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Hi everybody, my name is CJ and I've been in the process of transitioning for a few years now. I'm a very introverted and shy person, so it's against my nature to reveal super personal things about myself, can you imagine how weird it was to come out?? I used to tremble just thinking about it. But when I finally did, I felt about 100 pounds lighter. And lo and behold! The reactions were about 90% positive. And the people who could not deal with me as who I truly am, I made the painful choice not to deal with them either. Thankfully, it was no one in my close circle of family and friends. But I find the more love and respect I have for myself, the better able I am to deal with people who do not share that kind of respect for me.

 

I've had one partial face surgery with Dr. Ley, who did great. I have always hated my looks though, and want more fat in my cheeks and lips and different hair. I don't want to look anything like that other guy before I transitioned!! During the pandemic I was online shopping almost everyday -- yikes! But I'm developing my style as I go. I think I like classic and chic, but I need to lose the pandemic pounds to pull that of, LOL.

 

The absolute highlight of my transition so far has been my VOICE ?I tried a bunch of videos and apps in the beginning, which didn't work at all but just when I was about to give up, I found my voice teacher, Nina, who has an online "Female Voice club" course that saved my life (figuratively and perhaps literally...I was deeply depressed, and swallowing more pills than I care to admit)

 

Now at least I can say that I fully pass in that one area and it's my north star. If I could make my LOW male voice into a female voice by finding the right coach and the right lessons, I can do the same with finding the outfits that are right for me, the right electrologist (with patience for my cringing) and the right surgeries. ?

So my motto has become, "PERSIST. DON'T GIVE UP."  I'm now searching for someone to inject fat into my hands, they still look a little masculine and hard.

 

The last thing I wish to say is that I would not be where I am without the support of the beautiful sisters in my support groups and online forums. Since the pandemic I've come to rely on online comraderie and I appreciate each and every one of you who reads this and supports me, and I am here to support all of you as well.

 

Oh, and I love to dance!! ?

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Hi CJP. This is a great place filled fantasic people. They've help me so much in the year that I've been here. I tend to stay in my own little corner of the forum but I look forward see you around.

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@CJP welcome I think you'll find wonder people and support and friendship here. Welcome to the oasis.

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10 hours ago, CJP said:

The absolute highlight of my transition so far has been my VOICE ?I tried a bunch of videos and apps in the beginning, which didn't work at all but just when I was about to give up, I found my voice teacher, Nina, who has an online "Female Voice club" course that saved my life (figuratively and perhaps literally...I was deeply depressed, and swallowing more pills than I care to admit)

 

Oh hey, I went with Nina too! Fantastic program. I still revisit the lessons from time to time. I finished up about the time I was healing from my GCS.

 

So yeah! Welcome to Transpulse! We're glad you're here!

 

Hugs!

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Welcome CJ! Glad your transition is flowing along. My voice is something I'm working on, I may have to visit Nina, thanks. Ditto the need for loving support, advice & acceptance. I have found them all here & in a local support group.

 

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Delcina

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, CJ!  Thanks for sharing a bit about your transition so far.  It sounds like you're really doing well.  Big Congrats on feminizing your voice; that is one of the most difficult things to master during transition.  Please have a look around these forums and post wherever you like.  We'll be here to support you.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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13 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

Oh hey, I went with Nina too! Fantastic program. I still revisit the lessons from time to time. I finished up about the time I was healing from my GCS.

 

So yeah! Welcome to Transpulse! We're glad you're here!

 

Hugs!

I revisit the lessons too. No matter how much progress I make, it always helps to have a refresher. Glad I downloaded all the lessons ?

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9 hours ago, Delcina B said:

Welcome CJ! Glad your transition is flowing along. My voice is something I'm working on, I may have to visit Nina, thanks. Ditto the need for loving support, advice & acceptance. I have found them all here & in a local support group.

 

Hugs!

Delcina

Yes, local support groups are like groups of angels!! And this online forum seems likewise. If you go with Nina's program, I think you will love it. It's the only one (out of many) that changed my voice 100% to where I wanted it. www.femalevoiceclub.com    You can do it ?

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8 hours ago, Carolyn Marie said:

Welcome to Trans Pulse, CJ!  Thanks for sharing a bit about your transition so far.  It sounds like you're really doing well.  Big Congrats on feminizing your voice; that is one of the most difficult things to master during transition.  Please have a look around these forums and post wherever you like.  We'll be here to support you.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

Thank you for your kind words. I'm so happy to be here. I love this forum already.

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13 hours ago, Shay said:

@CJP welcome I think you'll find wonder people and support and friendship here. Welcome to the oasis.

I think so too, thank you so much for taking the time to respond. Hugs! ?

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On 8/20/2021 at 5:56 PM, CJP said:

I've come to rely on online comraderie and I appreciate each and every one of you who reads this and supports me, and I am here to support all of you as well.

Welcome CJP, Well stated! I like to give credit where credit is due. Without the support here on Transgender Pulse and at home, there is likely no way I would’ve been able to transition. Building confidence and believing you can do it despite the odds starts with those who have come before us and those who believe we can succeed.

 

Thank you for sharing some of your story. I hope to read more about you here when you have time and if you are willing.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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On 8/21/2021 at 7:22 PM, Delcina B said:

@CJP Thank you for the link! 

 

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Delcina


If you sign up, let me know if you want some moral support ?

 

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On 8/21/2021 at 8:49 PM, Susan R said:

Welcome CJP, Well stated! I like to give credit where credit is due. Without the support here on Transgender Pulse and at home, there is likely no way I would’ve been able to transition. Building confidence and believing you can do it despite the odds starts with those who have come before us and those who believe we can succeed.

 

Thank you for sharing some of your story. I hope to read more about you here when you have time and if you are willing.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

I feel the exact same way! One of the greatest gifts I've been given as part of my transition is this tribe of new sisters!!! I never believed I could pull this transition off successfully, I had to borrow their belief. Now I'm ready to pay it forward. Nice to meet you!

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21 hours ago, CJP said:

I never believed I could pull this transition off successfully, I had to borrow their belief. Now I'm ready to pay it forward. Nice to meet you!

I’m glad you’re able to work through the highs and lows of transition. That’s the hardest part and it does slowly become less “top of mind” as time moves forward. It seemed early on that every moment of my life was concentrated on my transition and all that it entails. Part of that was necessary to keep my focus on the endgame but eventually it will be a smaller facet of my daily life…I hope. Like you, I am still in the thick of it all trying to get certain milestones completed. It takes time…especially in this times.

 

Susan R?

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