember trying my mother's clip-ons as a kid (out of "curiosity" of course).  It was very unpleasant.  Heck, I even have a stud in my nose these days.

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@Ivy, you ew so right. Pierced is the way to go. In fact, I don't remember when i last even saw a pair of clip-ons anywhere. You're braver than me, though. No nose stud yet. 😊

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Well, ladies, this 67 year old grandmother is scheduled to get her ears pierced this coming Monday. I'm tired of the clip-ons and spring loaded earrings.  My wife is going along - thinks she might want to get a second piercing done on her earlobes and wants to check out the piercer. I'm going to a tattoo/piercing shop as opposed to someplace like Claire's. Wish me luck!!! I can't wait!!!!

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1 hour ago, April Marie said:

Well, ladies, this 67 year old grandmother is scheduled to get her ears pierced this coming Monday. I'm tired of the clip-ons and spring loaded earrings.  My wife is going along - thinks she might want to get a second piercing done on her earlobes and wants to check out the piercer. I'm going to a tattoo/piercing shop as opposed to someplace like Claire's. Wish me luck!!! I can't wait!!!!

Good Luck, April! You're gonna love having pierced ears. 

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30 minutes ago, Marcie Jensen said:

Good Luck, April! You're gonna love having pierced ears. 

Thanks, Marcie!!!! I am so excited. I know I'm going to start with studs but I love wearing big hoops and can't wait to wear real ones!!!!

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4 hours ago, April Marie said:

I'm going to a tattoo/piercing shop as opposed to someplace like Claire's.

Good choice.  I got mine done initially at a hairdresser that used a piercing gun.  I had to go back and get them re-done at a piercing/tattoo place.  The dude looked scary, but he was scrupulous about cleanliness and did an excellent job.

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I recently went to a local body piercer for my right ear. My left ear was pierced in Europe when I was 17. My parents were thrilled. I am wearing a cute pair of onyx studs. 

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Nikki 

I am currently using clip-on I get from Amazon or qvc...my wax girl wears only clip-on too...but I'm considering Claire's for piercings soon. they look like what I've always wanted, n if you buy the special cleaner, they say you only need to wear them 3 weeks vs 6 without taking them out. I haven't told mom yet so planning on taking mine out when I visit her, though hormones will be an issue. laughs

good luck dear

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